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To Dye DDs hair purple?

84 replies

shinynewnamechange · 01/04/2015 23:57

DD1 wants her hair purple. She's asked a lot. DD2 copying wants her hair blue.

They are 5 and 2.

I keep saying no but, well, I'm not sure why I'm saying no. It's not like they are asking for a face full of makeup and a boob job. She isn't being influenced by style or anything, she just really really wants purple hair like a lady she saw on the street.

So WIBU to dye her hair purple for fun?

OP posts:
farewellfigure · 02/04/2015 12:20

Oh boy do I want some hair chalks right NOW. I'd never heard of them before. Do they work on mouse brown? I want a plait in three colours. Amazing. I could give myself bunny ear pink pigtails for Easter!

I'd definitely use hair chalk on a 5yr old for a bit of Easter fun, but wouldn't dye their hair. No way. I wonder if I can persuade DS(7) to let me hair chalk his blonde curls?

StrawberryTot · 02/04/2015 12:24

Farewell, check this video out on hair chalking :)

glittertits · 02/04/2015 12:29

Will she be getting her hair bleached at 12 if she wants to go blond?

Is 12 really that unusual? I first dyed/bleached my hair at 12 in 1995.

It wasn't unusual at all amongst my friends. Secondary school/12+ became fair hair game. We all wanted to be Baby Spice.

StrawberryTot · 02/04/2015 12:39

Glittertits it was all the rage when I was that age as Ginger Spice had the bleach blonde front bits Grin

MmeGuillotine · 02/04/2015 12:49

I first had my hair bleached when I was in my first year of secondary school. I was getting bullied because of my very red hair (amongst other things to be fair to the bullies) so my grandmother basically frogmarched me to the hairdressers and got them to 'disguise' it by giving me really thick highlights. It didn't stop the bullying. Grin

NobodyLivesHere · 02/04/2015 12:59

It's hair. It's dead stuff that grows out of your head. If it gets damaged, you chop it off. It grows back. People need to calm down. Easter Hmm

NobodyLivesHere · 02/04/2015 13:01

And I've been dying my hair since I was 12. I'm yet to ever go bald from it. Though chemo made me bald and it just grew back after, so I think a bit of manic panic isnt going to end the world.

KellyElly · 02/04/2015 13:07

It's hair. It's dead stuff that grows out of your head. If it gets damaged, you chop it off. It grows back. People need to calm down. So people need to calm down because they do not have the same lax views on dying young childrens hair as you do. I don't know anyone IRL who would even entertain the idea for such a young child. With hair chalk, clip in extentions and wigs there is no need. If you think people are so hysterical, try taking a fice year old to a reputable salon and asking them to dye there hair. They would look at you like this Shock

ladyrosy · 02/04/2015 13:09

Yup oddfodd, sun in!

My mum is really good mumsnet fodder, due to her really poor judgement about so many things.

To be fair, my gran dyed my mum's hair ginger when she was a little girl, so I guess she was just repeating what she learned is "normal".

Sirzy · 02/04/2015 13:10

That hair grows out of the scalp though. Why would you put such strong chemicals on the scalp of a young child?

MustBeLoopy390 · 02/04/2015 13:17

It may not make you bald Nobody, but it can cause brittleness, snapping, irritation of the scalp etc... IMO it's not worth thinking about ever messing with a kids hair

D0oinMeCleanin · 02/04/2015 13:17

Hair dye, when done properly using a brush applicator should not go near your scalp.

I'm not saying it's the best idea OP has ever had and I wouldn't dye the hair of a child so young, but it's hardly child abuse and a lot of the reactions on here are OTT.

You should always patch test dye and it shouldn't really touch your scalp. If OP did it properly there'd be no danger of her child having anything but fun with her mum.

KellyElly · 02/04/2015 13:34

Taking away the chemical factor and damage to the hair, why can't kids just be kids and have some stuff to look forward to as part of growing up? If they're allowed to do everything at such a young age, where the fun of experimenting with hair dye with their mates at 12/13 and botching it and dying their scapls in the process Grin. It seems like some parents are more focussed on being a friend to their child, rather than a parent and just saying no sometimes.

Gottagetmoving · 02/04/2015 14:20

What KellyElly said.

Exactly, Be a parent not a friend.

Purplepixiedust · 02/04/2015 14:25

YABU. Hair dye is full of chemicals and crap. I have just dyed mine red. The pack said not suitable for under 16s. If my 8 yo pushed for blue hair at some point (it has been mentioned and I am a bad influence), it will be occasional spray colour or chalks in school hold only.

Purplepixiedust · 02/04/2015 14:26

That should read school hols!

Joyfulleastersquad · 02/04/2015 14:28

I wouldn't let my df dye her 'ginger' hair black when she was a 14. I was the devil.

Now she has beautiful long auburn hair that hairdressers always fuss and remark about. Mamma knows best!

Bibasbottom · 02/04/2015 14:56

I have dyed my children's hair multiple times and they are not yet at school.

It looks great, they love it and so do I!

Go for it!

Easter Grin
Stinkylinky · 02/04/2015 15:11

Hair dye on a 5 and 2 yo!? No way!

I would stick to hair chalks or clip in extensions

Hidingmyidentity · 02/04/2015 15:18

My mum had my hair permed when I was a child, a real old fashioned job like the Queen has. I still haven't forgiven her.

Stealthsquiggle · 02/04/2015 15:33

My 8yo DD loves hair chalk. Because it persists in her (blond) hair for a few washes I only let her have it in the holidays, but she will probably have blue streaks for most of the holiday, unless I get her some more colours for Easter just to wind DS up because he thinks it looks stupid (he's 12. He thinks everything looks stupid ATM Hmm)

Stealthsquiggle · 02/04/2015 15:37

..or I might try pastels seeing as I have a set and sistersofpercy has pointed out that they are in fact the same thing. Rainbow hair and very annoyed 12yo here we come Grin

Original poster
shinynewnamechange · 02/04/2015 15:42

I am their mum not their friend. I say no loads, I even sometimes use "because I said so" Grin

But but but she'd love it (not doing the 2yo). Ok I will accept the chemicals argument as valid. Not accepting "because she's 5" it's just not an actual reason is it? It's not the same as heels and makeup it's just fun stuff like facepaint or glitter tattoos.

I'm now tempted to do it just to prompt some pearl clutching Wink

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2fat4that · 02/04/2015 15:48

Dd aged 14 wants her hair died purple in the summer holidays. I don't want to pay hairdresser prices, but want her to be safe ... trying to find the safest dye I can use ...

UniS · 02/04/2015 15:55

DS has had occasional coloured hair for parties since he was 2. I use a spray on wash out colour.

Used food colour once but it was a devil to wash out.