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to laugh at this second-hand wedding drama?

606 replies

kitchentableagain · 24/02/2015 14:03

It's second hand because it's actually happening to someone I know vaguely on FB who is in America.

She is getting married! And man, does everybody need to know about it! So far she's had:

An engagement shower (which seemed to be a party just for her thrown by her mother)

An engagement party (for the couple and potential invites to the wedding)

A wedding shower (same again?)

A bachelorette party (hen do)

Sent out save the dates (which I'd never heard of before her fb post about "looking out for them"), invitations, RSVP cards. And on and on.

Many many public dramas on the way, including rants about the fact that some people RSVP'd "sorry I can't attend" AFTER getting their save the date cards - she sent the save the dates SEVENTEEN MONTHS before the wedding. I'm sure most people had lost them by the time the correct year rolled around!

Anyway the wedding is this weekend (yay! An end to it all!). This week's FB drama is that people are cancelling last minute. She posted a screen grab of a text convo today though that has had me scraping my chin all day (my jaw is on the floor). It said:

Friend: Wanted to warn you hun, I won't be able to make it on Saturday. I'm so sorry. I'll call you tonight.
Bride: You know what, DON'T call me. You're the second to do this. So sick of selfish people wrecking my special day.
Friend: Mum died this morning.

Bride is on FB asking her friend list AIBU to think that "if her mum died on Monday then she could totally attend a wedding on Saturday".

Amazing.

And before anyone says it, yes I know I should unfollow/unfriend but I am shamefully addicted to this stuff... Blush

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Downtheroadfirstonleft · 26/02/2015 14:57

I'm going to renew my vows, So that I can have a bat ring bearer.....

LlamaLove · 26/02/2015 15:00

I dont reckon the bride has any actual friends! Everyone involved with this wedding is just humouring her! I bet a large percentage of the guests must surely be going for purely entertainment value - like us avdily following this thread.

Except they are the lucky ones! They get to see this whole debacle for real!! The lucky buggers!!

BeCool · 26/02/2015 15:02

So she object to the gift of the correct blender that was purchased from the wrong shop?

How does she even any have friends? I bet after her guests have drunk the wedding dry in 3 days time, she will be massively "unfriended" but of course Bridezilla won't mind as they are just all jealous of her awesome wedding and marvelous hubby, and besides she is far too busy and important being a Wife now to have time for, you know, tacky unmarried people anyway. :)

BeCool · 26/02/2015 15:04

She must be planning to return all the gifts on the register? Bet she has listed loads of stuff she already has, she'll secretly return all the gifts and take the cash.

BigBeads · 26/02/2015 15:12

I don't know BeCool, she sounds way too hard faced for such sophistication. She probably is just being a chav snob about where her gifts come from.

taxi4ballet · 26/02/2015 15:15

Oh my... there's the distant call of a Bridezilla - DH's side of the family - (wedding in a few months) and I've not taken all that much notice so far, but after all this perhaps it's time for me to start paying more attention...

From the little that has reached me so far it could be brewing up to be a goodun, so watch this space!!!

wednesdaysocks · 26/02/2015 15:16

I agree with Llama- she doesn't have friends, she has an audience. Everyone of those guests is probably waiting to see if she throws that blender at the stripper.

Bogeyface · 26/02/2015 15:36

She must be planning to return all the gifts on the register? Bet she has listed loads of stuff she already has, she'll secretly return all the gifts and take the cash.

That was my first thought too.

AcrossthePond55 · 26/02/2015 16:28

My DS1 was also a 'ring bear' for my BFF's wedding. He was V V V disappointed at the fact that he was not wearing a bear costume down the aisle. So, he contented himself with growling loudly at everyone during his walk down the aisle.

ILikeToClean · 26/02/2015 17:07

Just read this whole thread while I should be working and am nearly crying with laughter at this ridiculous woman! It's actually not funny though that someone can be so self entitled and really believe that the whole world revolves around her wedding! What a bitch!

But...op you must stay friended with her on FB so we can hear about the post wedding comedown, the pregnancy saga and most likely, the divorce! Then the second wedding planning...!

Momagain1 · 26/02/2015 17:28

Target is an everything sort of store, Wal-Mart for slightly more posh suburbs, jokingly pronounced as if French (tar-zhay) by those of us that shop there. Think of a tesco, combined with most of an Argos and half a Pri-mark plus a bit of hardware, gardening, stationary shops. Not a wide variety of anything, but enough to keep you from having the stop at more specialised stores. Which is v. useful if you have to get the kids in and out of the car at every stop. That gets old fast. Often a Starbucks at the front too. You can waste a lot of time and money, as you head in for one thing, like baby wipes, and then keep thinking you might as well get this, and that, and go look in the dept too.

