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CupidStuntSurvivor · 05/03/2015 12:51

Balaboosta you're the type of mum who these stereotypes are based on so they're accurate for you.

Doesn't mean all of us go looking for a shag as soon as we get a night off, libido be damned.

Balaboosta · 05/03/2015 12:53

Wow. Hadn't noticed that I was a stereotype. As the lone voice of fun on this thread, I rather think I'm swimming against the tide here!

CupidStuntSurvivor · 05/03/2015 12:57

This article doesn't display single mothers as fun loving. It displays them as promiscuous with low standards.

SqueezyCheeseWeasel · 05/03/2015 12:59

Voice of fun

Showy · 05/03/2015 12:59

Balaboosta, you're rather missing the point. It doesn't really matter what the topic of the article is in some ways. The notion that because you have children but are currently single means that somebody can make sweeping generalisations about you is ridiculous. Particularly when those sweeping generalisations imply not only that you are desperate for a shag (lord only knows how women function without a regular penis up 'em), but also that somehow any woman who wants conversation or companionship or anything resembling an interaction outside the physical is too much like hard work. Roll up, roll up, shag a woman who has had a child, she'll be gagging for it and won't demand anything but the application of a penis.

And you aren't a lone voice of fun. You are not "fun" by token of your desire to have sex. That's as reductive and ridiculous as the article.

BitOutOfPractice · 05/03/2015 13:01

Grateful?

Did the person who wrote this article say single mums are grateful for any adult company?

Balaboosta I am confident, up-front, and fun loving. And a single mother. I am not pathetically grateful to any male who deigns to show me a scrap of attention. I go out regularly with friends, family and men. I have plenty of sex. I work FT aand am very fulfilled by that.

I don't drop my knickers and sigh gratefully every time I leave the house because, guess what, I can do that any time I want all by myself

Balaboosta · 05/03/2015 13:04

It's not an article! It's a piece of piece of silliness. And fwiw I think it's mildly useful in challenging certain stereotypes. Massive perk of being a single mother (God knows we have enough to deal with) is that we get to be a bit of a slut if we choose. Isn't that the point? It's about choice and freedom. But the sexually available, free-spirited woman will always be a bit of a threat to the status quo. If you're looking for misogeny, you don't have to look much further than the outraged reactions on here. we single women are a coven of witches and we're after your men, ha ha ha! A reaction as old as the hills.

TheChandler · 05/03/2015 13:06

Yuk. Makes single mothers sound desperate and available for any sex at all. I think the intention is probably to encourage men to date single mothers, and its meant to be funny, but its in bad taste. I think society has moved on from women being seen as sex objects. Well, in some areas.

CupidStuntSurvivor · 05/03/2015 13:10

Balaboosta absolutely anyone can be promiscuous. No requirement for a child. Or to be single. Or a woman.

Balaboosta · 05/03/2015 13:23

What's "taste" got to do with it? It's a provocation. Having recently tried dating a man who insisted on wining, dining and schmoozing, instead of getting down to it, it had a ring of truth to it! I have one night to myself in a few weeks and I'm not interested in discussing 90s pop music.

CupidStuntSurvivor · 05/03/2015 13:30

Well frankly, if you have no interest in spending your free time on anything other than sex, I'd say your interests are extremely narrow and you're not actually much fun at all. A bit 2 dimensional really.

Balaboosta · 05/03/2015 13:34

And bit of a humour bypass going on round here too! Come on - the thing about baby wipes is sheer comedy.

TheChandler · 05/03/2015 13:36

Balaboosta Having recently tried dating a man who insisted on wining, dining and schmoozing, instead of getting down to it, it had a ring of truth to it!

The bastard!

CupidStuntSurvivor · 05/03/2015 13:36

Obviously, the single sentence saying that mums always have wet wipes is pure hilarity .

meglet · 05/03/2015 13:40

I'm a single mum and I asked the school receptionist to make a big gap between teacher appointments so I could chat to other adults in peace. it's like an evening out for me .

so I can totally relate to the parking warden comment.

KellyElly · 05/03/2015 13:41

This article doesn't display single mothers as fun loving. It displays them as promiscuous with low standards. No, I'm promiscuous with high standards

KellyElly · 05/03/2015 13:42

Well frankly, if you have no interest in spending your free time on anything other than sex, I'd say your interests are extremely narrow and you're not actually much fun at all. A bit 2 dimensional really. Sex is as good a hobby as any, and great exercise

MarianneM · 05/03/2015 13:47

I think it's funny!

WandaDoff · 05/03/2015 13:54

Balaboosta are you the author?

WandaDoff · 05/03/2015 13:56

I think its a misogynistic pile of shit.

Showy · 05/03/2015 14:04

Slut? Really? You really don't see how reductive and offensive you are being do you?

And the only person who has brought up single women "chasing" married men is you Bala. Please note how many responses here (the majority in fact) are single women who don't particularly like this nonsense.

Sexually available and free-spirited women are not represented in this article. This article is telling men what they can get from a group of women by describing them in ridiculous and inaccurate ways. This isn't celebrating women I'm afraid.

And I don't know any single mothers who want to have sex with a man because they've been lured into it and needed convincing. No, no don't write off single mothers, they can give you good sex. I know otherwise you wouldn't look at them twice, but they'll shag you and be grateful for it. Oh and did you also know that fat birds are grateful. And old ones. Seriously, they're a positive treasure trove of fucking potential.

ShadowsShadowsEverywhere · 05/03/2015 14:10

Calling someone 2 dimensional because she freely admits she likes and is up for a lot of sex is just as judgmental and offensive as the article IMO! Why can't a woman say she wants to have no strings sex and lots of it, without being judged as "2 dimensional".

I'm a single mother. Yes, agreed there is a wide sweeping generalisation to the article and yes every person who finds themself parenting solo will be an individual with individual needs and wants in terms of adult interaction and sexual relationships. Obviously the whole undertone of "single mums are all up for it" is abhorrent but bits of the article did raise a smile, like meglet I relate to the parking attendant comment. I can go several days without speaking to another adult. I will stand and talk to the bus driver for as long as possible, just to get a bit of adult interaction shoehorned into my day!

CupidStuntSurvivor · 05/03/2015 14:12

yes, if the only thing a person is interested in doing in their free time is have sex, I do find that 2 dimensional. I'm not calling someone 2 dimensional simply for enjoying sex.

TheChandler · 05/03/2015 14:17

I kind of get a similar feeling if someone tells me I'm sexy, or tells me that if I do something, it won't appeal to men.

I don't appeal to men or look sexy as a job though, and it doesn't benefit me in any way, theres very limited worth in that for the vast majority of women. Most of us either want or have a husband or long term partner, and those that don't are free to want or have something else. I should imagine that its a minority though, whether they are single mothers or not. Its more like playing into the fantasy of some man who struggles to get sex, and needs comforting that some women (ie single mothers) might be more willing to provide it.

KellyElly · 05/03/2015 14:26

yes, if the only thing a person is interested in doing in their free time is have sex, I do find that 2 dimensional. I'm not calling someone 2 dimensional simply for enjoying sex. quickly leaves thread to find some new hobbies