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AIBU?

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To be irritated by colleague constantly commenting on my lunch

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sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 03/03/2015 21:04

I dont eat particularly healthy but have say sandwich and crisps for lunch. One particularly healthy colleague is always making comments and slights. Its so irritating im starting to consider eating in the car rather than the office to avoid the continual grilling and comments.
AIBU (I know I am a bit)

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iklboo · 03/03/2015 22:25

'Just because you look like Gregg Wallace doesn't mean you have to sound like him as well'.

Sandybananapants · 03/03/2015 22:35

YANBU. I'd be well pissed off it were me.

WTAF has it got to do with anyone what you eat for your lunch?

Is there anyway that you can sit away from her? I mean, other end of the room maybe? Or is it that situation where you are just altogether and no where to go.

Definitely don't go and eat in your car- fuck that.

Your lunch sounds perfectly reasonable to me and it's totally none of anyone's business what you choose to eat.

I'd do what pp have said- snarky responses.

What things does she eat?

Cheeky twat

Sandybananapants · 03/03/2015 22:36

Sorry sarky

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sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 03/03/2015 22:40

Some hilarious suggestions here!
She has salad. Every. Single. Day.

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sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 03/03/2015 22:41

She will sometimes say 'oh I really fancy cake'
I reply 'well have some then'
She replies 'I can't'
'Don't then' I say

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LondonRocks · 03/03/2015 22:41

Ask the rude moo to go and eat in her car.

I'd be tempted to just tell her that it's rude to comment on other people's food.

MidniteScribbler · 03/03/2015 22:42

"Fuck off" is a complete sentence.

LondonRocks · 03/03/2015 22:43

Can you start commenting on her salad?

salad again?
are you a rabbit?
are you addicted to lettuce?
other food is available, you know
your diet isn't very balanced...

Sandybananapants · 03/03/2015 22:47

Lol London Rocks :)

WhispersOfWickedness · 03/03/2015 22:54

Ah, she's jealous! She would much rather be eating what you're eating than salad, so she's trying to make herself feel better by putting your food choices down.
The bitch in me would be tempted to say 'well, some of us can get away with eating this sort of food' in a pointed way if she mentions the unhealthy nature of your lunches. In reality I would probably be too much of a wuss to say anything though

revealall · 03/03/2015 22:54

Sounds rude to me.

However we have a number of annoying eaters. The worst complains about her weight, bad knees, back etc and the eats nothing but bags of crisps one after another. Often whilst complaining.
Others are always on a diet but eat vast quantities of whatever vegetable or fruit they bring in. Massive plates of chopped stuff. Huge tubs of soup, salads to feed the 5,000. Which would be fine if they weren't pigging out for the entire lunch break. Just stop bloody eating all the time. Give your poor tummy a break.

I don't say anything but it's bloody hard.

BuggersMuddle · 03/03/2015 23:19

Guys, are you all obsessed with my lunch? Worked in my old place.

To be fair, I have ulcerative colitis, so I moved between super healthy soups and salads, with a sparkling water (when well) and a roll and sausage and a can of Coke (when unwell and not processing food properly). People get awfully confused. They wouldn't though, if they minded their own business...

Botanicbaby · 04/03/2015 00:20

oh no this colleague has already got you a) thinking you are partly BU b) considering eating in your car (NO don't do this) and c) apologising in your OP for being unhealthy in your food choices.

it really is not any of her business what you have for lunch every day. If she is so committed to having salad every day, that's her lookout. Same for you if you eat sandwiches and crisps every day. Could you be brave enough to ask her outright why she seems to have such an unhealthy fixation on what other people have for lunch? Is it because hers is so uninteresting? i despise those holier than thou people only because they tend to feel its their right to comment on others' choices. Be holier than thou if you like but STFU about what I am eating. Love PP suggestion that you email her your lunch choices every day for a week, exaggerate for effect. That'll learn her

AntiHop · 04/03/2015 00:55

I had a colleague like this. It really got on my nerves. I would just tell her to piss off.

