To not do a lot most weekends

[Riley2015]

Hi, I started a new job a few months ago and I'm always asked by manager on a Monday morning what I did at the weekend to be honest most weekends I don't do a lot , I just chill out and spend time at home with my husband so I just say something like yes I had a nice weekend but didn't do a lot.

She always seems to be doing something / going out somewhere at the weekend and I think she finds it strange I don't have plans every weekend. I do go out some weekends but I prefer staying in most of the time!

AIBU to not want to go out every weekend or just strange lol

Weekends are for relaxing IMO. Some people like to go out for dinner and/or a few drinks to relax. Some go out on family trips. Some like to watch films or read. Weekends are for whatever makes you happy.

YANBU

weekends are God's way of telling us to slob out in our pyjamas and eat frosties straight out of the packet

I'm the same. I've had a duvet day today and barely got dressed. I spend the weekends resting and relaxing after a busy week. I also catch up on jobs and housework and prepare for the week ahead. Do what makes you happy and don't worry what anyone else thinks!

I think you shouldn't live by other people's standards. How is it any relevance to your own life what a work colleague does?

YANBU. Of course your not.
It's your choice what you do with your free time, when she asks on Monday say 'not much' but with confidence and happiness. Own your decision.

Weekends here are a total mix up these days! Might do day trip. Sofa day, cleaning or cooking or random forest walk. Out for lunch.
Whatever me and the kids fancy!

I barely leave my onesie at weekends let alone the house!

It's entirely up to you surely

Some people like to be busy & active at weekends, others prefer to chill out, horses for courses

Make it sound fabulous then.
"Oh I had an utterly spoilt and pampered time with long baths and a wonderful lie-in. Feel like a new woman!"

YANBU, I'm still not dressed and not planning to either. I did put my bra on for a few hours but that's now come off. What can you do on weekends when its throwing it down?

I like to do lots of things at the weekends, but YANBU to do morning. Each to their own!

I guess I just feel a bit boring but that's me haha !

I feel the same. I almost feel like I have to lie and make up activities! After working full time all week and running around after DS at night at weekends I really don't mind just pottering.

I do absolutely nothing at the weekend. When people at work ask me what i did at the weekend i say 'absolutely nothing'
Doing nothing is underrated imho.

I am the same. Some weekend days i will do some things such as go out for lunch, shopping or day trips. However most weekends I like to lounge around. I also am made to feel lazy when people ask what are you doing or what did you do this weekend.

Don't you get bored

Nothing wrong with that but talk about it in a way that frames it as a positive life style choice. Focus on one fun thing you did. Oh I stayed home doing some work on the house, I just love a good project! I love movies, managed to watch a great film.... I cooked just an amazing .... Gives people something to think about but nothing to potty you for. Just don't apologise! No one should ever put down the concept of staying home!

Pitty not potty guess what I've got on my brain....

I know what you mean. The friend I have lunch with at work has no children, a dreamy new boyfriend and exciting life. I find myself trying to come up with something interesting to say other than chasing round toddlers

But op she's just being friendly and making conversation.

We're all different and that's a good thing.

There's nothing 'strange' about your preference for doing nothing at weekends, but it sounds to me as if you have doubts about it yourself if your colleague's polite Monday morning chit chat makes you feel 'boring'.

Do your weekends bore you?

I love doing bog all on the weekends. We are up at 6.30 mon - fri. I am self employed and work long hours. We have all the after school shizzle in the week. I love just pottering too.. stick a wash on here n there. The kids entertain themselves. Bliss.
Come summer we will camp and if the weather is good we will get out a bit more. But I love a quiet weekend!

But it's lovely just pottering around at home with no time constraints to worry about... bliss.

Don't live your life by other peoples agenda, do what you want to do, not what you think others are doing.

As long as you and your family are happy why worry.

Doing nothing is underrated imho.

Let's not forget it allows the children to sharpen up their Minecraft skills.

I didn't shower until lunchtime today. I got a stew on in the slow cooker whilst in my PJs, read for while, arsed around on the internet, showered, read a bit more, arsed around on the internet a bit more, did some baking, served up the stew and then played 'money bomb'* on Antiques Roadshow with DH. We do have more active weekends occasionally, but its been raining all day. Far better to chill.

• Money bomb game is to guess which of innocuous objects featured is going to be worth an obscene amount of money. It is often the most ugly or battered. We have no interest in antiques. It's more like a slow-burn Banzai - "place bets NOW!"