woman on my road had a go at me for my uncle using "her" disabled parking space

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There is someone down my road with a disabled bay outside her house. Its on a public road and parking can be bad here. My uncle came to visit and he is a blue badge holder so seeing as this was the only spot nearby parked there. Just after he left said woman banged on my door and started shouting at me for using her parking space that the council gave to her.

Is this parking space exclusively hers? Aibu to think if not my disabled uncle is fine parking there?

i think it was rude of the lady to shout at op. She could have asked politely for him to move. I think the way she acted made the situation worse.

Did she realise the uncle was also,disabled, or,presumed that a non blue badge holder had parked there, which would explain her anger

My SIL is disabled and does have a designated parking space outside her house, requested from the council. The trouble is, if someone else uses it, she can't get to work. I think if you see one, where you'd not really expect to find one, chances are it's been specially requested by someone. Because they need it to get back into their house and leave for work.

TheFairyCaravan DH is disabled and we have a blue badge but we have never planned where we're going to park. That's why I think it's funny somebody suggested the Uncle did/should have.

Fairy what was the uncle meant to do? Stay at home and never visit another person in a residential street?!

Rivercam, how do you expect the lady to have worked out where the man was, to then be able to go and ask him to move?

And what if she had been so disabled as to be unable to go from her own car in the middle of the road outside her own house, or a random parking space hundreds of metres away, to the OP's house, even if she did know where the man was?

What if she was so exhausted by the pain-in-the-arse obstacle course to her own front door that she couldn't face leaving the house to go to the OP's house?

The uncle knew nothing of this lady's disability. He just didn't give a shit.

wayfaring what was he planning to do before he saw the available disabled space?

WayfaringStranger, I think you're projecting an awful lot here. Presumably most people live on a road with a slightly more reasonable parking situation (than the OP's) and if not, the person they were visiting would be willing to help enable their access without preventing someone else's. Your struggle with the council sounds like a giant pain in the arse, but that situation is not this situation. I'm sure plenty of people would sympathise with you being tempted to use your neighbour's space.

I'm not 'projecting' any more than other posters who have shared their personal experiences.

I am sharing my dilemma to explain that some of us understand why people would park instead of just labelling them twats. It's not just on my street. For my job, I visit people at home. Parking is a nightmare on some residential streets. I manage because I have to and because I have the physical ability to but not everyone can.

I'm out now, said my piece, bed is calling.

I've repeated myself but anyway, I've said that if people cannot park, some if them have no choice but to go home.

I have no idea about the uncle's plans because I'm not him!!

So why did you say this then what was the uncle meant to do? Stay at home and never visit another person in a residential street?!.

Obviously if this was a planned trip he had thought about ability to park, and presumably it wasn't the first time he'd visited. I'm sure he doesn't only visit when the woman isn't at home

i think it was rude of the lady to shout at op. She could have asked politely for him to move. I think the way she acted made the situation worse.

Does it occur to you that maybe she was in pain, probably rather a lot of pain, and stressed out - due to the fact that, as a person with a disability, she was unable to park near her house in the space she had gone to some trouble to apply for? Yes, in an ideal world she shouldn't have shouted, but it's understandable, isn't it?

Definelty rude. Although for all we know this woman applied and went thorough the lengthy process only for this to happen time and time again because people felt entitled to it.

Definitely*

Sometimes if I cannot access places, I turn around and go home.

This may be a debate for some of you but real life - every bloody day - for some of us.

It's everyday for me too. I drive a motability vehicle and have a child with a very severe and complex disability who is a blue badge holder. There have been numerous times where I have had to turn around and go home due to not being able to park done where suitable. Of course being able to go home frustrated and annoyed is much better than not being able to go home because some selfish git has occupied a space which I fought to get and there is nowhere else to park which means I can get my child into the house.
Residential disabled bays which have been applied for by an individual are very different to other disabled parking bays.

The sooner all councils allocate these spaces properly and specify that they are for a specific person the better.

Fairy what was the uncle meant to do? Stay at home and never visit another person in a residential street?!

Not all residential streets have disabled bays, Wayfaring, so in a lot of streets he'd have to park anywhere, so he should have done the same here.