Is there anyone else out there who has just found out they are expecting their third DS and coping with OTHER PEOPLE'S OBVIOUS disappointment?

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I am delighted to be expecting our third DS. We have two utterly delightful boys and I am very lucky to be pregnant again with another healthy baby. We found out that it is a boy and today I started telling people.

Perhaps it is because we have had our family in quite a short space of time, our oldest is only 2, or perhaps I am full of hormones but the obvious disappointment that other people experience supposedly on our behalf has really brought me down.

If I wasn't so upset in other people's lack of excitement I would be angry.

Anyone else out there experiencing something similar?

AIBU to feel disappointed in the reaction of others?

YANBU,No experience but i do find it downright rude

YANBU, however 3 under 3? I'm getting palpitations just thinking about it!

The woman in the local shop said 'what, no girls? Are you DISAPPOINTED???' But it is even kind and lovely people that I like. I can see it in their eyes. It really upsets me, like my boys are not quite good enough. How dare they?

Congratulations op. It is rude (I had the same; have a dss and two ds's)

Yip, 3 under 3.

The soon to be middle DS and youngest DS may have the same birthday!

Our youngest was 11 weeks old when I found out I was pregnant again!

Yes I can relate, 3 dds and when pregnant with dd all I heard was "oh I expect DH is really hoping this one will be a boy" but I knew from 4 months we were having another lovely dd and we were both genuinely pleased as punch to have a healthy baby dd. Then after she was born people kept saying, "will you keep trying for a ds?" As if we'd only had the third in an attempt to even things out with a ds (for DH of course) ffs, used to wind me up!

Congratulations! I think it's really lovely to have three of the same gender in such a short time - they will have an absolute ball growing up.

YANBU.
3 under 3? You are bonkers.... Good luck!

Congrats op. I had two DSs and was pregnant with my third, everyone and their dog assumed we wanted a girl and I, like you was insulted on behalf of my wonderful boys......in my case I did have a dd, but I would have loved another boy too.

I had this. Twats.

Congratulations

YANBU. It is very rude. I'll never forget how much it hurt when my area manager at work noticed I was pregnant and said 'please tell me it's a girl, we don't want any boys, yuk.' I'd just had my 20wk scan and found out I was having a son, I was gutted.

Everyone says "when you have your next baby (I'm not 100% I want another) I bet you'll want a girl." I always feel angry and want to say actually my reproductive choices aren't anything to do with you, and for WIW, I'd love another son, as my DS is such a joy.

Best of luck OP. People are dicks.

We had twins as our 2nd pg so 3 under school age. It was busy but fun. We got lots of comments re being disappointed as all 3 are dds and dh got more of that than me. people couldn't grasp that dh was delighted. In other words, people are idiots! Huge congratulations - 3 dc is fab

Yes - whilst I was expecting DS3 a lady asked me if I knew what I was having. When I replied that it was a boy she asked me outright if I was really disappointed. My older two DS are so lovely and beautiful (in my eyes obviously) and DS3 had come as a massive but angst filled surprise soon after a traumatic miscarriage. I was absolutely gutted that she asked me that and I went home and cried.

I had no doubts that I loved and wanted him with all my heart. I decided to stop telling people the sex because I didn't want to feel that way again.

Congratulations on your beautiful boy. I can only tell you that my three boys bring me the greatest joy as I'm quite sure yours will too.

People just say some totally unhelpful things. FWIW I had a total stranger come up to me when I was about 6 months pregnant with DC2&3 and say "you should have had a bigger gap between children". Obviously I was more massive than I should have been as it was twins and there was only 19 months between them but even so, what was the point? I was clearly committed by that stage!

(YANBU btw)

iLove I had 3 under 2 and it's busy but fun.

I have one of each, and am constantly told how 'lucky' I am and how I don't 'need' to have any more, and that gets on my bloody nerves, so imagine you have it worse.
YANBU

I had this - DS3 was the only one I found out the sex in advance. I had people openly pitying me, in front of my DSs (5 and 3 when DS3 came along). I perfected my Paddington Bear hard stare, and acted baffled as if I thought they were total wankers for pitying me. Which I did . Children are fab, whatever their sex. My boys are all so different, utterly gorgeous and totally delightful. Congratulations and have fun with your sons .

Oh 3 boys, I'm so envious!!! I have two, would love a third!

I think I would start calling people on this, especially with the downright rude responses. I think a withering look and a "do fuck off" would be sufficient.

Congratulations, what a fantastic little gang of lads you'll have!!!

And 3 under 3! Gosh, I had 2 under 2 and that was bloody hard, you need a medal OP.

Congratulations btw

I have two boys then my third was an unexpected girl. We had lots of people saying "you must be really pleased that you've now got a girl" I always felt really sad for my sons. They would be stood there hearing all this and what must they have thought? You can't win really!

Yep, been there! DS3 was due on DS2's birthday but he came 4 days early.

The comments "Oh that's a shame, maybe next time?" When finding out it was a 3rd boy made me really, really cross. I'm pregnant again with DC4 and they've said at the 20 week scan that it's most likely a girl, people have taken to saying (IN FRONT OF MY BOYS) "oh finally, you must be delighted to be getting a girl!"

Absolute arses the lot of them.

Congratulations, 3 boys is lovely to have.

I have 3 boys and if I had a £ for everytime someone said something along the lines of "you must want a girl" or "will you have another to try for a girl?" Or "ooooooo! 3 boys?! How do you cope / I don't envy you / your house must be crazy" etc etc et fucking c then I could have probably bought a private Island in the Caribbean.

It drives me nuts! I have 2 friends with 3 boys and 1 who had her 3rd boy last week - they all get the same. It's bloody RUDE!!!!! Personally, I would have been happy whatever I had, I consider myself so incredibly lucky to have had 3 (mostly) easy pregnancies, 3 straightforward births and 3 healthy babies (and me). Congratulations! It'll be awesome

And as if you get to choose the sex anyway!! Sorry, will stop ranting now.

Twats

Congrats op! I know what you mean. When I was pg with dc3 I had this, as you say it's also the people that don't say it but you can tell they think it. And yes I was always really offended as to me they was saying my boys weren't good enough. As it happens dc3 is a dd but I find it just as infuriating that people comment how pleased I must be that she's a girl etc etc, so basically they're still saying my wonderful boys weren't enough! Bloody people.

Congrats on your wonderful boys OP