To be terrified?

[Beth2511]

So at 15 weeks old DD somehow managed to roll off the bed, wasn't expecting it in the slightest as not yet 4 months and she's only done it once since. I think she pushed herself off me and just went. So my first reaction was to call Dr who advised to keep an eye on her.

Since then evil MIL who we have had a massive falling out with has reported me to social services saying it was not an accident, that shes dirty and not looked after.

At the dr today they've told me i've been reported and to expect contact andi'm terrified.

She is thriving and happy and always immaculate. Heartbroken :(

That's a relief. Common sense for the win!

My dd rolled off the bed whilst in X-ray dept as a twelve month old, she was having an X-ray as a precaution as she had rolled off the sofa and hurt her arm! At the time it was very traumatic, but we all laughed about it the next day, and the X-ray lady bought her a bag of milky buttons! She was more upset than anyone. The doctors referred to her as "bouncer" which thankfully she was! (Disclaimer, the doctor who instigated the nickname is my FIL/her grandad so was all in jest!)

Thank goodness they were able to back you up, My dd was very small, I put her on a table to change her she wasn't rolling either and she fell, I called ambulance as her eyes went funny.

I learned my lesson with risks.

you poor thing.

your DH needs to get nasty about this abuse of you now op, you need to distance yourselves and your baby, this woman has no boundaries.

When DD was 18 months she tipped her ride on car over and fell head first into the fire guard. She looked like someone had etched a perfect noughts and crosses grid on her forehead. It was there for weeks. I expected a call at any time.

There's video of me dropping DD on her face (only an inch, but still) at 5 days old.

Then I was doing the "swing up and catch" outside church when she was 2, and she tucked in and rolled straight over my head.

19 now, very few scars and the greensticked forearm is straight again.

who told you that 15 week old babies cannot roll ? What tosh.

Everybody should be careful of babies rolling off stuff from soon after they start lifting their head. The head is very large and heavy in relation to the rest of the body and can pull a baby over at a surprisingly young age given the right circumstances

{not saying you weren't careful, btw )...the best result happened for you....your MIL wants fucking shooting

MIL is one of those people who can be lovely but if she takes a disliking to you she can be evil. I don't care about everything she's called me, said to me and done to me but the way she has treated DD is horrendous and that beautiful baby has done nothing wrong. DH has made it clear to her that in no uncertain terms is she to come near me or the baby and if we catch wind of her saying anything at all to DSD that he will be stopping contact, for now it's staying as we don't want to drag DSD into it and effectively punish her. He will the moment he catches wind of anything at all.

HV said not to expect it until after 20 weeks, which is how she managed to fall as I wasn't expecting it, if someone had told me that actually they can do it much younger I would have been more prepared.

It's scary how one person can potentially cause so many problems and the social services essentially said her claims were so wild that DD would have bruises and would not be thriving.

Accidents happen, it's an unfortunate fact of life but I'm sure every single one of you who have had similar have felt that horrible sick to your stomach feeling when you hear that scream, that's punishment enough for the mistake and certainly taught me my lesson.

my PILs of toxic nastiness reported me to ss because I went back to work and they didn't think the nursery sounded like it was well located. they've done it twice since because they are toxic monsters. I was terrified. I had done nothing wrong at all but it stirred up months of nonsense. I am NC with them but have had to have stern words about them showing up at DS's school really - it does happen to other people, try and keep evidence of it being malicious but in the meantime just carry on as normal don't let it get you down.

Glad all ended well. Good on your DH for telling his mother what's what!!

It is so hard being reasonable at times when MIL is being so horrid. She's told DSD's mum (not DSD) what an unfit awful mum I am so I'm now no longer allowed to have her over half terms like I've done since we got together as I had the flexible job and am now on maternity.

The unreasonable side of me wants to say that is fine but if I'm no longer fit to look after her then I'm no longer fit to contribute in anyway whether its financially, activities, driving for days out/weekends away or anything but I know her mum wants that side of my contribution. I love looking after her, so upset :(

I want to suggest to OH to get 50 50 contact so we dont keep getting messed around and more importantly DSD doesn't but thats not my place to suggest is it?

Well, I'd say that's between DSD's mum and your OH. He has a right to see his child. If she isn't being reasonable, then a contact order would seem to be the way to go.

Do you have the type of relationship with her where you or OH could call her and explain what went on with MiL?