ZacharyQuack · 04/03/2015 01:05

Have a quiet but firm word with her, lots of eye contact.

"X you make comments about my food every day. How about you don't mention my food, and I won't mention your breath."

If she says "I fancy cake", don't react at all. Or breathe on your hand and sniff it thoughtfully.

ElephantsAndMiasmas · 04/03/2015 01:18

Love Ling's idea about presenting it for inspection every day. Do try that, I think it would work.

It must be fucking annoying. I have a "commenty" colleague too but instead of food, it's interactions with colleagues she likes to "spot". For example, "oh, going for lunch with Nic AGAIN are we?" (I had been for lunch with her once before about 6 months earlier), or "I saw you making coffee with Jim this morning, you two seem to be joined at the hip!" (we work in the same office, it's inevitable that say once a month we'll meet in the kitchen)

Whippet81 · 04/03/2015 04:05

We have one of these in my office - I started saying things such as 'oh thank god the food police are here' etc but actually it really affected me - I remember her walking in once, peering over my shoulder and saying 'ooh naughty' and wagging her finger at me.

I was bullied at school for being fat - I'm not now (I wasn't really then) but it has made me very uncomfortable eating in public. Yes that's my problem but you really should be able to sit and eat a sandwich at your desk (we have limited options where to go as well) without being commented on.

There are people in my office who eat really well and people who eat crap all day. I never comment except to say 'is it nice?' etc. I think talking about food - what you're having for tea etc is a common thing in the workplace but there's no need to make negative comments - I would just say something like 'oh I would miss you if you weren't here to comment on what I'm eating all the time. It never tires'.

If you do decide to eat in your car (I know people are saying not to but I have done this myself) make it very clear why you are if anyone asks.

teacher54321 · 04/03/2015 06:09

About 10 years ago I worked with someone who negatively commented on my lunch every day. Used to drive me absolutely bonkers. I have a new colleague who has school dinners the same as me but is on first sitting and I'm on second. So when I come in to the staff room to eat my lunch she says things like 'oh god mine was DISGUSTING' or 'why did you pick that, it looks revolting'. It completely does my head in. I have school dinners because they're free, and I'm not fussy. The majority of the time they're absolutely fine.

HellKitty · 04/03/2015 06:39

I used to comment on my ex bosses lunch every day. Her DP was a chef and she'd have whatever he'd prepared the day before. While I sat there with my Sainsbury's tuna sandwich and Wotsits

Just tell your colleague to fuck right off.

colabucks · 04/03/2015 06:49

I have friends that will mock-gasp and make comments if I am spotted with a can of Coke. I like Coke. I will drink it if I want to! Yet when any of them have it no-one says a thing yanbu, comments about others choice of food are unnecessary and most of the time unwanted.

DeliciousMonster · 04/03/2015 06:49

Every comment she makes, write it downword for word, noting the date and tme and the contents of your lunch. If she asks what you are doing say 'i have been advised to note down every comment you make about my lunch' and say no more.

She is just a bully. Make her think you are getting advice about it from a mystery adviser.

Camembertha · 04/03/2015 06:56

She has food issues which she is projecting on you. Boring!

I had a boss like this, she was obsessed with diets and fatfree food. Always commented on my food (cheese baguettes, pasta, baked potato.... I like my carbs )

It was a bit tiresome but I never defended my food choices, just shrugged.

It was her issue, not mine

Ledkr · 04/03/2015 07:04

I'd start laughing whilst shaking my head and saying "ho ho ho you are funny!" As if she's a complete berk!
Whilst stuffing a massive white bread lard Sarnie into my gob.

Charlie97 · 04/03/2015 07:08

Oh I feel your pain, maybe take lunch from fridge, take to her desk, open it and say

Make your comments now, then I will go and eat this in peace!

ChocolateCherry · 04/03/2015 07:08

Office Cake

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