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To be annoyed with DP for puking all over the bedding?

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QueenStromba · 28/03/2015 00:18

I know I'm not but I just need to vent. We went out tonight for his colleague's leaving do and when we got home I put pie and chips on for him (I ate before I went out) and he said he felt a bit ill. I went to get a bucket for him and by the time I got back he had been sick on the duvet. I'd only been gone about a minute so thought that taking the cover off might make it OK. The duvet was soaked even with the cover off and the bottom sheet was wet too. I've now put the cover and sheet in the washing machine. The duvet is too big for the washing machine so I've reserved one from Argos. He said that he purposefully threw up on the bed rather than on the floor which I think would have been easier to clean up. I'm perfectly within my rights to be annoyed with him and to have the money for the new duvet come out of his money rather than joint money?

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GiddyOnZackHunt · 28/03/2015 00:21

YWNBU to make him responsible for buying a new duvet. Which one drunk logic is cheaper than a new carpet.
Why did he get into bed if he felt ill? Silly man.

MrsTerryPratchett · 28/03/2015 00:22

Is he drunk as a monkey or is he ill?

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QueenStromba · 28/03/2015 00:29

I think that was his thinking was Giddy - much easier to clean vomit up from the carpet than the bed though. No idea why he got into bed, he's now realised that he's too drunk/ill to be in bed so is passed out on the stairs. I'm so glad we don't have or want kids because otherwise I'd have some big decisions to make.

He's drunk as a monkey and ill MrsTerryPratchett.

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GiddyOnZackHunt · 28/03/2015 00:37

Is being upright drink and ill a good idea? Can you get him into the bath wrapped in the vommy duvet? To sleep, not for a wash obvs!
If you don't have DC then it is silly rather than irresponsible.

Lorialet · 28/03/2015 00:39

That's vile. I'd definitely make him cough up for a new duvet and bedding (excuse pun).

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QueenStromba · 28/03/2015 00:45

He's moved himself onto the sofa in the sitting room and has a bucket next to him. He's wrapped in the summer duvet and I've got my pre-DP duvet to keep me warm. So annoyed though. He's either going to need looking after for all of tomorrow or he's not going to be hung over at all due to all of the puking. I'm not sure which one would be more annoying.

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QueenStromba · 28/03/2015 00:51

I'm ok with the duvet cover and sheet since I got them in the washing machine in minutes. I'm so pissed that I had to do that at nearly midnight on a Friday though and having to go through the bother of getting a new duvet even if the pays for it out of his money is really bloody annoying.

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JeanSeberg · 28/03/2015 00:53

Why will he need looking after? Go out and leave him to it.

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QueenStromba · 28/03/2015 01:05

I don't want to go out tomorrow! I'm going to be hung over, especially since I've ended up staying up late due to his drunkenness. I'm a soft touch so if he's in a worse state than me then I'm going to end up looking after him. I will try my best to send him to get the new duvet and to pick up the Chinese though.

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TwinkieTwinkle · 28/03/2015 01:11

Unless he makes a habit of it, then give him a pass. We all make mistakes and I'm sure a lot of us are guilty of getting a bit too drunk even when we thought we were too mature for that shit

MrsTerryPratchett · 28/03/2015 01:15

I would much rather clean sick out of a duvet than carpet.

Thing to do would have been to put the whole lot in the bath and make him sort it all out himself. I also wouldn't be 'looking after him'. Why?

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QueenStromba · 28/03/2015 01:27

Carpet is much easier to clean unless the duvet fits in the washing machine.

I would look after him because I'm a soft touch.

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SuperMumTum · 28/03/2015 07:02

Gross. Pretty childish behaviour. I wouldn't be very impressed at all and he would be doing all the cleaning.

Fairylea · 28/03/2015 07:16

Utterly gross... I can cope with people being ill when they're ill but when it's through being drunk I have no sympathy at all. He should definitely pay for new bedding. No question. I'd be raging. (But then I can't stand drinking anyway - my mum and gran were alcoholics and I spent my 20s on a path to self destruction through drinking too much).

austenozzy · 28/03/2015 07:17

Bit of an overreaction, imo. I've had to clean up after my wife on two occasions after she has over indulged with her friends. Red wine and fruity chunks from sangria is fun to deal with at 3am! Ended up hosing her off in the shower. We just laughed about it as she went green as I cooked mtself bacon sarnies in the morning! You'll laugh about it soon enough, so count to ten now and carry on.

MythicalKings · 28/03/2015 07:22

Disgusting behaviour.

I'll never understand why people drink so much that they make themselves ill. I've only been vomiting drunk once. Never again. I know my limit.

itosh · 28/03/2015 07:22

Many may find this strange but I was brought up that it is unnecessary to vomit anyway other than a toilet/outside/somewhere appropriate. I know sometimes that makes life very difficult and strictly speaking not always the case.. however so many people realise they need to vomit and so do so without even trying their very hardest to make their way towards the toilet etc.

Even when drunk and think there is a slim chance I may vomit I will prepare with a bucket

antumbra · 28/03/2015 07:22

when we got home I put pie and chips on for him (I ate before I went out)
I went to get a bucket for him
He's either going to need looking after for all of tomorrow
I'm a soft touch so if he's in a worse state than me then I'm going to end up looking after him.
Hmm

Not sure how old you both are OP, but all sounds very teenage behaviour. I couldn't put up with it.

IAmAPaleontologist · 28/03/2015 07:26

We don't always think rationally when vomiting. perfectly sober dh with tummy bug one day tried to get to the bathroom to vomit, as fast away from our bedroom as possible. He could have vomited in a pile on the easy to clean floor but instead ended up launching himself through the air in the kitchen trying to make it through to the bathroom. vomit went everywhere. All the worktops, the unit doors, every nook and cranny. Daft thing. Make him but the duvet of course, though most laundrettes do a speedy duvet service, but don't stay hacked off.

GladysTheGolem · 28/03/2015 07:26

Could he not have bunged food in the oven himself?
Why didn't he eat before going out! Lining your stomach and all that.

As long as you're happy in your life with him & he's not taking advantage of you being a soft touch, carry on.

Florabeebaby · 28/03/2015 07:28

Another reason why I am so happy to be married to a teetotal.

SanityClause · 28/03/2015 07:29

QueenStromba, take the duvet to a laundrette, where they will have machines big enough to wash a large duvet. It sounds like you have enough bedding to use in the meantime, so no need to buy new.

Actually, don't take it yourself, get him to take it.

As far as your DP is concerned, if you treat someone like a child, they will act like a child. Make him take responsibility for his actions. If he didn't have you, he would have to sort it out. Let him.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 28/03/2015 07:33

Fgs woman up and don't look after the twat today.

AlternativeTentacles · 28/03/2015 07:35

Much easier for you to clean the duvet than the carpet more like. FFS even when I have had raging projectile vomiting with the flu I've cleaned my own up.

Stop being a soft touch - it will do you no good in the long term.

MsRaspberryJam · 28/03/2015 07:35

I think you can look after someone sympathetically even when it's their poor judgment that has made them ill.