..to think that this is poor husband form?

[TheBlondeOne78]

First post, please be gentle!

I'm PMSing so not sure whether I'm justified in being annoyed here or whether it's hormones.

My husband has started a new job, just over a mile uphill from where I work. He finishes today at 3pm, I finish at half past three.

I called to see if he was going to come pick me up. He says, no, you walk up to me. I explain that this doesn't work cos he'd either have to wait about for me to walk up which takes us to 4pm, or I would have to finish early at half two, which I can't do either today.

I also feel a bit precious that he'd rather I had a walk uphill to him, than nip down in the car but I've no problem doing that some of the time. He's next to a motorway at his work and I'm next to the new motorway which is quicker for us to get home down here.

I've ended up telling him to poke it and that I'll make my own way home. I think he's being really selfish, and I'm also a wee bit hurt at his lack of care and consideration. I thought being close by we'd try to share commute etc and I'd clearly walk up if it suited our finish times but him making such a fuss about not doing a 5 min car journey to collect me has really fucked me off.

I would be great to get home for 4pm together and be able to start the weekend with the kids but as it is, I'll not get home til about half five using public transport.

Thoughts? AIBU or is he? Or a bit of both?

PMSL at that peace!

Very true in a lot of cases but in this instance the DH has deliberately and knowingly annoyed the OP.

What happened when you got home OP?

Last night was interesting.

His rationale was that he was really tired and couldn't by arsed sitting in traffic through the centre of town as it would take ages. I said Google maps had it at 8 mins in current traffic at 3pm. (Yes. I'm a psycgotic Pmsing bitch, I checked) he didn't quite get how if he couldn't be arsed driving for eight minutes, how could he have been arsed with an hour long wait fir me? Also couldnt get that if he's tired after the working week and cba driving to me, it makes sense that I mjght not be loving a walk with my laptop and loads a bags.

Suffice to say we're not speaking and what coulda been a great weekemd, now is us at loggerheads. More fool the twat, it was steak and Bj dar, I was gonna put out. As it is he had the kids leftover cold curly fries with a slice of bread.

Sorry for typos. On the phone

Peace it's a horrible walk. But I woukdvf mind doing if it made any sense time wise.

He doesn't need to stay to do fancy manager stuff, the place is open til 11pm

So now we know he 'couldn't be arsed' (did he really say that? ffs!) and it isn't the lovely country lane with spectacular scenery I was imagining. (I was in need of Mindfulness last night, had to get to my happy place.)

It didn't even occur to him that you might have been tired after your working week, changes in your medication and witch week occurring? He didn't think about what it would be like for you to do that walk? Would he want to do that walk uphill? Because that's where I'd be dropping him off every morning next week, and he can walk up the hill to work, so he gets an idea and develops an imagination.

This isn't an isolated incident, is it?

Hi OP I'm really sorry your weekend is spoilt....hopefully it will blow over and you'll stil have a nice Mother's Day.
I totally get how frustrating this situation is....I actually ended up in tears on Wednesday over something similar.

DP suggested I walk to sainsburys after work to get DD a red nose then he'd meet me there and we'd come home together....only the nearest sainsburys is about 20 mins walk away.

And he works 2mins from it....so why couldn't he pop and get the bloody red nose then drive to pick me up from work?

He wouldn't back down at all and ended up saying look do you want a lift home or not!

I told him to fuck off, I walked to sainsburys and got the nose then walked home...I could have got the tram but wanted to calm down anyway I didn't get in until nearly 6pm the kids jumped on me when I got in as they'd been worried.....he felt guilty but never said sorry.

Men are odd it's almost like their times more precious than ours and we should be grateful they are giving us a lift anywhere.

I can't understand why you didn't just say, stop being a twat and drive down here to pick me up. He might not have liked it, it clearly wasn't his first choice but he wouldn't have refused would he.

What a horrible bugger. DH and I share a car, we go out of our way to make life easier for the other.

Dear me, he's a proper twat isn't he. No thought or regard for anyone else other than himself, and a toddler propensity to fail to think anything through logically.

Personally I find toddlerisms deeply unattractive in supposedly grown men.

On the face of it, your husband sounds like an utter twat. Just take the car next week and let him battle out the public transport home?

Ok, so he doesn't like driving, but he doesn't mind waiting.

That's fine. From now on, you have the car. You don't mind driving up to pick him up at the end of YOUR day. He'll have to sit around waiting for the best part of an hour, but at LEAST he won't have the horror of driving for 8 minutes.

You understand FULLY that it's only fair that occasionally, he has the car. However on those days he'll be home so much earlier than you that he'll be preparing dinner and doing chores, getting stuff sorted for the evening.. because on those days you'll be lugging your bags around on public transport and getting home pretty late. You'll be knackered.

But anything, anything rather than the 8 minutes of HORROR.

Twat.

You should take the car from now on. Then he can walk the mile downhill in the 30 mins until you finish then you can drive home. I'm sure he would prefer the 30 min walk to the 8 min drive.

Sylvanians That was brilliantly put.

Definitely take the car from now on... in fact get hold of the keys now!