I would say Target is Mumsnetty while Wal-Mart is Nethuns!

FatSwan · 26/02/2015 17:29

Good God.

This woman could have a job teaching blind orphans to read, and I'd still think she's the biggest bitch ever.

HistoriaTrixie · 26/02/2015 18:42

Yep, Target started out as a household goods and clothing store (with, IMO, waaaay better clothing than WalMart, which is horrid) with a pharmacy and recently has been expanding into SuperTargets which have grocery sections - mostly drygoods and chiller items - milk, dairy, frozen foods. I haven't been in one that has a full grocery in it with produce, a deli counter, butcher counter, etc. so I'm not sure if they've gone THAT grocery.

They're my favorite place to get socks from because they almost always have toe socks, which I love wearing around the house, because I'm goofy like that.

Thumbwitch · 26/02/2015 19:11

Target is in Australia too and does very little here in the way of groceries, far more in the clothes/ home/toys/ electronics (but not tvs or big stuff). Like the upstairs of 2 level Tesco stores, but without the tvs.

Thumbwitch · 26/02/2015 19:13

I love the Batman ring-bearer, and even more because he's got his kilt on under the cape!
I also remember the Frodo ring bearer, it was an absolutely lovely story, and the sister BM was just so thrilled - there was at least one photo shared, and it was so obvious that she was proud as anything!

WyldChyld · 26/02/2015 19:17

Christ, I love this.

I had two no shows at our wedding who DIDN'T EVEN TELL ME PERSONALLY. They sent a message with FIL - it was DH's aged aunt and uncle, because Auntie had been rushed to hospital. We nipped up to visit them before we went on honeymoon (and took her a wedge of cake and the pretty name tags / favours). She was THRILLED.

I put my bouquet on my grandfather's grave, because he helped to raise me and I adored him with every part of my soul. Ten years on and I still miss him more than I can say. I did it in private, just myself and DH, the day after the wedding and bawled my eyes out when I "introduced" DH to him as my husband

M00nUnit · 26/02/2015 19:25

Ah WhyldChyld that's lovely.

MeeWhoo · 26/02/2015 20:13

Re. The blender fiasco, in Spain we have a shop (John Lewis style) that gives you back a % of what is spent on your wedding gift list in store vouchers, maybe Target do the same?

WyldChyld · 26/02/2015 20:19

M00n - thank you. The bouquet had been planned for almost as long as we had planned the wedding as DH knew exactly how important he had been to me. I even bought a second (foam) bouquet to throw as I was paranoid of mine being damaged and I wanted it to be perfect to leave on his grave. I had so much damned fun I totally forgot to throw my second bouquet so gave that to DH's auntie as well (who was extraordinarily excited).

DH's auntie is a wonderful, lovely woman who, despite being in her 80s, was devastated that she bought a new handbag to dance around with "a sexy young friend of ours" and didn't get the chance. Her face when she got the little goodie bag made my day xD

MN seems to be very divided over expensive = bad, cheap = good. Ours was expensive and very large BUT it was exactly what we as a couple wanted (lots of food and wine, pretty location, little requirements for guests to do anything other than eat and drink haha!) I don't care what someone paid for their wedding as long as they loved it. Bridezillas like this, though, are just ridiculous. I look back at my wedding and grin! Who could live with that much stress?!

kellyscarlett · 26/02/2015 23:35

Ugh I'm dealing with it at the moment.
I'm so bloody unhappy.Arranging the hen party everything I suggest is apparently shit or too cheap (she's got no kids all of us have children etc so can't afford abroad)
I wouldn't care but I didn't even have a hen do I went for a meal with the lasses! Lol

SconeRhymesWithGone · 27/02/2015 00:12

Are you sure she's American, OP? Americans don't say "on offer." We would say "on sale."

Bogeyface · 27/02/2015 00:32

Scone I would guess that she is paraphrasing.

And it rhymes with cone btw Wink

SconeRhymesWithGone · 27/02/2015 00:53

So, OP, were you paraphrasing or did she say "on offer"? It's just that it would be an odd phrase for an American to use.

Thumbwitch · 27/02/2015 01:23

Agree with Bogey, on all points Grin

Bogeyface · 27/02/2015 01:26

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