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to be a tad pissed off my child was left alone

167 replies

gingermopped · 28/03/2015 17:02

ds had a party today to go to, 7th birthday, pizzahut, 12-2.
dropped him at 12, mum of bday boy said prefer parents didnt stay
they had my mobi num and i said id b in costa a few doors down.
went to collect him at 1.55 (5mins early) as walked through resturant the birthday boys mum walked past me on way out, i only twigged it was her wen she was past me but thought perhaps birthday boys dad was still there.
got to bak of resturant and my boy and 1 other lad was sat on there own holding party bags looking puzzled and sad.
waited few mins as thought mum would b bak but no!
im bloody fuming, who leaves kids of that age, surely hosts should stay untill all kids safely bak with parents Angry

OP posts:
2rebecca · 28/03/2015 21:09

Awful behaviour. She was responsible for your child until you arrived to pick him up. I'm surprised the other parents were that early as the party was only 2 hours, although 2 hours is a long time to spend just eating in pizza hut with no games or anything, maybe the parents hadn't realised that.

BarbarianMum · 28/03/2015 21:18

YABU if you are just a tad pissed off - I'd be incandescent with f*cking rage. How dare she?

When you are entrusted with other people's children, you stay in charge until you give them back. I could understand her handing them to another parent in a dire emergency, but walking off and leaving them? No way!

bloodyteenagers · 28/03/2015 21:33

It doesn't matter if the kids behaviour was appalling you wait until all parents show up.
It doesn't matter if mum happened to see both parents, from the back of the place, get out of cars that would have been impossible considering one was in a shop a few doors down. And as well as ex ray vision, parents would also need to have psychic abilities.
It doesn't matter if the party finished earlier cos some parents arrived early.

Someone, ie the birthday child's parents should have stayed until all children collected.

minionmadness · 28/03/2015 22:12

We recently had a bowling party for my dts's. The party finished at 4pm and all but one parent arrived on time, one didn't get there until 4.15... did we just go and leave a 7 year old sitting on his own... did we fuck!

Appalling behaviour... who would do this?

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 28/03/2015 22:18

Christ on a bike. Is that mother for real. !!!!!. Not surprised your angry. I'd be nuclear, absolutely nuclear.
Not only is it a safety issue. It's also the height of bad manners. To not see the guests out of the party,

Joyfulldeathsquad · 28/03/2015 22:21

Shock I'd be pissed off!

Starlightbright1 · 28/03/2015 22:23

I would also be furious.

Favouritethings · 28/03/2015 22:42

That's absolutely awful, I'd be fuming

arethereanyleftatall · 28/03/2015 22:48

Any update op? Im fascinated to know what her reason will be....

AmysTiara · 28/03/2015 23:08

I'd be furious too. Awful behaviour from the parent

Ruperta · 28/03/2015 23:11

Unbelievable, marking my place to see what possible reason this mum could give!

susiedaisy · 28/03/2015 23:14

That's appalling. I'm trying to think of a reason that she felt justified to do this but can't. The fact that she passed by you in the restaurant and didn't say a thing is unbelievable tbh. Interested to see what her excuse was op.

ShelaghTurner · 28/03/2015 23:37

I'd be furious. And my 7yo dd1 would be very upset at being left on her own. Still, dd1 is having a pizza party in a couple of weeks. Nice to know I can piss off home when I've had enough. I'm sure Pizza Express won't mind babysitting...

SoonToBeSix · 28/03/2015 23:44

Terrible behaviour, please update when she bothers to reply to your text.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 28/03/2015 23:55

Yanbu that's dreadful behaviour

LaurieFairyCake · 29/03/2015 00:13

I would assume she saw you coming in and then left.

Doesn't explain why she left the other little boy there unless she'd had a text from the mum saying 'just coming in' or something.

prawnballs · 29/03/2015 00:19

I'd be fuming!!
And also at her door by now....

Original poster
gingermopped · 29/03/2015 00:29

sorry took ages to get bak on, ds2 been throwing up all evening.
was def on time (actually 5mins early)
so no reply to txt so i txt another school mum whose kid also went and apparently apart from me and 1 other they where invited to stay and eat/hav a drink (im obviously not in the "in" crowd, haha)
so i look forward to monday morning and the little chat ill be having with her.

OP posts:
engeika · 29/03/2015 00:33

Have just re-read OP and, if I have got this right, she walked past you as you came in to the restaurant so she knew you had arrived for pick up. she may have seen you coming along as those places generally have big windows.

Not excusing this for a moment and v bad manners at the very least but you had arrived before she left . She may have had an emergency at home or something and thought "oh great there is gingermopped I can dash off safely"

Doesn't explain about other boy - unless she had also seen her from across the road or something. Still pretty disgraceful but am I right that she had seen you coming in before she actually left them?

MiscellaneousAssortment · 29/03/2015 00:39

Good lord how rubbish!

sqibble · 29/03/2015 00:53

All i can think of is she didn't cope with it.

But who leave a 7 year old unattended?

Are you sure she wasn't in the wc with some others?

BigRedBall · 29/03/2015 00:59

I'm fumming on yr behalf. Who leaves kids like tht alone?!!!

Hope she gts ur txts, stoopid cow.

SeaUnicorns · 29/03/2015 02:00

Was the one other the mother of the other lad?

Totally unacceptable how are busy restaurant staff meant to know wether you are actually the child's parent.

I suggest the invitation isn't returned when it's your boys birthday and you just refuse any further invitations or contact

Zebda · 29/03/2015 02:01

YANBU. I did DDs 7th bday last week no way in the world would I have left any child behind waiting for their parents alone. Unbelievable!

I don't know how they managed to finish early though, we had the bday meal at Frankie and Benny's and ran over massively. I had the opposite problem - all the parents standing around waiting and the cake not done yet!

Iwantacampervan · 29/03/2015 08:30

I first thought that she was loading things in the car and would be back - but you say that she didn't return. The mother even if she had seen you, should have said something to you and/or come back.
Where was the birthday boy? Was he already sitting in the car?

I would always wait for parents after parties - even when picking up teens from cinemas etc.