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The wedding thread to trump all wedding threads ... Ever.

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ShadowsShadowsEverywhere · 25/02/2015 17:45

Oh you can't even begin to prepare yourself for this one ...
My friend is getting married next year. I was chatting to him about it recently as plans are starting to take shape. He told me that they are having two full ceremonies. One for family and work colleagues, and "a few select friends" and then a SECOND full ceremony ... Which he described, and I quote, as "a kinky wedding for all our liberal friends" which I'm apparently invited to!

Shock
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FenellaFellorick · 25/02/2015 20:59

you know, subtle...

Seriouslyffs · 25/02/2015 21:13

Did he say it more than once-
could he have meant funky?

MissSusanStoHelit · 25/02/2015 21:23

Pampas grass in the bouquet perhaps? Could be pretty!

Cock ring instead of wedding ring?

(PS this is DFiance's input... he is currently sniggering at the mental image of the exchanging of rings...Grin)

laughingmyarseoff · 25/02/2015 21:39

Are you sure he didn't mean quirky? Perhaps it's a nudist wedding and that's what he sees as kink.

Honeybadger83 · 25/02/2015 23:02

Definitely more information needed. Kinky is such a subjective term; even within the BDSM scene, one man's kinky is another man's painfully dull vanilla.
I'm guessing that since you aren't entirely clear what to expect, the other friends lucky enough to be invited to this affair will be similarly in the dark, and it won't be a fetishistic free-for-all.

Sounds intriguing, though. Do let us know what they have planned.

oldcroneat39 · 25/02/2015 23:16

I thought collaring. But, surely that's a leap for someone with no whiff of silcone shine / leather wax about them?

Honeybadger83 · 26/02/2015 01:23

Collaring is usually a private ceremony, or shared with other kinksters who fully appreciate the significance.
Bit odd to invite a range of other friends who aren't into BDSM, especially without making it clear what they should expect, however liberal they might be.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 26/02/2015 02:38

I too think he's misused kinky meaning kookie. Or does have better sense of humour than you think Grin

BeCool · 26/02/2015 03:16

Oh I love MN wedding threads. Awaiting your update op.

Witchofthenorth · 26/02/2015 07:11

Shamelessly place marking I'm afraid...cannot wait to find out what "kinky" is here Grin

RebootYourEngine · 26/02/2015 07:18

Where is this being held? I would hate to be the person who has to clean up after all the kinkyness.

NeedABumChange · 26/02/2015 08:21

I think it's just going to be a bit quirky or have a couple of can can dancers.

LuisSuarezTeeth · 26/02/2015 09:39

I need to know. This is my first wedding thread!

ISolemnlySwearImUptoNoGood · 26/02/2015 09:46

Keys on the table everyone.....Grin

rumbelina · 26/02/2015 10:02

From what you've said I think he doesn't know what kinky means!

MrsHathaway · 26/02/2015 10:04

Look, pay attention: he said steampunk would be spot on, so he didn't misspeak.

There was a Victorian steampunk wedding on Don't Tell The Bride which looked quite good fun - LARPing about in the countryside with circus sideshow acts and lots to drink. But Granny wouldn't get it.

My money's on town hall / hotel dinner on day one, then fancy dress and blue jokes on day two. And I definitely want a day two invitation!

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ShadowsShadowsEverywhere · 26/02/2015 11:07

YY MrsHathaway If he's telling me to rock up to his wedding in a corset then I think he knows exactly what "kinky" means.
He was really irritatingly vague last night. Said that they were still finalising plans but that invitations would be going out in a few months so I'd "just have to be patient" grrr! So yeah, guess we will all just have to wait for more details!

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PeachyParisian · 26/02/2015 11:13

This is going to be good...

MrsHathaway · 26/02/2015 11:22

Can't wait!

By the way, why are we assuming "kinky" means BDSM at all, let alone full-on "scene"? Perhaps the bride and groom will be one half each of a My Little Pony.

LetThereBeCupcakes · 26/02/2015 11:28

Also shamelessly placemarking. I have no idea what BDSM is but am at work so will not be googling.

Is anybody else struggling to keep up with all of these wedding threads? Do you think MN would set up some sort of wedding calendar so we can keep track?

rumbelina · 26/02/2015 11:29

Oh sorry! Missed that he'd said you had to come in a corset!

uglyswan · 26/02/2015 11:29

Collaring? Blimey, I never get invited to anything fun! Can I be your plus one, OP? Pleeeaaase!!!!

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ShadowsShadowsEverywhere · 26/02/2015 11:47

Rumbelina he didn't say I HAD to come in a corset - I joked that my steampunk gear was the closest thing to "kinky" that I had and he said yeah that's spot on. My steampunk gear is a pretty much variations on boots, bustle skirt, corset, top hat and goggles. Hence the corset comment. There's been no mention of a dress code for guests but I think that hints that he will expect people to come in non conventional wedding attire. But like I said, he won't give me any more details until the invitations go out in a few months!

I still don't think it'll be collaring. If it were BDSM I think he'd have said BDSM rather than "kinky".

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oldcroneat39 · 26/02/2015 11:58

OP. Clearly he's not in charge. You need to up your game. Get really pally with that bride. MN needs you to do this Wink

oldcroneat39 · 26/02/2015 12:00

Reading that back Blush
ok. I mean clearly not in charge of the organisation process / simply not chatty enough. We need more details!