wibu to never let this woman anywere near my family again

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Got into an argument with DH's step sister yesterday about something she said about our 3yr old son, it went from a telephone argument to her turning up at my house swearing and shouting in the street which scared my DS and then she grabbed me by hair n tried to drag me off my own doorstep , I should point out I am 32wks pregnant so my instant reaction is if she can attack me whilst my son is within sight and while im pregnant she should not be let anywere near him again , he is now afraid her and was up late sayin "aunty x is scary she hurt mummy" so clearly he saw what she did , DH wants me to speak to police but she has 3 kids n I don't want them seein there mum hauled off in cuffs I really don't know what to do.

I'd report her arse and the police will tell her to stay away.

what a terrible human being she is. she should never have done that to you in any shape or form.

are you ok?

i would also call the police she didnt think of your children when attacking you.however i do understand that you dont wish to upset any more kids.
i would definitely stay away from her.

No she mustn't be allowed anywhere you or your son. I'm not sure about calling the police on family members tbh although if she did show up again and it kicked off I wouldn't hesitate to call them.

If she'd do that to you in your condition and in front of your son, what's to say she is able to restrain herself around her kids? You might be doing them a favour, and you might be doing her a favour if reporting her gives her the wakeup call she needs about how awful her behaviour is.

Would you accept this behaviour from a stranger? Report!

Report her! She needs to know that is totally unacceptable.

Absolutely report it, she had no qualms assaulting you, you have your dhs support, you are showing your son how absolutely wrong this is.

Are you ok op ?
No of course yanbu, I wouldn't want her in my house or near my dc ever again.
I can understand why you don't want to go to the police. That's not to say that I don't think you should report her, because she deserves to be arrested.

I don't know if they would just turn up and arrest her, I have reported someone for assault before and they contacted the person to arrange for them to go to the police station - where they were arrested on arrival.

Contact the police. I'm very sorry for her children but this doesn't sound like isolated incident. Her family probably needs help but it must start with the police if she assaults you.

phone the police right now!
She doesn't give a shit about your kids why should you care about hers?! In fact you might be doing them a favour getting her away from them

Report her. Her behavioural issues are unlikely to be confined to this particular incident. She clearly needs a wake-up call. Similarly, don't put your son through having to see her again. He will be frightened of her - you wouldn't expect him to 'play nice' with someone he's seen behave like that.

Why would you not call the police? Her own children could well be at risk.

I'd report her too I'm afraid. If you'd have fallen and hurt your baby what then? Selfish cow.

I hope you and your ds are ok now, your dh must be fuming.

I feel so bad for you and your DS, I hope you're feeling a bit better. I think you do need to report her, she attacked a heavily pregnant woman in-front of her toddler, I get that you're concerned about the impact on her kids if she's arrested but what about the impact on them if your do nothing, what is she like with them at home, she sounds like she is volatile and aggressive, that needs to be addressed not swept under the carpet out of misplaced kindness.

She is a violent nutcase. Report her to the police.

She should be reported and arrested. Her children are her problem, not yours. She should have thought of that before she attacked you.

She needs reporting, as you say yourself she was prepared to attack you in front of your son do you really think she would not do that wouldn't do in front of her own children. If not worse.

Good grief. That kind of temper is rarely seen in only one setting. It's up to you, of course but if you have even the slightest inkling she acts like that with her own kids, I say report. She's unlikely to be hauled off in cuffs but she may get a visit and a talking to. In fact, why not speak to the police and ask them what their approach would be in you did report?

And no, you are not being unreasonable. If that ever happened to me she'd be nowhere near my house or family ever again.

I can only agree with the others. She seems unhinged.

She needs a wake up call - report her. It's the best thing you can do for her children. If nobody stops this woman in her tracks, what might she end up doing?

You definitely need to to report her, in part for her own children. Imagine what she's like with them!

I would report her! She sounds like a violent nutter. Attacking a pregnant woman is totally unacceptable behaviour. Hope you're ok OP, the whole thing must have been very shocking for you.

Wineloffa even if you edit your sentence to cut out 'a pregnant woman' so it reads 'attacking is unacceptable' the argument stands firm.
Report, op. At the very least you will have that on record, but what you need immediately is a restraining order. How did your DH feel about this?

Call the police

Report her to the police and never have contact with her again! I'm shocked you have to ask.