to think this is taking the piss somewhat? (hen do)

[hellomylittlefishies]

So my friend is having 3 hen dos. Fine, if that's what you want. I agreed to go to all 3.

The maid of honour (who is a friend of mine) has just text me saying that they are organising another surprise hen do and it will be drinks and food at the brides house.

But can we bring our own drinks and we must text her what food we are planning to bring.

Now any party I went to I would bring drinks/food or both but I kind of feel this is taking the piss now. Aibu?

Of course YANBU and I must ask, what are all these 3 events and how much are they costing you?!

Why so many.

FFs what a bloody bore. How many times can you giggle with the same group and talk about her wedding.

Does your friend really think the workd revolves around her.

Yanbu.

Don't want to say too much about the other events - just in case I make it really obvious!

I'd say the entire 3 events have cost around £150 in total.

Not that it's the cost. I could spend £5 on snacks ... it's more the principle.

Until someone brave says 'no, this is getting ridiculous', this will continue to snowball. Are you brave enough hellomylittlefishies?

Jesus, she loves a bit of fuss doesn't she?

Why doesn't she just have her friends carry her through the streets, scattering rose petals before her.

Or is that hen do number 1?

YANBU

I suppose with regard to the actual problem you've posted about YANBU but I just can't get past anyone having 3 feckin hen dos. One is too many ffs but 3? Why? Are all the same people going to all of them? Can you explain because I'm stumped!

Or is that hen do number 1?

Well that and we have to write poems about her and have a photo montage of her life.

And it's all invite only I'm afraid.

One is too many ffs but 3? Why? Are all the same people going to all of them?

Because she loves the attention would be the honest reason.

I kind of despair for her once the wedding is over and reality comes knocking.

Some one needs to say no!

Crikey, are brides so insecure these days that they need to remind everyone over and over and over and over again that they are getting married? Aren't you all going to be a bit bored of the whole thing by the time the wedding day comes around? Or does that sound grumpy?

yANBU.

Do u HAVE to go to all of them?

I would leave it at 3, which is more than plenty.

I had one hen do. Went out for lunch and got drunk. It was brill.

YANBU. 2 is sort of normal - one for closest mates, one with mum maybe.
But 3?
You'll all be sick of each other by the time the wedding comes around.
Is this all the brides doing or is it a variety of people connected to her all organising separate things?

Cross post with atonof - I guess I'm a grumpy too!!

The 4th ‘surprise' hen do is at the bride's house? My arse! I'd put money on the bride knowing all about it.

Dear.God.

Someone needs to tell her enough is enough. Getting married is only a big deal to the bride and groom. To everyone else it is mostly a bore. She sounds terribly tedious. Is she usually so self obsessed.

Ems23

No. Hell to the no.

I would reply to all along the lines of "Wow, such a sweet idea. However, we are already doing THREE separate hen do's, which is already pretty excessive. I think we should save some energy for the actual wedding. If you guys want to just hang out with X one evening with drinks then I totally understand, but just because X is getting married, I don't think we need to start tagging every social outing together as a "hen do"

It boggles my mind how any one can be so self obsessed.

Yanbu but it sounds like you're just going to go along with it. You've already agreed to 3 hen dos. What's one more?!

I just do not get the reasoning behind hen dos like this. It's meant to be a last single laugh with your mates, isn't it - not a "cover the bride in gifts and glory because she's choosing to get married". All the fuss and nonsense makes it seem like the bride is doing some sort of selfless good service to society, rather than walking down the aisle.

so its now 4 hen dos? 4???? did you say FOUR?

as for the poem well you have to model it on the 12 days of christmas.....

4 feckin hen dos and a partridge in a pear tree that I'm sure they will be having at the wedding

. I bet you need a different dress for each one too?

That's a nightmare, I'd be unavailable for at least two of these.

I know a few doing 3

1. the big weekend away - usually abroad
2. the mother of the bride one - aka the dull one
3. the uk one - so the ones not close enough to bride get to enjoy the fun too

4 is insane I'm wondering if I know the hen though

how long till the wedding and what can you tell us about the actual prep for The Big Day?? - it must be rather grand to be able to top 4 hen dos