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Earlier, another poster (who was out of work, but hoping to get into work again) talked about the many families in her area who have been out of work for generations. The poster seems to have lived there all her life, so knew the many generations. Maybe her area was on the extreme side, but the cycle seemed to repeat itself: the parents never worked, never cared much for their kids, let alone give them an education (despite free schooling, you do need parental input), and the children became the same decades later, doing the same thing to their kids. It seemed obvious that these people came from neglected backgrounds.
The only way I saw to break that cycle was to remove the kids from these families. How would you ever gain any self-worth, if that's the environment you grow up in? If your parents don't care about you, why would you think anyone else would? If your parents abused you, why would you think someone else abusing you is wrong?
If I had been a girl growing up in such an environment, I may well end up in a relationship with a guy who didn't care about me or even abused me. Because that's all I would have come to expect.
A life with a reasonable partner who actually loved me, a life in which others expressed belief that I could accomplish something, would seem just like a fairy tale, because it would never have been something I would have encountered in real life. I would never think life could be different. Better, maybe. At least, not for me.
Had she been taken away, maybe her life would have been different. But others like to talk about the whole human rights issue, and that kids should not be removed from their parents because they are on benefits argument - which I never said. I specifically thought about those families that the previous poster talked about.
Luckily for these people, they have probably never seen the files of many kids given up for adoption who almost always have had to suffer years of trauma before being removed... simply because their birth parents "had rights".