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to be a tad pissed off my child was left alone

167 replies

gingermopped · 28/03/2015 17:02

ds had a party today to go to, 7th birthday, pizzahut, 12-2.
dropped him at 12, mum of bday boy said prefer parents didnt stay
they had my mobi num and i said id b in costa a few doors down.
went to collect him at 1.55 (5mins early) as walked through resturant the birthday boys mum walked past me on way out, i only twigged it was her wen she was past me but thought perhaps birthday boys dad was still there.
got to bak of resturant and my boy and 1 other lad was sat on there own holding party bags looking puzzled and sad.
waited few mins as thought mum would b bak but no!
im bloody fuming, who leaves kids of that age, surely hosts should stay untill all kids safely bak with parents Angry

OP posts:
ChaiseLounger · 29/03/2015 08:40

This just seems very odd. I mean why would party mum DO that? Wierd.

YouPooPooBumBum · 29/03/2015 08:41

I would never let my child go to another party/situation where she was "looking after" them. And make sure all parents that knew her know what she did - so they could decide for themselves if they wanted to trust her again as well.

textfan · 29/03/2015 08:44

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ilovelamp82 · 29/03/2015 08:48

Some people are just baffling.

londonrach · 29/03/2015 08:48

Id be furious. Op did you wait with the other boy till his mum or dad came. What did they say. You trusted your ds to this mums care. She would have be liable if anything had happened! Glad your ds is ok x

momtothree · 29/03/2015 08:52

I book a.party of 11 year olds into a pizza place - aim of collecting them to go to pics and the place wanted all.parent contact details just in case .., they wouldnt have been happy. How rude u didnt get an invite.

Eva50 · 29/03/2015 09:05

When I pick ds2 (17) up from orchestra rehearsals one of the adults has always waited to make sure they are all collected. It's what responsible adults do. I would be furious.

timetomoveon · 29/03/2015 09:16

I ended up waiting for 40 minutes last weekend for the last parent to turn up to pick up a child from ds(7) birthday party. There was no way we were going to leave her and go even though we really wanted to

Julius02 · 29/03/2015 09:16

I find her behaviour really strange - not waiting to greet you etc, but if she was walking through the restaurant in the opposite direction to you they weren't actually left alone (for more than a moment or two). Perhaps she saw you coming in?

I'm not condoning it, it's very strange behaviour, but they weren't actually alone in the restaurant.

bumbleymummy · 29/03/2015 09:18

I would be fuming and I would definitely ask what on earth she thought she was doing.

MrsItsNoworNotatAll · 29/03/2015 09:18

That is unbelievable!! I would love to know what she was thinking.

afreshstartplease · 29/03/2015 09:19

Another saying I'd be livid!

One of my dc had a bowling party and it was such a busy place I was panicking at home time that one had slipped away or something, how could she not give a toss!

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 29/03/2015 09:21

Wow! That's really awful behaviour.

lunar1 · 29/03/2015 09:24

Bloody hell, I'd be having a word too!

Hakluyt · 29/03/2015 09:24

"When I pick ds2 (17) up from orchestra rehearsals one of the adults has always waited to make sure they are all collected. It's what responsible adults do. I would be furious."

I would be cross about a 7 year old but 17? Bloody Hell!!!!!!!

Delatron · 29/03/2015 09:26

Completely unacceptable. You say the boys were looking a bit sad. Has your son said anything about why he was left there? Did the mother talk to him before she abandoned him to say why she was leaving?

Outrageous she is just ignoring your texts too.

Aeroflotgirl · 29/03/2015 09:34

I know hakulet, 17 is almost an adult, totally different to a little 7 year old child. At 15 I used to travel from my school in Rickmansworth to Harrow where I would get the bus home. Kids are so mollycoddled now.

I just read your last post, so parents were invited to stay, just not some others. That is unacceptable, at all my parties I have always invited parents to stay. My eldest is just 8, so nit 18 Smile. Yes I woukd be having words with her on Monday.

Aeroflotgirl · 29/03/2015 09:35

I wonder why she's ignoring your texts, bet she known she's in the wrong.

youarekiddingme · 29/03/2015 09:35

I'd be livid too. Especially as she knew you were just down the road in Costa. If she wanted to leave early why not bring DS and the other boy there and see if you'll wait.

Although I can see why she'd want to run off after a bunch of 6/7yos in Pizza Hut! (Absolutely not excusing it tho)

vestandknickers · 29/03/2015 09:41

Totally unacceptable whatever her reason for leaving.

YANBU.

I'd be furious.

Eva50 · 29/03/2015 10:09

I would be cross about a 7 year old but 17? Bloody Hell!!!!!!!

I'm sure ds2, at 17, would be quite capable of waiting on his own for me to collect him although it is a fairly dark and isolated area once everyone has gone and, if I were last to pick up, I would ensure that the adult waiting had transport and was safely in it before I drove away. The point I was making was that the adults running the orchestra feel responsible enough to wait until the teenagers are collected. A 7 year old (or two) should never have been left on their own.

And yes, my teenagers, despite some s/n's, can successfully negotiate their way to and from school daily without any assistance from me. Collecting them, with their musical instruments, to prevent them walking through isolated areas in the dark is not called mollycoddling it's called being a parent.

Hakluyt · 29/03/2015 10:13

"Collecting them, with their musical instruments, to prevent them walking through isolated areas in the dark is not called mollycoddling it's called being a parent."

Collecting them is. Expecting somebody to wait with them until you do isn't.

mindthegap79 · 29/03/2015 10:24

I was wondering that too. Did she say anything like "sorry but I've got to rush off - don't worry though, I can see your mums in the carpark"

Shocking behaviour, even if she did. I'd be livid.

momtothree · 29/03/2015 10:48

Isnt it good manners.to hand over the kids with a little chat on how it went? Behaviour - what they eat - if they were happy???? Say thanks for coming. Really rude left on their own or not!

momtothree · 29/03/2015 10:49

AND if u said you`d wait down the road why didnt she invite u to.stay ?