This isn't sexist at all.

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In my DH works on night shifts each of the wives/partners cook for all the men on shift.

I'm happy with it and so are all the other women, we have been doing this for years. It means they all get a hot home made meal.

The 1 partner of a new man who has started has pulled a strop and said it sexiest and very 1950.

The reason we all enjoy cooking them as we can step away from cooking 'kids' meals and kick up the heat on curries and jerk chicken ect.
While I accept that children do eat these kind of meals within our friendship group all these are always done mild.

IABU to think it is not sexiest.

In able to do this many years ago with the Christmas bonus they brought a George foreman, slow cooker, pressure cooker and a rice cooker. Due to H&S the only thing they haven't got is a deep fat fryer. But all the others have been PACT tested.

And of course *Silver, it would be interested to find out to what extent the men feel pressure within their peer group to have compliant wives and to what extent the women feel under pressure to conform. The "It's just a nice thing we do for our partners" comment was very telling I think.

Sorry Piper that really doesn't answer the questions I posed.

While I am doing this DH is in bed so he can sleep before going into work

Here's an idea. When he's not working - on a day off, he could make it and freeze it.

I bet other partners and their husbands are doing that. You know, making their own meals on a day off, freezing it and bringing it - but fobbing it off as being made by their wives at home because "I wear the trousers in my house"

I don't think the families are going to be in financial difficulties if the bonuses are being spent on grills and slow cookers, surely it can't be more than about £2.50 per person per item.

piper

It's a good idea. Don't get me wrong. It is nice that people cook for their husbands. And it does save money.

But...why should all the wives do it instead of their husbands?
Are you sure none of the husbands are doing it but not telling their mates?

I bet many are.

www.georgeforeman.co.uk/entertaining-grills/entertaining-10-portion-grill-18911.html

The fry up man uses this grill.

This cooks the sausages and bacon. The toast is done in the toaster and beans, tomatoes and scrambled eggs are done in the microwave in batches.

While it his turn he takes over the phone and then writes the information on the board.

wooldoner I'm referring to the principle not the amount involved.
Orlando you might be right.

Piper as you're here could you enlighten us regarding the other questions?

I don't care how other families do it, if the man cooks then who cares.

It'd be cheaper and tastier if you used meat on the bone

Poor old Piper

So why didn't your husband simply contact his work colleague? Why did you use his phone to contact the woman through her husband?

Ilovesotty.

I'm trying to keep up on this thread, but you have made a great contribution to this thread so not quite sure which question is specifically for me.

piper

So why did you say "she pulled a strop"?

Do you think it is sexist to expect the wife to cook the meal?

That's they key question. Not about the actual concept but the expectation the wife would cook.

If she is expected to cook, that's sexist - as your OP has asked,

I appreciate you may have answered this already - so apologies if you have.

If the man cooks who cares
I don't care how other families do it

That isn't consistent with it's a nice thing we do for our partners

I don't have her number, I used DH phone because it has the husbands number on it.

As I have said a few time I didn't mean to imply that she had to do it. I was trying to make her feel included.

I can see now my error in my judgement on this.

Next time someone new starts then I will not bother.

So if someone new starts, looks like there might be more fry ups then

Unless the bloke likes cooking for his mates as well.

Actually - you'd have thought the single bloke could do more than a fry up. It does show limited imagination.

No doubt us women do the cooking as the men are sleeping.

I know that because you can't do a night shift for a week with out sleep.

I still don't see why your husband didn't just contact his colleague. Why did he even think it appropriate to facilitate you contacting the woman like this? Glad you're not planning to repeat it.

So how so you mange to fit in cooking and sleeping?

Manage

As an aside my Dad used to cook us kids evening meal as he got in before my Mum. It was an unwritten family unrule, that it was not something to share outside the family, in case he would appear hen-pecked. Admittedly this was the 1960s, but I strongly suspect this is what is going on here.

Hats off to you piper for returning to the thread.

You mean the poor men only have time to work or sleep?

How was the decision arrived at across all these families to spend the bonus on the equipment? Is this the first new arrival since the original decision?

In fairness, most people would have abandoned the thread or requested deletion by now. And piper did say pages ago that she accepted there was a sexist interpretation she hadn't seen (paraphrasing).