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To ask a very trivial question about MIL and warming milk

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TheOddity · 20/03/2015 00:31

MIL is a kind, generous and genuinely lovely person, but there's just this characteristic that really winds me up. I think IABU but wanted to get your take on it.

Every time we go to stay and have breakfast, MIL always gives my DS his usual breakfast and glass of milk and says "do you warm the milk for him?". I always reply "no, he prefers it cold". She then always replies "not even a little bit so it isn't cold in his stomach". I then always reply "no, just straight from the fridge is fine". She then always replies "Well you should leave it out for half an hour before or add a bit of warm milk to get it to room temperature". I then always say "i think he'll live, he likes it cold, as do I".

He is three, i do ask if he wants warm milk now and then but he says no. I know this is so utterly trivial and a none-problem but all the same, this plays out at every breakfast. If we stayed three days, I'd have this conversation each day in a row. AIBU to want to scream? I have tried different responses, jokes, pure Monty Python non sequiturs but nothing deviates her from this course of conversation.

There is also a very similar one about my negligence of squeezing oranges for him each day (and adding sugar) rather than giving him his usual carton of fresh juice.

I'm horrible and ungrateful aren't I?

OP posts:
MissYamabuki · 20/03/2015 07:46

I think it's a generational thing. My DM thinks serving cold, or even room temperature milk is practically child neglect. MIL is truly upset when we give the kids food without gravy (as in risotto for example HmmGrin) etc

Just say no thank you and ignore...

HellKitty · 20/03/2015 07:47

Warm milk, bleurgh Confused

My DM keeps milk in a jug out all day - and possibly night - as it's the correct thing to do. In 1952 maybe. She had the DCs overnight once and they came home with the squits. I blamed the milk.

woolshortage · 20/03/2015 08:28

Ah but MIL's always know best, don't you realise??

Mine suggested making semolina for breakfast for DC when a baby (German thing). I said no thanks, both kids detest semolina. MIL says: 'Oh but all children love semolina. You mustn't be making it right.' No really they don't like it, says I.

Next morning she gets up half an hour earlier and when I get into the dining room she is force feeding DC a bowl of 'correctly-made semolina'. I was so childishly thrilled when DC spewed it back out at her and wouldn't take another spoonful. She whipped it off the table and back to the kitchen and no another word was said about it. Weird eh?

woolshortage · 20/03/2015 08:30

HellKitty - mine does that leaving things out the fridge business too. Also has leftovers in pans on the stove for three days and serves up leftovers days later. Must have a cast-iron gut.

Icimoi · 20/03/2015 08:32

Take a good book or newspaper down to breakfast with you, say "mm" occasionally as she witters on, and tune out.

DoJo · 20/03/2015 08:37

Marsh fresh juice should be given more than occasionally

'Should' or 'can'? I don't think there's any particular reason to encourage juice consumption unless your child is particularly vitamin deficient is there?

Knottyknitter · 20/03/2015 08:38

My mum was llike this with squash when we were kids "would you not like the chill taken off??" No I's quite like ice in it, not tepid ribena.

keepsmiling2015 · 20/03/2015 08:42

Just say - ill as Jim. Ds, would you like your milk warmed? He'll say yes or no. Simple.

Alternatively just be polite and say, I did try him but he didn't like it.

marshmallowpies · 20/03/2015 08:44

I thought the advice about fruit juice was 'once a week'? (This is for a nearly-3-y-o by the way).

I do like fresh orange juice in small quantities but can't bear the taste/texture of smoothies. I also don't like fruit salad so for me I think it's a texture thing, I don't like different fruits mixed together.

Balderdabble · 20/03/2015 08:46

Haha, my MIL insists anything eaten straight out of the fridge will give you a 'cold in your stomach'!! Doesn't matter how many times I tell her that a cold is a virus and there is no such bloody thing as catching a cold in your stomach!!

