We live in a house converted into two flats- we are on the top and have been there nearly 4 years. Until recently the flat below was rented out on a mixture of short term and longer term leases, so in the time we have been living there there have been five different sets of people below, one for two years and the other four on short term contracts for the rest of hte time. We have never had any problems with any of these other people and have always got on well with them.
We have two DSs age 4 and 18 months. They are probably averagely noisy for kids that age - ie they sometimes cry/ run around etc. I have banned noisy toys/ music makers etc to be considerate to downstairs neighbours and try as much as possilbe to stop any particularly noisy games.
A woman has moved in downstairs- she is in her sixties. She has set up in business as an alternative healer and seems to require complete silence for this. UNDer the terms of the lease and also city by-laws she is not allowed to be running a business there, although honestly I don't care what she does in her own apartment. But she is constantly comign up and shouting at us to be quiet when the kids are playing. She yelled at my mum for talking on the stairs (normal volume.) She came up and shouted at our nanny for tenderising a chicken in the middle of the day which must have been 30 seconds max of hammering because she had a client with her.
I pick up the kids from childcare and we are home around 3.30-4pm ish and she has come up to tell me that the noise of them playing is too much for her and can they just watch television in the afternoons instead. She has also asked me to change their bedtime so they wake up later so she can have a lie in, and also to keep them in their bedrooms when they do wake up (6- 6.30am) until she wakes up. This is very hard for various reasons, they don't want to stay in their bedrooms, they are hungry and don't want to wait an hour for breakfast etc etc. AIBU to a) be annoyed about this and b) challenge her on the fact that she shouldnt' be running this business anyway from home and can't really expect me to curtail my kids normal activities so she can see do this? or am I being entitled and not understanding enough of her point of view? Would genuinely appreciate thoughts. Thank you!