to not eat something that makes me ill?

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I could eat bread, cake and food that contains wheat but I would then have painful, foul-smelling wind, bloating and be shitting 8 times a day. So I don't.

So why the actual fuck should I have to explain my bowel habits in detail all the bloody time to people who think it is acceptable to roll their eyes, sigh and generally think I am doing it for an affectation.

Do people really think I enjoy not eating normal food? Or having to look at ingredients? Or not being able to eat out or choose what I want from a menu? Are people so unutterably rude, stupid and thoughless?

AIBU to present the next person who does this with a tupperwear containing what would happen to me if I have normal food?

My DH has problems with ginger. It's unbelieveable how many things contain it. Anything labelled as spices or flavourings often does. He can't eat things like baked beans as the sauce is mildly spiced. It's not life threatening but seriously nasty toilet wise. It has meant that a lot of convenience products have had to be ditched and eating out is harder than before it started. He used to love ginger until he developed this problem, a food diary points to it being ginger and the GP agrees.

The problem is there are do many faddy people these days so people are less sympathetic to people with genuine problems.

People should be able to eat what they like without worrying about their 'friends' slagging them off on the internet. If I choose to not eat something 99% of the time but take the hit occasionally then that is up to me.

I can't tolerate duck eggs. A couple of hours after eating them and I'm going at both ends and can barely stand up. Chicken eggs are OK. But I don't think I'll be going too adventurous with quail eggs, goose eggs etc. in case the same thing happens again.

Ebwy That's just terrible! I can't imagine someone trying to sneak alcohol into someone's drink, then thinking it's funny. Just Awful!

it doesn't happen much now - I don't tend to go "out" as such. But when you're out and people have had a few, common sense seems to leave. As a result, very few people have ever successfully bought me drinks as I have to trust them 100% - and fortunately the couple of times people have tried to sneak things in the friends I trust have said "don't drink it!" even though they were drunk themselves at the time.

I don't have specific on tolerances, but I do have an allergy response (cat hair, dog hair, tree pollen, flower pollen, grass pollen, housedust). And I have times when I suffer symptoms similar to IBS.

However, IBS-ness seems to happen when I am over-stressed mostly. So I can go through months of eating whatever I want (and usually being reasonably healthy diet, with lots of wine, cheese, meat, F&V etc), and then have a while of bloating, wind, diarrhea etc. Sometimes brassicas can make it worse, or hard egg yolks (I can always have them runny, or in scrambled/omlettes or baking for some reason), I avoid baked beans (not a huge fan anyway - same for marrowfat peas, but I tend to get farty after both too - nowadays I just avoid although would probably cope in small doses at times) but will eat French, broad and cannellini beans fine, or regular peas (just as long as not over-aged: I tend to buy petit pois but regular can be ok, but from the garden they need to still be quite wet in the middle and not gone to dry and somewhat floury taste stage). I LOVE sugar snap peas raw in my lunchtime salads.

I have also noticed that I tend to not eat a lot of bread or wheat. I have recently considered trying gluten free for me and DD (ASD/ADHD), but it would be hard to do given busy lifestyles and a need for some convenience foods a lot of the time. But I don't have a sandwich for lunch most days, and neither will she by preference. We both will eat some, mostly weekends though.

My DB has some awful food allergies - brassica family (he can tolerate a little now, as long as they are not too frequent or large portions), anything to do with a pig (sausages, bacon, pork etc - he can now eat a little pork so the odd sausage but still has problems with bacon), lots of E numbers etc. There was only 1 brand of (very expensive) crisps that he could eat as a child, mum used to make crisps for him on occasion (badly).

But it is easier in our family because we have some allergic reactions to things to say no. But then again, there is also an expectation that you will still eat everything you always did and that your eating habits (type or tastes, or salt/fat/seasoning levels etc) haven't changed in over 40 years!