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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

..to think that this is poor husband form?

89 replies

TheBlondeOne78 · 13/03/2015 13:58

First post, please be gentle!

I'm PMSing so not sure whether I'm justified in being annoyed here or whether it's hormones.

My husband has started a new job, just over a mile uphill from where I work. He finishes today at 3pm, I finish at half past three.

I called to see if he was going to come pick me up. He says, no, you walk up to me. I explain that this doesn't work cos he'd either have to wait about for me to walk up which takes us to 4pm, or I would have to finish early at half two, which I can't do either today.

I also feel a bit precious that he'd rather I had a walk uphill to him, than nip down in the car but I've no problem doing that some of the time. He's next to a motorway at his work and I'm next to the new motorway which is quicker for us to get home down here.

I've ended up telling him to poke it and that I'll make my own way home. I think he's being really selfish, and I'm also a wee bit hurt at his lack of care and consideration. I thought being close by we'd try to share commute etc and I'd clearly walk up if it suited our finish times but him making such a fuss about not doing a 5 min car journey to collect me has really fucked me off.

I would be great to get home for 4pm together and be able to start the weekend with the kids but as it is, I'll not get home til about half five using public transport.

Thoughts? AIBU or is he? Or a bit of both?

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TheBlondeOne78 · 13/03/2015 15:27

We're not in each others pockets so if he was cheating he'd not be likely to do it in the 30 mins between work finishing at 3 and me walking up there for 4, LOL!

I'm so not worried about that but thanks anyway.

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notasillysausage · 13/03/2015 15:31

I bet he needs to sort out a Mother's Day present for you straight after work!

AnyFucker · 13/03/2015 15:33

I am not thinking OW, I am thinking twat

TheBlondeOne78 · 13/03/2015 15:34

Nope, it was our birthdays last week and we're skint so we agreed to forfeit mothers day pressies in favour of family lunch out with the mums on Sunday.

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TheBlondeOne78 · 13/03/2015 15:36

Yeah I'm thinking twat too.

utter twat.

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TheBlondeOne78 · 13/03/2015 15:37

I seem to have worked myself into a bit of a rage! Angry

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whattheseithakasmean · 13/03/2015 15:37

In future, you take the car & he can get the bus.

ImperialBlether · 13/03/2015 15:38

He's a bastard!

Psst: I actually think he is on this occasion.

hesterton · 13/03/2015 15:38

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notasillysausage · 13/03/2015 15:40

Oh.. In that case - twat!

MorelloKisses · 13/03/2015 15:49

This is so annoying (of him)

I need you to get to the bottom of it!

hestialou · 13/03/2015 15:51

What if he was planning to get you mothers day presents in that time? If not hes being mean.

30somethingm · 13/03/2015 16:01

LTB? YANBU

CapnMurica · 13/03/2015 16:02

He's being an absolute silly arse. This is the sort of logic my husband comes out with sometimes. I have to put him straight, he is thick as mince tho Wink

ImperialBlether · 13/03/2015 16:03

Does it really sound like he's the type to do that, hestialou? He won't even drive a mile in their family car to fetch her.

TheRealAmandaClarke · 13/03/2015 16:13

Once a week (at least) work late go to the pub
Yanbu

momb · 13/03/2015 16:19

Hope you get home OK OP and dinner is waiting for you. I think he'll have worked it out for next week!

TheRealAmandaClarke · 13/03/2015 16:21

What on earth is his rationale?

molyholy · 13/03/2015 16:21

Yanbu. It is extremely selfish and a bit mental Grin

Crinkle77 · 13/03/2015 16:44

He is a being a cock

PeaceOfWildThings · 13/03/2015 16:52

Hang on. It's his first day. My DH has had many fiest days in many places. It's when he has lots of meetings with the bosses and gets shoelwn round and has extra training to fit in. Maybe he was in a meeting/working and couldn't discuss it fully? Maybe he couldn't finish until 4/4:30pm?

TheBlondeOne78 · 13/03/2015 16:54

Oh no, it's not his first day. Sorry if I saud that! It's the end of his first week. He's also the manager.

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SarahManning · 13/03/2015 16:57

Pub next to where he works? does he perhaps want to have an after work pint with workmates and get you to drive home?

PeaceOfWildThings · 13/03/2015 16:59

Ah. Sorry! Um ...so no higher management dropping in at 3:30? I don't either know then! ConfusedGrin

TheBlondeOne78 · 13/03/2015 17:24

When he was leaving at three he was going home to get the kids.

Also, of he was going for a pint, or had a gaffer dropping in, he'd just say that.

He's hyat being a twat. He wanted me to arbitrarily walk up to him to be contrary. That's all. I'm two large wines in and on the bus home now. Planning to stop off for more.

What woulda been 'aw family starting their weekend' is now a half pished passed off hormonal woman on reduced citalopram dose going home to a man who doesn't know what's about to hit him Wink

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