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Original poster

woman on my road had a go at me for my uncle using "her" disabled parking space

166 replies

sPJPPp · 18/03/2015 20:46

There is someone down my road with a disabled bay outside her house. Its on a public road and parking can be bad here. My uncle came to visit and he is a blue badge holder so seeing as this was the only spot nearby parked there. Just after he left said woman banged on my door and started shouting at me for using her parking space that the council gave to her.

Is this parking space exclusively hers? Aibu to think if not my disabled uncle is fine parking there?

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NeedABumChange · 18/03/2015 22:29

M pretty sure when you get one painted that they do say other blue badge holders can use it.

Icimoi · 18/03/2015 22:34

I think it is pretty inconsiderate to use the space knowing that a disabled person lives there and won't be able to park near to her home as a result. OP, I suggest if your uncle comes to visit again you either arrange a taxi for him or take steps to ensure that the space nearest your home is kept free.

Rivercam · 18/03/2015 22:35

I can understand she would be cross if someone was repeatedly using it. However, as a one-off, and for a genuine blue badge holder she should have been more considerate.

QueenBean · 18/03/2015 22:35

wayfaring sounds like you need to invest in a tin of yellow paint and a paintbrush, if yaknowwhaddimean WinkWinkWink

Rivercam · 18/03/2015 22:38

I also thin k banging and shouting was a bit rude, and perhaps be co side rate of your uncle's situation also.

Priceypizza · 18/03/2015 22:42

ds has a disabled bay. It's permit only and we have to display the permit and his blue badge

worridmum · 18/03/2015 23:01

truth be told I think other bourghs of the UK should take the lead of my sisters bourgh you need both a permit (personal permit) and a blue badge to park in residental street disabled bays as without it my sister would not be able to get out of her car and to her own home (parking is diabolical since the new train station opened a couple of years ago)

With all the hoops people have to go through to actully get these spaces I belive the people who applied for them should get prioty over them rather then visitors to the street as without these spaces the person who lives there cannot get to there own homes so i think all bourghs should be like my sisters that is designed / permited only for the application of the space

Samcro · 18/03/2015 23:05

sadly any BB holder can park in them. bloody stupid imo. you go to all the trouble of getting a bay and someone else parks in them.

LuisSuarezTeeth · 18/03/2015 23:27

You do have a colourful life OP Grin

GraysAnalogy · 19/03/2015 00:43

Legally he's done nothing wrong but morally? She got it put there because she needed it, now every tom dick and harry is using it? Not exactly fair.

houseofnerds · 19/03/2015 00:54

It could be hers... We had to request a disabled space to be put outside our hOuse. In most places they do put the house number on, or put up a sign, but not always.

I would be mighty pissed off if I came home and found someone parked in our disabled bay, tbh.

Scram · 19/03/2015 05:46

no sympathy, if you want a guaranteed parking space GET A FUCKING HOUSE WITH A DRIVEWAY

VivaLeBeaver · 19/03/2015 06:25

If the disabled person moves house yes it does normally get removed.

There was one near me which was never used as the person who it had been put in for had moved. After years of been annoyed by having to drive past a decent space that I couldn't use I rang the council. Who agreed that the person had moved and the space should have been removed. It was gone within a week.

VivaLeBeaver · 19/03/2015 06:27

It was always empty btw. I live in a village and there's no other bb holder here.

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sPJPPp · 19/03/2015 06:34

I can understand a little bit if she had to pay for it and took a lot of work, but it was just once for a few hours and my uncle looked in much greater need than her. She is off most of the time in her flat in Spain, so I don't think she uses it much.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 19/03/2015 06:36

It isn't hers alone.

However since she was not "off in her flat in spain" and presumably has the blue badge as she NEEDS to park close to her house, it was somewhat thoughtless to park there and understandable that she was put out.

letscookbreakfast · 19/03/2015 06:41

It's not hers but I can definitely understand why she'd be angry, your uncle was very inconsiderate.

calmexterior · 19/03/2015 06:44

YABU
Very inconsiderate

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 19/03/2015 06:45

You can't tell who has greater need by looking either.

MitchellMummy · 19/03/2015 06:47

Slightly digressing, I once parked outside a neighbour's house. Totally legally. My car was keyed. Neighbour won - I never parked there again! Whenever neighbours with disabled bays have stopped driving/passed on, their spaces have been taken away.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 19/03/2015 06:50

Yes scram. That's the answer to accessibility for people with disabilities . Just "get a fucking house with a driveway"

Hmm
fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 19/03/2015 06:51

It's too early for all the mahoosive ignorance all over MN this morning Brew x 1000

letscookbreakfast · 19/03/2015 06:55

As a disabled person with a blue badge, I'm appalled by Scram's comment.

Only1scoop · 19/03/2015 06:56

Yabu

If it's outside her house and was put there for her then I wouldn't park there. It's outside her house for a reason.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 19/03/2015 06:57

Letscook yes it was grim, wasn't it Brew