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AIBU to think my brother owes me this money

94 replies

HeavenSpent · 22/03/2015 15:56

We were due to come in to some money, basically my big brother was selling the family business and my sisters and I were going to take our shares out.
It was to be a sizeable windfall. As soon as he made the decision I knew I could make such good use of this money.
We run a pub and it really needs a facelift. My daughter lives far away overseas so we went to see her, and had a holiday as well (business class!), and I promised some money to my step daughter to up-cycle her new business venture.
On holiday we maxed out our cards, safe in the knowledge that it would all be cleared off very soon. Whilst we were away our business suffered a major set back, but again we knew we could give it a great facelift very soon.
But the minute we arrived back, my brother came over and just stated so matter-of-fairly that he actually can't bear to sell the business and that he's very sorry but there's no money. He's known for a while but didn't tell me before as he "didn't want to ruin my holiday".
AIBU to demand the money I was promised? I am in real debt now, and my business is out of full operation for a fair while too. He promised me!!

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Original poster
HeavenSpent · 22/03/2015 18:35

Sorry it's tricky trying to cook Sunday lunches in The Room Upstairs using just one microwave. Our poor resident chef has met an untimely end Sad

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diddl · 22/03/2015 18:36

I've heard of the Archers & would recognise the theme tune.
Don't know any of the characters names or the plotlines though.

i always thought that it was for old folk to listen toGrin

Never known anyone in RL listen to it!

emotionsecho · 22/03/2015 18:40

Indeed Ooodear - the sod's law rule, no word from OP for hours and then just as I point it out as if by magic the OP reappearsSmile.

LineRunner · 22/03/2015 18:42

Snoreathon

JuliaDream · 22/03/2015 18:42

There is an Archers thread on here somewhere, OP.

You could go and discuss your fictional predicament on there.

BayMax · 22/03/2015 18:45

Wtf is The Archers?!

aquashiv · 22/03/2015 18:45

A sale of a business is not an immediate transaction.

There was no money to spend.
You were mighty fast in spending it.
How will you pay it back?

Oodear · 22/03/2015 18:47

And the added fun of these threads is you can tell who hasn't read the whole thing Wink

londonrach · 22/03/2015 18:48

Whats the archers? Thinking this might be some cheap reality show judging by comments?

Oodear · 22/03/2015 18:52

The Archers-Radio 4 soap it's been going forever.

ragged · 22/03/2015 18:53

YANBU. Aren't your sisters outraged too? Family eh, who'd have 'em? Definitely you should sue your bother for compensation. would make a great storyline

MissDuke · 22/03/2015 18:58

Op I have never listened to the Archers, but I am pretty sure its not real. In fact, based on that, I think it can be concluded that you are not a lead character in it. Sorry to break that to you Sad

Oodear · 22/03/2015 19:06

MissDuke- I think that's probably good news based on their financial situation Grin

AGirlCalledBoB · 22/03/2015 19:07

LondonRach

It's a really old radio show, my great-gran used to listen to it

toldmywrath · 22/03/2015 19:50

There is a ring of truth to this, Jolene wanted a new one. You shouldn't cross the bridge before it's built as pp said Grin . Oooh Nooo I would've been in floods of tears when I returned from my holiday.

londonrach · 22/03/2015 20:03

Have googled mntters! I cant believe a great gran listened to this. My gran (would be over 100 if she not left us now) never listened. In fact as id never heard of it no one is my very large extended family. Is it well known?

Oodear · 22/03/2015 20:06

Yep.

ColdCottage · 22/03/2015 20:10

Is this not the plot from the Archers?
Not read anything apart from OP.
If not just sell your shares in the business to someone else.

CrapBag · 22/03/2015 20:10

Oh what a load of shit.

Hate threads like this.

Bore off onto a board where it may be appreciated and not AIBU where most (I hope) are posting genuinely.

Oodear · 22/03/2015 20:31

AIBU & genuine posts? I've not believed much recently Sad

TamzinGrey · 22/03/2015 20:43

Sorry to upset you even more OP, but, assuming that you are Kenton, he isn't your "big brother". You are older than David.

AGirlCalledBoB · 22/03/2015 20:47

Londonrach we are a family of young parents so I am in my early 20s and my great gran is 84. She is a great-great gran now! The Archers started in 1950-51 so she used to listen to it.

My nan was only 37 when I was born.

TowerRavenSeven · 22/03/2015 20:47

It's a hard lesson to learn, but YABU. We learned the lesson when dh was getting massive "bonuses" at work. More than a third of his salary. Things were only going to get better. We bought a huge house, no problem with the inevitable bonus each year.

Except that they did keep doing well. And they stopped giving massive bonuses. Then they stopped giving ANY bonuses. We were up shit's creek without a paddle.

We struggled for five years and finally moved, downsized our house to a much more reasonable mortgage/size, and we Never, Ever count on any promised money again unless it is in our hands.

TowerRavenSeven · 22/03/2015 20:53

Oh ffs. Shows me to read the whole thread before posting. Glad someone has time to make up crap posts. Thanks for wasting my time OP.

BlackeyedSusan · 22/03/2015 22:20

oh op, really? you were never one to be sensible with money. now you are in the Am up the creek with no paddle and a load of hubcaps, mud and a grill from a barbeque

I do think your little brother should lend you some money to help out though.

you seem to be taking the death of a much loved employee rather flippantly, shame on you.