Flugdrachen · 20/03/2015 08:47

Warm milk is disgusting & infantile.

tired100 · 20/03/2015 08:52

ugh to warm milk - no health benefits and it makes those of us who don't like it feel sick ( I share your school memories of tepid milk)
Does your MIL drink warm milk? If she is of the opinion that your DS has no right to his own likes and dislikes then maybe you can file her under A for archaic or D for dinosaur ? It might help if you think A D A D next time ; )

tired100 · 20/03/2015 08:52

ugh to warm milk - no health benefits and it makes those of us who don't like it feel sick ( I share your school memories of tepid milk)
Does your MIL drink warm milk? If she is of the opinion that your DS has no right to his own likes and dislikes then maybe you can file her under A for archaic or D for dinosaur ? It might help if you think A D A D next time ; )

tired100 · 20/03/2015 08:52

ugh to warm milk - no health benefits and it makes those of us who don't like it feel sick ( I share your school memories of tepid milk)
Does your MIL drink warm milk? If she is of the opinion that your DS has no right to his own likes and dislikes then maybe you can file her under A for archaic or D for dinosaur ? It might help if you think A D A D next time ; )

tired100 · 20/03/2015 08:52

ugh to warm milk - no health benefits and it makes those of us who don't like it feel sick ( I share your school memories of tepid milk)
Does your MIL drink warm milk? If she is of the opinion that your DS has no right to his own likes and dislikes then maybe you can file her under A for archaic or D for dinosaur ? It might help if you think A D A D next time ; )

tired100 · 20/03/2015 08:52

ugh to warm milk - no health benefits and it makes those of us who don't like it feel sick ( I share your school memories of tepid milk)
Does your MIL drink warm milk? If she is of the opinion that your DS has no right to his own likes and dislikes then maybe you can file her under A for archaic or D for dinosaur ? It might help if you think A D A D next time ; )

tired100 · 20/03/2015 08:52

ugh to warm milk - no health benefits and it makes those of us who don't like it feel sick ( I share your school memories of tepid milk)
Does your MIL drink warm milk? If she is of the opinion that your DS has no right to his own likes and dislikes then maybe you can file her under A for archaic or D for dinosaur ? It might help if you think A D A D next time ; )

tired100 · 20/03/2015 08:52

ugh to warm milk - no health benefits and it makes those of us who don't like it feel sick ( I share your school memories of tepid milk)
Does your MIL drink warm milk? If she is of the opinion that your DS has no right to his own likes and dislikes then maybe you can file her under A for archaic or D for dinosaur ? It might help if you think A D A D next time ; )

tired100 · 20/03/2015 08:52

ugh to warm milk - no health benefits and it makes those of us who don't like it feel sick ( I share your school memories of tepid milk)
Does your MIL drink warm milk? If she is of the opinion that your DS has no right to his own likes and dislikes then maybe you can file her under A for archaic or D for dinosaur ? It might help if you think A D A D next time ; )

tired100 · 20/03/2015 08:52

ugh to warm milk - no health benefits and it makes those of us who don't like it feel sick ( I share your school memories of tepid milk)
Does your MIL drink warm milk? If she is of the opinion that your DS has no right to his own likes and dislikes then maybe you can file her under A for archaic or D for dinosaur ? It might help if you think A D A D next time ; )

tired100 · 20/03/2015 08:52

ugh to warm milk - no health benefits and it makes those of us who don't like it feel sick ( I share your school memories of tepid milk)
Does your MIL drink warm milk? If she is of the opinion that your DS has no right to his own likes and dislikes then maybe you can file her under A for archaic or D for dinosaur ? It might help if you think A D A D next time ; )

tired100 · 20/03/2015 08:52

ugh to warm milk - no health benefits and it makes those of us who don't like it feel sick ( I share your school memories of tepid milk)
Does your MIL drink warm milk? If she is of the opinion that your DS has no right to his own likes and dislikes then maybe you can file her under A for archaic or D for dinosaur ? It might help if you think A D A D next time ; )

tired100 · 20/03/2015 08:52

ugh to warm milk - no health benefits and it makes those of us who don't like it feel sick ( I share your school memories of tepid milk)
Does your MIL drink warm milk? If she is of the opinion that your DS has no right to his own likes and dislikes then maybe you can file her under A for archaic or D for dinosaur ? It might help if you think A D A D next time ; )

tired100 · 20/03/2015 08:52

ugh to warm milk - no health benefits and it makes those of us who don't like it feel sick ( I share your school memories of tepid milk)
Does your MIL drink warm milk? If she is of the opinion that your DS has no right to his own likes and dislikes then maybe you can file her under A for archaic or D for dinosaur ? It might help if you think A D A D next time ; )

tired100 · 20/03/2015 08:52

ugh to warm milk - no health benefits and it makes those of us who don't like it feel sick ( I share your school memories of tepid milk)
Does your MIL drink warm milk? If she is of the opinion that your DS has no right to his own likes and dislikes then maybe you can file her under A for archaic or D for dinosaur ? It might help if you think A D A D next time ; )

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