This isn't sexist at all.

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In my DH works on night shifts each of the wives/partners cook for all the men on shift.

I'm happy with it and so are all the other women, we have been doing this for years. It means they all get a hot home made meal.

The 1 partner of a new man who has started has pulled a strop and said it sexiest and very 1950.

The reason we all enjoy cooking them as we can step away from cooking 'kids' meals and kick up the heat on curries and jerk chicken ect.
While I accept that children do eat these kind of meals within our friendship group all these are always done mild.

IABU to think it is not sexiest.

In able to do this many years ago with the Christmas bonus they brought a George foreman, slow cooker, pressure cooker and a rice cooker. Due to H&S the only thing they haven't got is a deep fat fryer. But all the others have been PACT tested.

I can believe this setup exists. My mother would do it. She would be right there making cricket teas too lest anyone gossip about her not providing for her man. When my parents and their friends (in their 60s) go on their annual golfing weekend the wives get together the week before to plan the menu and shopping list.

"And yet somehow only easy for women. Funny, that."

Who has said that?

Me, just now. LTR.

Ok. I disagree that's it's only easy for women. I'm sure many men are capable of cooking for large numbers of people.

Oh my goodness. bumbleymummy are you actually real?

I'm sure many men are capable of cooking for large numbers of people.

No shit sherlock.

When my parents and their friends (in their 60s) go on their annual golfing weekend the wives get together the week before to plan the menu and shopping list

I'm thinking back now. I remember back in the 70s when we had sailing club events. I seem to remember the wives doing all the food whilst the men sailed. And then they waited in the clubhouse whilst the men did their stuff.

This was the 70s mind.

Given their talent for cooking for numbers and pulling together, I think the wives should start an outside catering business and get making money rather than just saving it

Many men are capable of cooking for large numbers of people? Really?

They would be these creatures called "chefs" then, would they?

There is no reason why either sex would be "better" at catering for large numbers.

Just as there is no reason to suppose all the men enjoy the spicy food that is cooked for them. Being in possession of a penis does not mean you automatically like spicy food. Maybe some of them are longing for the simpler days of a pot noodle or a cup a soup and a sandwich?

Alternative - see Anniegetyourgun's previous posts :)

You too Katie - my post was in response to AnnieGetYourGun.

I don't think you have quite grasped Annie's sarcasm bumbleymummy.

the only situation where I could see such set up is if all the peopel involved are very close friends and that, in some ways, the men can come up with a similar offer (let's say cooking once a month for everyone at the weekend or something).
Otherwise, mind boggles.

As for 'microwave food is much more expensive', well why not cooking ONE meal for him to take away and warm up in the microwave? Or even better, why not him cooking ameal for his supper and warming it in the microwave? I don't know I seem to be well able to do that everyday (I'm having my evening meal at worrk too...)

"And yet somehow only easy for women. Funny, that."

Doesn't look sarcastic to me. Particularly when I asked her who was saying that and she answered that she was. :)

Ha, that's you two told! How dare you join in a private conversation. It's not as if it's an open forum - oh.

Annie's sarcasm was in reply to my comment I think? Someone told me how easy it was to cook for 20 men as I thought it sounded a lot to take on.

As I don't have a penis I struggle with organizing and cooking spicy food for so many men.

bumbleymummy, quite obviousy Annie was being ironic. Hence the "funny that" at the end. HTH

They're very welcome to join in Annie - just pointing out that my comment was written in response to you. It wasn't a random observation.

Nope. Still don't think it was sarcastic. :)

Doesn't look sarcastic to me

You need to look up some definitions.

1 - sarcasm
2 - sexism

It was, you need to read it in context.

You probably will always struggle, truth be told. But you can bask in the warm glow of knowing you are doing your feeble female best and that the men are getting that hit meal they deserve. Because it is a truth universally acknowledged that real men canno subsist on sandwiches during a night shift.

However, I am still perplexed as to why husband if woman if the day doesn't do the cooking himself before he goes to work? Surely that would be the sensible thing to do?

[ignores fact bumble doesn't get the drift of the coversation]

Annie's sarcasm was in reply to my comment I think?

Yes it was, BuzzardBird. I am convinced by both logic and observation that most men are as capable, or incapable as the case may be, of cooking for 20 and yet the expectation is that the nearest woman (because employees come equipped with a free wife at no extra charge to the company, don't y'know) will pick up the task in her stride. Which is where we came in.

(I haven't had a decent curry since DS2 moved out last year, it's mostly microwave meals or cheese on toast now - and that bit's not sarcasm, that's fact.)

I don't think I would have survived in the 50's.

That can't be right Annie! (that was sarcasm too bumbley ;) )

Am as to why it didn't come over loud and clear as sarcasm, it wasn't subtle!