To ask what age your child was when you gave them 'the sex talk'

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Just that really..
And how did you explain it?
My son just said 'sexing' when I asked what he knew about sex he said 'when people rub their bits together'!!
I thought we'd naturally have this talk long before now but iv waited for his cue, I think it's time ??

Mine were below school age. We used THIS FANTASTIC BOOK which has beautiful photography and explains everything in a way a child can understand.

We have been having the talk sinice 2 it's starts with her being able to name all her body we will no doubt go on to the diffrence between boys and girls and move on but the actual conversation about sex the machanics needs to happen before 11 I think as conceivably 11 year olds do have sex and also it's about protecting for people who would seek to do her harm in a sexual way

I must be the odd one out here as I have no recollection of this ever being a topic of discussion, or a "talk" with my dcs. Dds are now both in their 20s and D's 13 but it has never seemed to be an issue or something which has generated much conversation really. shrugs

No big talks here really. We had a book about changing bodies which we read along with percy the park keeper :)

Just answered questions factually when asked although the more in depth questions didn't really start until they started sex ed at school.

They are now 16 and 14 and periodically I say to them - do we need to talk about sex? and they go Yuuuuuuuuk muuuuuuuuuuum haha

I never had a talk, ever, ever from my parents - I never asked them any questions. I do remember once talking to my mum when i was about 7 about a book where the lead character doesn't have a dad (how it's put the book, obviously an absent parent) and my mum said 'that's impossible, ask your teacher'.

I found out because a friend had a book that we looked at - again I was about 7 or 8. We both thought it was something that happened by accident when you were asleep!

Out of interest, and apologies for the slight hijack, how did you broach the "some bits are private" chat in a non-shaming, non- judgmental way? DS (5) was recently rebuked for showing someone his willy in the loos at school! Amazingly, exP managed to keep a straight face when informed of this by the teacher . I think there's been a bit of a spate of it, because a couple of days before he informed me one of the girls had shown him her "bottom".

We had no big talks, I just gave them information as and when they asked. We also had Mummy Laid an Egg. Always tried to be open and answer honestly.

When DD and DSS were 6 they were doing Sex Ed in school and got a bit obsessed about sex at that time, they kept asking couples if they had sex together. We had to sit them down and tell them that it was inappropriate to ask adults about their sex life. DH and I were very relieved when the Sex Ed project finished that year.

Dd has just turned eight. She watches one born every minute with me so knows how babies come out. She's asked how two ladies have a baby and we had a turkey baster chat, and discussed surrogacy when she asked how two men have a baby.
She knows about periods and parts of the body.
She has however never asked how a man and a woman have a baby.
Might try mummy laid an egg.

I don't think there should be one "conversation" because they ask different questions at different times, wanting different answers. From my experience, questions start being asked from about age 3, when "sex" as such is not an issue.