To ask a very trivial question about MIL and warming milk

[TheOddity]

MIL is a kind, generous and genuinely lovely person, but there's just this characteristic that really winds me up. I think IABU but wanted to get your take on it.

Every time we go to stay and have breakfast, MIL always gives my DS his usual breakfast and glass of milk and says "do you warm the milk for him?". I always reply "no, he prefers it cold". She then always replies "not even a little bit so it isn't cold in his stomach". I then always reply "no, just straight from the fridge is fine". She then always replies "Well you should leave it out for half an hour before or add a bit of warm milk to get it to room temperature". I then always say "i think he'll live, he likes it cold, as do I".

He is three, i do ask if he wants warm milk now and then but he says no. I know this is so utterly trivial and a none-problem but all the same, this plays out at every breakfast. If we stayed three days, I'd have this conversation each day in a row. AIBU to want to scream? I have tried different responses, jokes, pure Monty Python non sequiturs but nothing deviates her from this course of conversation.

There is also a very similar one about my negligence of squeezing oranges for him each day (and adding sugar) rather than giving him his usual carton of fresh juice.

I'm horrible and ungrateful aren't I?

My mum has done weird idea that drinking a cold drink with food will
Make any fats congeal in your stomach, I gave told her that isn't possible due to simple biology but she keeps trotting this advice out. She is horrified that mcdonalds etc give you a cold drink as 'the cold will make that food congeal inside you'

ToriaPumpkin I was being ironic. Of course no-one can know everything about everything.
I think I am a good MIL but my DILs would have to be polled to make sure, as it is a difficult relationship to get right. I don't offer advice that's for sure.

Re butter on a bump - it's a real thing. There's an enzyme in milk that reduces swelling and bruising. I've used it on DD many times (drove me mad that soft play places tend to have yucky margerine instead of proper butter when I've needed it - the local one has now switched!).

The butter on a bruise made me curious as I vaguely remembered it from way back, so I looked it up and found this, not sure quite how accurate it is!:

Butter on a Bruise?

Yes it works. If you haven’t heard, if you get punched in the face or bump your noggin, you should put butter on in right away. This will help prevent bruising and I’ll tell you why. Your skin is very vascular (meaning lots of blood vessels in it) when you bounce your fore head off of a pole the tissue gets irritated and releases histamines into the surrounding area. The histamines break down the cell walls of your blood vessels and cause you to bleed into the tissue thus presenting a bruise. The cell walls of your vessels are made up of phospholipids and that is what is dissolved when the histamine is released. Granted a number of vessels break on impact but not so many it goes all the way up to your knee when you sprain your ankle, once again histamine is the culprit. Anyway back to the butter. Butter is full of fat which is high in phosphate; phosphate is the leading ingredient in phospholipids which make up the blood vessel cell walls. By applying butter you sustain those phospholipids and prevent bleeding into the tissue. This is the same reason putting raw steak on a potential bruise can help, because it is packed with phosphate. Now a cold pack that you all are so familiar with helps slow the release of histamines and reduce the chemical reaction brought on by it. But in the end it won’t stop the histamine forever. And that is the why behind the butter on the bruise. P.S. using real butter is better than margarine but margarine will still work because it is fortified with phosphate.

In Turkey where my ds and his family live, there is a belief that food and drink should never be too hot or too cold. My ddil's grandad recently died aged 102 and put his longevity down to eating/drinking only warm food and always wearing hand knitted long underwear/vests (even in a Turkish Summer)!