what ARE we allowed to be judgy about?

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according to MNetters, we shouldn't judge parents who let their children get tattoos; people who let their 14 yo dd sleep with a boyfriend;people who don't give up their seats on buses; people who feed their kids shite day in and day out;people who are happy to live on benefits when they are capable of working..teenagers who go off to Syria to join terrorist groups..... the list goes on.
is there anything acceptable to be judgy about or is every lifestyle choice acceptable and no comment should be made

The pink thing baffles me I don't get it it as if a girl who likes a bit of glitter is somehow defective it's really strange

But we can embrace the boy who wears a tutu and fairy wings i don't understand it

I think we're entitled to be judgey about judges with poor judgement.

(Like the ones who used work computers to watch porn and then got sacked.)

according to MNetters

The clue is in that final s. MNetters are numerous and diverse. There is no MN hive mind.

No one should have a tattoo under 18.

Preciousbane, you have gone too far there, you should have omitted "under 18".

Sorry, but I do judge tattoos, even those on my own lovely DGS.

*To me, this sums up a lot of Mumsnetters, perfectly. They fall over themselves to be liberal leftie and tolerant and inclusive , but look at the angst about living in the right house in the right road in the right naice village with the right schools and naice middle class shops and restaurants on the doorstep.

But of course, such a house costs so much that only the very well off could ever afford such a property and the locality will be dominated by other naice middle class people, apart from the odd working class person who has won the lottery or done well in their own business for example.*

Perfectly sums up the shower of Champagne Socialist, Metropolitan elite shit that is the present Labour party too.

We all judge, it's human nature. However, it's what we do with that judginess that matters.

I often say to my DM, yes, you have the right to your opinion. However, you do not necessarily have the right to express it.

I judge plenty of things on MN and in RL and sometimes I just raise an internal eyebrow and move on.

allowing an under 18 year old to get a tattoo is a crime but seems to be fine in MN

If it troubles you, then report to the police anyone who does tattoos to under 18s.

I do my very best not to be judgey about looks, but then again I'm a bit of hypocrite because I will bitch with the best of them about too much makeup and those ridiculous hd eyebrows.

But I am comfortable with being judgey about people who send their child in to school with cold chips and a coke in their packed lunch (as has happened on an actual thread here). Of course it may have been a one-off and of course the parent/carer may be suffering from depression, but my being judgey on an anonymous forum doesn't change anything.

I only judge in extreme circumstances and I consider that packed lunch to be extremely bad.

The only way around being very opinionated/judgy is you have to prepared to be judged/offended back at some point in life and deal with it graciously.....no one likes.a pissy whinge bag,

Armchairathlete contraceptive abusers haha...although that kinda sounds like they use too much contraception ...maybe

I judge people who let their dogs shit all over the place and don't pick up.

Oh yes I do & I judge them very harshly too!

be cool

What if the owners are disabled? What if they are having a bad day? Maybe they are living with an abuser that doesn't let them pick up poo?

Judginess is about expressing disapproval, and thus sending a message of what is acceptable, and what is not. Some things are nobody else's business. It is non of your business if you don't like the clothes I wear or the way I decorate my house.
Some judginess is necessary. So yes, it is not okay for my neighbour to let her toddler run around outside only in his nappy at 12pm alone. Or for their dog to roam free shitting everywhere.

Oh and I know its wrong of me, but I do judge people on here who brag about how much money they have. I know its anonymous and I know I shouldn't let it bother me, but I flinch a bit when I see it. I am quite old and was brought up to believe it is crass and vulgar to flash your cash.

HD eyebrows look ridiculous just because something is in fashion doesn't mean you should do it I want a campaign to point and laugh at everybody with HD eyebrows

If it troubles you, then report to the police anyone who does tattoos to under 18s
I don't personally know anyone who does. My comment was based on surprise that people are non judgy about an illegal act against a child

I really hate when people get in first and sneer about those who may mention disabilities in an attempt to close them down before they even speak.

Even though these people may have a valid contribution like anyone else.

I like to think I don't judge because I realise there's a reason everyone does what they do, I always want to try and empathise and understand. But I don't sit on the fence either, I do have strong opinions on a lot of things.

There's things I'd rather people didn't do such as smoking, smacking children, voting UKIP... But in the same breath I certainly try my best not to judge anyone who does because they have their reasons for doing it. And I'm not perfect, I've done many things a lot of other people would look down on so given that I don't think I have a right to judge anyone.

Op: I'm judgy about everything in your opening post.

Really, you can't take what people say on the internet seriously, most people talk complete shite.

Greggs sausage rolls , naice ham, oh, and wine choices. Photos on walls or in frames, shoes on or off, and whether the dc like olives.

You can judgey about whatever you like it people might not like being told that they are 'in the wrong'.

Judge away, but if you feel the need to tell others then be prepared for a spirited debate at the very least.

I have plenty of opinions and don't mind defending them .

You can judge all you like, but your judgements are not facts they are just your opinions.

So expect other posters to have different opinions. Or we would all just be posting 'What she said'

And there would be no bunfights.

I really don't mind if you let your 14 yr old get a tattoo and have sex with their BF/GF but what I judge is people who swear at young kids and spit in the street. There really isn't any conceivable excuse to do either