teen fucking dramas!!

[Mintyy]

I mean really and truly, aibu?

If you've never trod on eggshells before, you certainly will when you become owner of a teen.

That is all.

Catz I hope the damage isn't too bad. You must be fuming.

I see you're still being a goady fucker autumbra. How mature of you.

Well we had a lovely day out today, minus teen who chose to stay home and do some A level work rather than come out with us as we are "boring". In other words we weren't going shopping or to a theme park. Dd 2 had a fab day hanging off the harbour wall crabbing and then walked along the quay and had chips and then went to the park. It was 20 degrees today. There were kids swimming in the sea!!

Then dps phone rang. Twas teen. When are you coming home? I'm hungry!

Oh how we laughed :s

It is so worth it once they are about 20-21, they come out the other side and strangely really appreciate you and want to do things with you.
You find yourself questioning their motives with memories of their former horror-self but they truly do grow out of it and make up for it.
DD is 22 and voluntarily comes home fairly regularly, asks me for advice, chats to me and suggests we go on mini-breaks away (offers to pay her half too now she has a job). It is wonderful and almost makes up for the years of hell where she didn't want to be seen dead with me, hated everything I said or suggested.

Thanks all. I have calmed down considerably now. Relatives assured us there's no need to go home to survey the damage (possibly giving him a chance to sort it all out) so we've had a lovely day in the sunshine and tried not to think about it too much.
Sounds like DSS is very remorseful and has apologised profusely to us, our neighbours and those lovely rellies who helped him last night. He is furious with the gatecrashers who messed with DDs things especially.
Going to try to forget about it all til we go home on Friday.

Well clearly no lasting damage was done by sending him to bed.

I told him a keyboard warrrior had deemed me bizare for sending him to bed on Saturday night, He replied, best thing for me, I had gone over from angry to really angry. I know you said I could come down again when I found the reasonable me, but to be honest by the time the reasonable me kicked in, I was ready for bed.

He also said tell the keyboard warrior that you are the coolest Mum ever. When I asked him why, he replied how many Mums do you know that will let their child take over the kitchen doing experiments with Kilner jars, hardboiled eggs and matches.

Try to put it out of your mind catz, dont letit spoil your hols.
We went up to Belfast today, with my brother, nephew and mum and dad, then onto the Ulster Museum. Not one teen moaned
It was lovely and sunny here too.
Dd1 is off out for a friends birthday meal and Dd2 off to her friends house. So its taxi service night.

Yay Ryans DS!

BalloonSlayer- v interesting theory, seems to yie in with the other about teens being teens till well into their twenties! Like others, that would explain me. In my twenties and long long after.. Catz, glad things are looking better :D

Sorry, tie, not yie..

We actually managed a family outing today with both teenagers in tow.

Obviously we had to wait 3 hours for DD2 to finish getting her face and hair fixed and the correct wardrobe choices made before we could go for our walk in the countryside.

It went remarkably well really. They started a little slow and reluctant - walking 6 feet behind us (well there is me with my 2 heads and green slime hanging off me that so frequently prevents DD2 from being seen in public with me), but once they got hold of the camera they were happy, giggly and enjoying the scenery and actually looked like they were enjoying themselves.

They are now in their pyjamas with buffer faces - plugged into their phones/tablets but happy!

Catz, hope your dss has learned a valuable lesson and makes it up to you all, especially dd.

Ryanair, I love your ds!!

My teen has gone for a bath and has asked me to go into town with her tomorrow to buy something for her ear. I'm not entirely sure what it is, she's got a piercing in the top which needs covered or something? Any way I need to pay for it :o

Then we are going to asda because dd 2 is complaining about the lack of vegetables in the house

Catching up on this thread.

catz hopefully it doesn't sound too bad and your ds was just unlucky to have guests so horrible. Hope your dd is ok and glad it's not ruined your holiday.

AP see I always am a bit when I hear people banging on about this. Dcs 1 and 3 were in me 24/7 and loved our bed.

while dcs2 and 4 hated being rocked or cuddled to sleep from day 1. They hated our bed too.

So should I have forced some didactic frankly daft parenting theory on them which totally was at odds with their personalities and preferences? Or isn't it a hell of a lot better to follow your child's lead from day 1.

Funnily enough my cuddly kids were the harder teens as they were less confident and more needy.

had a lovely day today. 6 kids, my 3 plus cousins ranging from 14-7. They were all ultra cool and teenager ish and then we reached the miniature train in the park. They all turned into a bunch of 5 year olds meeting Thomas the Tank Engine and went for a ride on the train

(draws a veil over the hideous strop ds threw at 8pm which resulted in him smashing a panel in the lounge door)
why do lovely days get ruined by bed time melt downs??
Pretty fed up with him actually. And cross with how cross I got with him being a prat.

I remember ds 1 aged sbout 14 being very obnoxious to me and dh picking him up by his t shirt to demand an apology. Happy days. He's 25 now and lovely!

Nice work RyanAir, always good when they see the error of their ways

thing is ds is 12. Totally a teen though (he is physically quite mature)

Please please don't tell me it is going to get worse!

I think 14 is the worse age.

They slowly get generally better depending on the child and by 19 they are usually fairly bearable.

groan - 2 year downward slide then!

Sorry Steppeoneggs, 14 to 17 wasn't great. A week ago I'd have been telling you that 19/20 is much better but after yesterday.....ask me again next week

Aw catz, hope it is all clean and tidy when you get back

Ive judt asked DD to leave me out a black liquid eyeliner I want for the morning. Cue lots of moaning because there isn't much left and she needs it more.
It was mine to flipping start with!

My 13 year old is desperate for a dog. Her answer to everything is that life will be better with a dog. You've been in all day love - if I had a dog, I'd take more exercise. Let's go for a walk along the beach - nah boring, it would be fun with a dog though. You seem in a bad mood love - well, if I had a dog to cuddle .... You get the picture!

coco that reminds me of a row I had with DD. I asked her to go and get my nail varnish remover that she had nicked borrowed. I was called selfish because a) couldnt I see that she was knackered after spending all day facebooking?! and b) there was hardly any left and she might need it. I admit I did go a bit Librarian poo and pointed out that I had bought the fecking stuff in the first place and perhaps if she got off her arse and got a job then she could buy her own instead of treating this house like a free drugstore!

I did a LOT of shouting. Didnt make any difference but I felt a hell of a lot better :o

She is 17 now (about a year later) and a much nicer person to be around. We actually spend time together because we want to

I missed your update yesterday Catz. Sounds like you have lovely neighbours and relatives. I hope you manage to enjoy the rest of your week away.

Dieu - My 16yo wants a dog. We have the same scenarios here. Life would be utterly delightful on every level according to DD1 if we had a dog! The apathy to do anything and go anywhere will apparently be cured!

DD1 was up at 8am doing Latin GCSE revision!!! However, she is now on a break and gone up to see wake up DD2. All I can hear now is lots of high pitched shrieking and giggling! Am shocked DD2 is awake and in a good mood this side of 11am!

Ooh, I have a possible solution to wanting a dog. When no one else in my household could see how impractical it was and how it would all be left for me to deal with, I arranged with one of my lovely neighbours to dog walk for them. Once they all had a few weeks of taking turns of going out for a 30 minute walk, four times a day in very bad weather and picking up wet poo....we got a cat.