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to be angry with the chairperson of the PTA

128 replies

tully67 · 27/02/2015 21:28

at a school disco my son was playing with another boy on the dance floor. Play fighting but not in such a way to annoy any other children. She wen up to them, put her hands on both my son's shoulders and told him to stop it. She said nothing to the other boy. There were older boys running around (it was the Y1-3 disco) from Y6 and Y7 including her son and nothing was said to them. I was standing in the hall at the time alone watching him. I was so mad I left (there was only 10 mins left!!). I didn't say anything to her at the time because I was too cross. I will not see her at the school and was thinking of writing to her as Chair of the PTA or speaking to the Head teacher.

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Norfolkandchance1234 · 28/02/2015 16:41

If you were standing there and not bothering to do anything to stop it then I guess she had to as you clearly think the behaviour was ok, which it's not.

She appears to have been demonstrating what you should have been doing.

DustyGold · 28/02/2015 16:42

The volunteer work I do isn't reluctant really.
Not PTA but in school.
Does that somehow make me odd I wonder?!
I have a few times felt that I am being judged negatively by some parents but have tried to ignore.
Mostly people are lovely but there are always some....

SistersOfPercy · 28/02/2015 16:44

Ohh I love a good flounce.

chocoluvva · 28/02/2015 16:46

Presumably the OP thought the behaviour was acceptable - she mentions that older boys were running around....

Ach, I'm probably just too soft-hearted. OP has gone.....

meant to say - well done to everybody who has blah blah especially if it was reluctantly.

CalicoBlue · 28/02/2015 16:48

I have been on the PTA at both Primary and High school, been vice and chair.

I did benefit from it, I met some great people who are still friends now, I had lots of fun and enjoyed organising quiz nights, summer fetes, Christmas bazaars and thinking of other fundraising ideas. My kids enjoyed being involved in the events and helping too. Not a power trip but certainly fun and had lots of benefits.

AllThatGlistens · 28/02/2015 16:58

Oooh speed-flouncing!!

That was impressive

TiggyD · 28/02/2015 18:33

Thank goodness she left. She was probably just about to start play fighting in the forums. (I hear it's that sort of family.)

fredfredsausagehead1 · 28/02/2015 20:47

I'm actually embarrassed for op
That a parent could actually think like that

roundtable · 28/02/2015 21:12

Well mn has inspired me to join the pta when mine are at school.

I shall make myself a crown and employ minions to roll out a red carpet every time I enter the school gates. Or shall I just be rolled out like Cleopatra? Sounds fun though...

KERALA1 · 28/02/2015 21:35

It's marvellous. People bow as you walk past, the head teacher scatters rose petals in your path. Or in real life you end up with a bin bag clearing up after events whilst all the normal parents sit around drinking, you get to scrub glue off craft tables and cats bum face parents complain because they want you to provide them with family fun days for free whilst still raising cash for the school...

chocoluvva · 28/02/2015 21:44

Hakluyt · 28/02/2015 21:48

Still waiting to hear how being on the PTA gets your children extra time in exams. I've got one doing GCSEs in a couple of years, so I need the magic words......

ssd · 28/02/2015 21:51

I told you I didnt want to post any more info on this, after the LaQueen debacle I'm not saying anymore

its fine if you dont believe me, it changes nothing.

NeedAScarfForMyGiraffe · 28/02/2015 21:58

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

scalliondays · 28/02/2015 22:03

What was the LaQueen debacle?

Hakluyt · 28/02/2015 22:05

No harm in telling us what the school said when you complained.

But you won't. Because you didn't. Because what happened was something like this. A child had some sort of special educational need that other parents didn't know about. The school made appropriate provision for that child in an exam. All the other parents got all twittery because the mother is on the PTA

Hakluyt · 28/02/2015 22:09

My child was allowed to do one of her GCSE exams in a separate room on a laptop because I was on the PTA. Oh no, wait a minute- it was because she had a broken finger.

ilovesooty · 28/02/2015 22:24

A child had some sort of special educational need that other parents didn't know about. The school made appropriate provision for that child in an exam. All the other parents got all twittery because the mother is on the PTA

Spot on, I reckon.

ssd · 28/02/2015 22:24

A group of us complained to the Headteacher and what was going on was exposed and the child sat the exam again, in the correct amount of time allowed. Have often wondered what else the PTA chair got away with that wasnt found out by nosey parkers like us.

I didn't want to explain too much here, but clearly everyone on the PTA here are polishing their halos as we speak and are only on the pta for the good of their school and not their children. I just haven't met too many of these angels.

ssd · 28/02/2015 22:26

no, there was no special educational needs there at all either

ilovesooty · 28/02/2015 22:31

A group of us complained to the Headteacher and what was going on was exposed and the child sat the exam again, in the correct amount of time allowed

That surely couldn't have been a public exam then.

ssd · 28/02/2015 22:37

just wrote a post saying what exam it was but deleted it as its too much info than I want to give

I really really dont mind if I'm not believed or my posts are being picked apart, fill your boots!! As I said before, it changes nothing.

KERALA1 · 28/02/2015 22:39

Ssd have never met anyone on the PTA with the motives you describe. PTA members have sod all "power" thinking otherwise is ill informed.

LittleMissIntrovert · 28/02/2015 22:51

I'm on our school PTA committee and it's not because I'm on a power trip, I'm the least confident and assertive person I know!

I do it because I want to be a part of school life, and organise stuff for the kids to enjoy.

It's hard work, and takes a lot of my time, but I do it because it was a good way of making new friends, and getting out the house.

It's actually really helped my confidence and lifted me out of a deep depression, so it has made a positive difference to me.

ssd · 28/02/2015 22:58

maybe my views are wrong and the ex/chair is a one off I hope so

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