to wonder if men care as much about father's day

[LittleSpark]

I can't imagine my DP having an apocalyptic meltdown because the DC presented him with burnt toast/undercooked pancakes/unripe berries for breakfast.

Ladies, some of you are out of control.

I agree. The me-ism is staggering. It gets worse on here every year.
I do think that a lot of the bitter, demanding, precious posts we are seeing today are symptomatic of an unhappy home life in general though.

Men's sense of self-worth isn't as tied up with how good a father they are or are perceived to me.

Mothers, on the other hand, are constantly judged.

My partner loves burnt toast, he'd think it was the best morning ever . I was secretly looking forward to mn today as I already had a hormonal meltdown a week ago and thought I could not be the only crazy person when it came to mothers day. I'm actually shocked at how bad/selfish/crazy it is. In my defesnse, I was upset because I keep thinking my unborn child will end up resenting me as much as I do my own mum. No card from partner or cold tea was the least of my worries.

Mothers, on the other hand, are constantly judged.

After reading the posts on here today I am not surprised they are judged, I have never in my life read such selfish bullshit. A lot of posters on here today need a good shake and I feel extremely sorry for their partners and children. This behaviour in real life is just not normal.

I think some posters must have a lot of dissatisfaction with their lives and relationships which has been crystallised today. I agree pictish

All my oh wants on father's day is a roast chicken dinner. To be fair he wants that most Sundays.

Men's lives are - usually although not exclusively - less completely altered by fatherhood than women's are by motherhood. It's not unreasonable to want that massive change and daily effort to be appreciated one day a year. And even if you do think it's all commercial bullshit, you might feel that when seemingly every other mum gets some recognition that day, that you'd like some too.

Disclaimer: I've had cards from my kids, thoughtful presents and DH making me a curry tonight. I am delighted with my day. DH goes to a lot of effort to ensure I feel appreciated, even though the kids are too little to do much alone yet.

If you can't be happy with a card for Mother's Day then somethings not right. Some posters are extremely demanding. Worse still are the ones who resent their partners wanting to acknowledge their own mothers in any shape or form. How fucking dare they spent so much as an hour with them when should be with me! The mother of their children.

I've had cards, chocolates and flowers. Much appreciated. I don't need or want more. And right now they're leaving me in peace to get over this stupid cold I have.

Should either a mother or father expect appreciation for looking after the children they choose to have ?

I don't think so no.

But come on! who doesn't appreciate being bought Chocolates?

Would still have been happy with just getting a card.

Hmmmm. I have a male friend who was really, really glum on Fathers day last year after nothing was done for him. But again, i think it was all magnified by the shitty homelife.

I think, regardless of sex, if you're feeling unappreciated every day, a day like mothers day or fathers day can just amplify it all, the same way christmas does.

I don't particularly care about mothers day.

DH would be upset if he didn't get anything for fathers day, I'm sure.

It's to do with relationships and personalities and how you were brought up and stuff, surely. Rather than to do with women = demanding and awful while men = laid back and relaxed...?

My DH wouldn't know it was Fathers Day. Seriously.

Dh doesn't much care about fathers day, but that's perhaps because he always has a bottle of wine and card to say thank you for all he does!

DH gets a fuss made of him on Father's Day, I get a fuss made on Mother's Day. I am 'lucky' in that I have a wonderful, caring, pulls his weight DH who understands that parenthood is a joint and tiring exercise.

Reading threads on here you understand that a lot of women have DHs who are selfish with money, time, emotional support and generally suck. If those women want a fuss made they deserve it. If your life has entirely changed while your partner's life remains a whirlwind of gadgets, nights out, lads' holidays and lies in, I'm not surprised you get peeved when you don't get a bunch of flowers and a fuss made.

No, and I will tell you why in my case.

Mother's Day is a commercialised variation on an original non-commercial theme.

Father's Day is pure commercial bollocks.

I couldn't care less about Mother's Day, but then I'm forrin and it isn't a big deal where I come from. Obviously its great to feel loved and appreciated, but why tie it to one day? DH is equally indifferent to Father's Day, so we just don't bother.

My DP wouldn't know it was Fathers Day either.

Dh doesn't do Father's Day, So as a result he doesent do Mother's Day either . He made a card with dd though for me, no flowers, no choccies, no breakfast in bed . Business as usual, so fed up at seeing all these wonderful presents others dh or partner got them up on Facebook. I showed dh friends photos, and told him I expect next year to be much better, we will see. He's conveniently got man flu on mothers day grrrr. sorry rant over.

My DH will be disappointed if he doesn't get his box of Fairy Rockers. :)

DH loves celebrating Fathers Day. He travels a lot, and works long hours, but does his best to make it for special events, to as many sports games, keep his weekends work free etc. He misses the DSs a lot when he's away, and he really treasures the home made cards he gets, the morning hugs and kisses and his favourite cake (boring madeira... oh how the rest of us chocolate lovers suffer ) for afternoon tea.

My DP waited 2 mins for me to open my giant sized card to ask me to guess how much it was and revel in the fact it was 99p from card factory. He loves a bargain and told me to buy any cards for him in future from card factory.

Nah, a card will do me.

Aeroflot your husband helped your daughter to make a card. Do you really expect him to respond to a load of stuff other people posted on Facebook?