HV has told me that my 20 month old DD is overweight. I'm at a loss

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I've always put in every effort to make sure she eats healthily, she loves fruit and veg and I make every meal from scratch, no junk etc. She has small portions and they fill her up easily. She has the very occasional treat and only drinks milk or water.

We live on a farm so she's a very active toddler (she's been walking since 11 months) and just generally loves being outside. I'm so disheartened because I really thought that I was setting her up for being fit and healthy. I've recently lost 3-4 stones in weight jus through doing more exercise.
I see my friends with their toddlers who are a similar age and the right weight and they're fed chips, crisps, chocolate and given fizzy drinks and are sat inside all day long watching TV. What the hell have I done so wrong?

Looks like there's a 3k difference between your scales and hv scales. Again get her double checked at GP but you've hopefully seen enough posts here to make you sceptical about value of what hv has said.

Don't forget muscle weighs more then fat, so as you and your dd are doing a lot of walking/running around the farm your dd will have a lot of muscle.

To be honest I would weigh and measure her yourself. Then check how it was plotted in the book. Also check you have worked out her age correctly and that the health visitor plotted that correctly too. (I don't trust other people to plot graphs!)

It must be reassuring that it looks like the HVs scales were wrong. In this case, I would just put this out of your mind for the moment and get her weighed again when she turns 2.

Sorry! I think you have done that.

Don't feel like that OP. There are lots of supportive posts in between the others! You have done amazingly to lose the weight you have and definitely shouldn't be ridiculed for that. I don't think my perception is off, I have always been slim and do not see a fat child in your pictures at all. Her diet/portions sound great. I would have a chat with your GP to put your mind at rest.

These threads always bring out the food fanatics (many of whom probably have eating issues of their own).

Babies are supposed to be a bit fat. Older children are supposed to be thin. There is a transition stage between the two and your DD is probably in that area right now. If her diet and exercise levels are good then stop worrying and just be aware. In a year's time you'll most likely wonder why you even worried.

HVs often get it wrong btw. My DS had an overweight letter home from school at 4 - despite BMI below the 25th percentile and being obviously rather slender! - nurse screwed up a measurement.

OK, so 50th for height and 75th-91st for weight in a 20 month old doesn't sound worrying to me - a bit on the chunky side and worth keeping an eye on but not off the charts overweight.

Love all these posts from people saying they think the OP's DD looks overweight when the OP has just said the scales were broken and DD is a fine weight.

Whose perception of a "normal" weight is off again..?

I'm so sorry that some of the casual post-and-go rubbish on this thread has upset you. Sounds like your toddler has a lovely active lifestyle and you're a mum that is working really hard (and succeeding) to set a great example.
If you are really concerned, speak to your GP and get her weighed and measured there.
It's tough to know what's best but it sounds like you are instinctively doing the right things.
Donâ??t beat yourself up. We want our girls to be healthy eaters that enjoy life. Sounds like you are on the right track. Don't derail yourself with worry (easier said than done, I know! )

Well that seems more reasonable. Her diet and exercise look good and she is still in the baby phase. Maybe just see the GP to confirm all ok.

Don't be sorry for posting - you've weighs her an put your mind at rest.

Re weighing - I weigh my kids reasonably regularly (ds has been underweight in the past and we monitor to make sure he isn't losing weight) and I just tell them we are measuring how hey are growing. I also weigh myself and let them see what a big number I have compared to them! I never make a deal of it.

"Love all these posts from people saying they think the OP's DD looks overweight when the OP has just said the scales were broken and DD is a fine weight."

Heh, was just going to say the same.

Op don't worry about it. Your dd looks lovely. If you can see her ribs it's all good. Honestly it's stuff like this which means I no longer engage with HVs.

You have done superb to lose such a lot of weight, and seem to have a good attitude towards feeding your family.

I just don't see her as fat or overweight. She looks normal to me and my measurements of her weight have reenforced that opinion, there have been quite a few posters however saying that she does look overweight it's not even just one or two - it's quite a lot.

OP HAS SAID THE SCALES WERE BROKEN

THE CHILD IS NOT OVERWEIGHT

She looks absolutely fine to me - and she's the same weight as my DS3 (and DS1 and DS2 at this age). Ignore the people going overboard on describing her as fat or overweight - she's absolutely fine OP, has a lovely healthy varied diet and lots of activity in her life. And she's happy and healthy which is all to the good!

When I say same weight, I mean 12kg (the corrected correctly weighed weight) - DS1 at nearly 9 is a beanpole now, as is DS2 at 6.

It might be worth taking her to the GP? My 6 year old is 12.7lbs and short

Well done on your weight loss OP. I'd recommend less dried fruit eating more fresh veg

Kg rather

Oh OP! Sorry, there are some venomous harpies people on MN who are obsessional lunatics a bit over the top when it comes to weight. At least you got the idea to weigh your DD yourself from the thread. Your DD is not fat at all and well done to you for losing weight if that's what you wanted to do. I am a normal weight and could put on / lose loads and still be a normal weight as I am quite tall. So those who are assuming you were a full 4 stone overweight are making assumptions tbh.

Ignore them. You can't actually judge by the pictures you posted - too much clothing (and I can quite see why you'd not want to post pics of her half naked). People are just seeing what they want to see.

I feel for you OP. You knew she wasn't overweight. You could tell, and the reweighing proved you right. Enjoy your active little person !

Unappreciatedandfat don't worry. You never know what people are basing their judgements on.
I am glad your Scales say something different. Scales need to be calibrated. Scales need to be read correctly and the reading written down accurately. So many things that can go wrong!
Really if you want to be very sure you might need to find a third set of scales but that is the nerd in me. I doubt anyone at home calibrates their scales!
My honest feeling is never trust anyone else to do maths without checking it yourself.