To be annoyed with DP for puking all over the bedding?

[QueenStromba]

I know I'm not but I just need to vent. We went out tonight for his colleague's leaving do and when we got home I put pie and chips on for him (I ate before I went out) and he said he felt a bit ill. I went to get a bucket for him and by the time I got back he had been sick on the duvet. I'd only been gone about a minute so thought that taking the cover off might make it OK. The duvet was soaked even with the cover off and the bottom sheet was wet too. I've now put the cover and sheet in the washing machine. The duvet is too big for the washing machine so I've reserved one from Argos. He said that he purposefully threw up on the bed rather than on the floor which I think would have been easier to clean up. I'm perfectly within my rights to be annoyed with him and to have the money for the new duvet come out of his money rather than joint money?

Carpet is not easier to clean if sick bowl or towel not to hand, dcs are sick on duvet. Im sick myself, have bowel next to me.!

sosix

a bowel? really? you weirdo!

Bedding is definitely easier to clean than the carpet.

I think some of the responses are a little harsh. If DP was sick, I'd look after him, not because I'm a 1950s little woman, but because we care about each other and he'd do the same for me. However, in the years we've been together, he's never been sick through drinking, and I only have once, so it would be a very rare occurance. If it happened frequently there would be bigger issues than who should clean up.

I'm with you Bythewishingwell.

He got ill and made a mistake. I wouldn't have got cross with my DH if he'd done this, I'd be looking after him.

Of course if he is a serial problem drinker then thats a deeper issue.

My comment was referring to the op enabling her husband wicked.

I'm glad people don't stand for puking on the bed.

My wife's ex-boyfriend dumped her for doing that.

I'm so glad he did.

She's never done it while with me, but I've assured her it won't matter because I know she usually keeps her limit in mind, and she'd do the same for me if I had too many once in a while .

It's not the puking on the bed that's the problem. It's the thinking of where to puke before puking that is. If you can decide where to puke you have time to make it to the toilet. Not watch your partner trott off for a bucket, decide to get into bed because it'll be easier to clean up.

Apologies Jean

^gets off soapbox*

Why is "looking after" an ill partner so wrong? Doesn't matter why they are ill, they're ill. You love them so you take care of them, knowing they would do the same for you. And if they wouldn't, and you would feel so alien as to help them, then that's a poor indictment on a relationship. Why is every kind act or gesture mentioned on mn seen as a weakness, sexism, an unhealthy relationship, mothering etc. seems kindness doesn't register in a lot of minds.

OP, yes look after him. He's not set out to intentionally puke on the bedding or indeed puke at all. His throat must be burnt to fuck. But do make him sort the duvet when he's up to it.

He he no need to apologise wicked, enjoy the weekend.

You too Jean

It's not the puking on the bed that's the problem. It's the thinking of where to puke before puking that is. If you can decide where to puke you have time to make it to the toilet. Not watch your partner trott off for a bucket, decide to get into bed because it'll be easier to clean up.

My thoughts too gamerchick!

Purple how often does your DP do this? Sounds like a lot?

Those who are saying it's not a big deal - no, it's not, if its a once in a blue moon mistake and the partner makes sure it doesn't happen again. If a person regularly gets pissed enough to puke, piss or shit anywhere inappropriate then that is unacceptable and indicates a drinking problem, zero respect for their partner or both. And is a very big deal.

Not harsh at all. Self inflicted drunkeness is not the same as genuine illness, which I am sympathetic to. I have lived with a heavy drinker and all the bulls**t that goes with it, I will never put up with it again.

It's the getting so pissed in the first place that's the problem.

You wouldn't necessarily want him to puke on the floor either. DH was sick on our carpet and it permanently stained it. We ended up having to get a new carpet!

My current DH got drunk once while camping with friends. I'd gone to bed and he was still sitting out across the field near their tent. I heard him coming back and realised that he must have fallen over and gone to sleep. I just left him there (having warned him that I would). It rained that night, serves him right. I'd much rather he pissed himself outside than all over my bed. Eventually he came to and was in a fit state to sort himself out, if not feeling great. He never did it again. If I'd pampered and indulged him he probably would have. The only time I have ever got that bad was once at uni during freshers week aged 18. I had very limited experience of alcohol coming from a teetotal home and learned the hard way what it can do, I never repeated it.