To be terrified?

[Beth2511]

So at 15 weeks old DD somehow managed to roll off the bed, wasn't expecting it in the slightest as not yet 4 months and she's only done it once since. I think she pushed herself off me and just went. So my first reaction was to call Dr who advised to keep an eye on her.

Since then evil MIL who we have had a massive falling out with has reported me to social services saying it was not an accident, that shes dirty and not looked after.

At the dr today they've told me i've been reported and to expect contact andi'm terrified.

She is thriving and happy and always immaculate. Heartbroken :(

Just continue as normal. When they visit tell them that your mother in law has a grudge against you

Wow! I am guessing there is a lot of back story between you and your MIL.But how evil to make a malicious report like that.Not only terribly distressing for you but takes a social worker away from where they are really needed to deal with her rubbish.
Don't worry I am sure they are used to malicious allegations, they will see in a trice that all is well.

Yes just carry on as normal.

I've never met a kid who didn't fall off the bed at some point. It's like a rite of passage or something.

And keep the NC with the mil.

Is your baby well fed and nourished.?
Clean?
Is your house clean and tidy?
Are you clean and tidy?

If yes to those questions then you have nothing to worry about from ss.

So your DD is OK?

All my DC had similar falls in their first year. and I'm a perfect mother

As others have said, just carry on as normal, be nice and open with SS when/if they call.

And don't tell your MIL anything ever.

Your MIL us a bitch. This is awful but it will be alright

My daughter has fallen of the bed more than once.
How nasty of your mother in law. Let social services come round they will see you are doing a good job and leave you alone.

Yes carry on as normal and see a solicitor about accusations of slander or such to frighten the cow off further interference.

What does your dh say?

Be upfront with ss and tell them the whole situation. Log any problems or contact she makes with the police. Be proactive.

I think all of mine fell off the bed at some stage.

Has your child a health visitor? Do you know your GP well? They will have records too that may support you.

Omg if my MIL rang SS every time DS fell over from around your DDs age until now we'd all be in big trouble.

What's wrong with her? Small people fall over / off things all the time, it's how they learn about the world.

I can't imagine SS will have you at the top of their list, in fact your MIL should take a moment to think about the children that really need some help.

Ss are very good at identifying malicious reports, please don't worry.

How did your MIL find out about your DD falling off the bed?

My mother keeps making malicious reports to social services.

The first time they came was terrifying, but they were lovely, did some background checks etc, checked the house over and took no further action.

The second time they popped over for two minutes, I explained about my mother and they took my number. They just call me now when she calls.

It's scary, but as long as you are honest you have nothing to worry about.

Make sure your MIL has as little information about your lives as possible from now on

I used to work in SS and we had quite a few malicious calls. If your baby is well cared for and house is clean they won't have any concerns. You can also prove you sought medical attention for your daughter.

I was reported by the hospital after I took a overdose with me also being drunk.

I have not heard anything off social services.

If all your mw and HV visit are up to date and your home is clean and tidy with a well looked after baby you have nothing to worry about.

I am a sw op. Don't be frightened. Just be honest as to what happened. Say why you think mil called them. They will check with your health visitor to see if you have been appropriate / any issues other than this- If none then that should be the end of it.

My baby rolled off a bed around 6 months old too. It's an awful feeling but as long as baby is ok then just take it as a lesson learned

Both mine have fallen off beds and sofas.

My evil neighbour reported my dd to ss after a very nasty fall off a bed catching her head on the corner of a chest of drawers. I was terrified as at the hospital I had been sobbing saying 'it's all my fault!'

They visited, took a cursory look around the house, cooed over baby and made me a cup of tea as I was in such a state of anxiety. They were lovely tbh. After the third report from neighbour they informed me of the reports and didn't visit. Don't worry- you will be fine, they'll know your not at fault and will recognise the malicious report.

Just wanted to add my bit OP, and say that all 3 of my older DCs fell off the bed once each, despite my best efforts. I felt awful each time, but each time they were fine. DD4 has not fallen off a bed yet (14 months), but only because i am utterly determined that i can do this, and that this child will not off a bed!

Don't fear the SW :) They are sensible people and will see your DC is in a loving home.

Tell them about your MILs malicious tendency.

Just another post to say my DD rolled off the bed at the same age. I took her to the doctor who laughed me out of the surgery. Unexpected accidents are a right of passage in childhood, don't worry nothing bad will happen just be honest

DS rolled off the sofa at a similar age. I was hysterical and rushed to a&e where I got faces as he was fine

HV did come round but was satisfied it was an accident, I was mortified though and thanked god my brother had seen it happen.

Your mil is awful for reporting you. As long as as your baby is clean and well fed and loved they will see that so don't worry! Un fortunately I think they are used to malicious reports and see through them pretty fast!

Oh OP you poor thing what a bitch of a MIL, stay NC and continue as normal with your LO

I don't know a single baby that hasn't rolled off a bed or sofa (or both, more than once, sorry DD )
SW's know this. Tell them the truth and all will be well.

All kids fall off the bed as babies, it's the law. Your MIL is mad.

Your MIL is bonkers and, unless she's telling the truth, has a vile streak a mile wide. What an utter twat.

Your baby is cared for, loved and safe. Nothing else matters, and SS will be able to see that. They're not silly people. Be honest, tell them exactly what happened and that your MIL is a fucking madwoman. They'll probably admit it's not the first time a relative with a grudge has done this.

Seriously, though, I can't imagine how utterly vile an individual has to be to do that. Has your relationship with her always been this awful? Is your DP at least supporting you?

And yeah, two DCs here and both fell off beds. And I'm sure one fell out of the high chair and DH caught him by the strap of his dungarees. Rite of passage.