to feel a bit 'cat's bum face' about this?

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I'll start with a caveat - I know that this isn't really my business, but I can't help but feel bothered by it.

My sister's DH - my BIL - has 2 boys from a previous relationship. They are 7 & 9 yo. They live with their mum and have contact with their dad Fri-Sun every other weekend, plus shared school holidays.

My sis has a job with an early start & a commute so works long hours. On the weekends when they have the boys they'll quite often out a sign on their bedroom door saying that the kids aren't allowed to disturb them before 10am (typically) so that sis & BIL can have a lie in.

AIBU to think that this is quite a long time to expect two quite young boys to entertain themselves for? They can make themselves breakfast, warch TV, play etc so don't have to be in their rooms, just don't have adult company till later on.

To be honest I'm a bit more judgy towards my BIL than sister - its his contact time and (I think) a bit shabby to not spend the early morning with his kids. The lie in is my sister's suggestion but he goes along with it.

If DH & I split and I found out he was doing this to our kids during 'his' time I'd be so disappointed in him. And I feel a bit sorry for them, to be honest. AIBU?

I can see why it's wrong because he only gets to see them every other weekend and presumably on the other weekend he can sleep in as long as he likes? On the other hand, they aren't her kids and she's the one working long hours so I can understand why she wants a lie in on the only 2 days of the week she can. However on balance I would say YABU because at 7 & 9 they can entertain themselves for a few hours and as long as they have quality time the rest of the time then it's not the worst parenting in the world.

In their situation, I would let the boys come in when they wanted but if too early, tell them to go off and play for a bit. Sign is a bit odd for kids that age imo