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To cancel a party DD is going to because of bad behaviour?

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drivingmenutty · 21/02/2015 20:47

Throughout the week my DD has been misbehaving/general being defiant. I have told her at several points that she will not be allowed to go to her friends party if I have to tell her again - something I thought would ensure she was good!

Obviously now I've said it I feel it's important I follow it through, and her behaviour has been terrible today.

What do I do? Do I not allow her to go and what do I text the child's mum to tell them? I feel embarrassed. Would you be annoyed if someone cancelled coming to your child's party because their child had been naughty?

OP posts:
wigglylines · 21/02/2015 22:58

Oops! Before I posted, I edited my sentence above and have inadvertently deleted a couple of words so it puts all the blame on DP.

Totally accidental honest! Grin

I meant to say both DP and I were issuing stupid punishments in the spur of them moment.

SweetPeaSoup · 21/02/2015 23:07

I'm holding a party for my DC tomorrow - village hall type thing. If I get a message from a parent saying that their DC won't be attending because of a punishment, I would only really be upset on behalf of my DC if the child is someone they were particularly looking forward to seeing. To be honest though, since 15 parents haven't even had the courtesy to reply to the invites in the first place, I'd just be grateful to know whether or not your DC would be showing up!

IPityThePontipines · 21/02/2015 23:09

"To be honest though, since 15 parents haven't even had the courtesy to reply to the invites in the first place, I'd just be grateful to know whether or not your DC would be showing up!"

Grrrrr! It's just so rude! Why can't they just send a quick text, saying yes or no?

Shadow1986 · 21/02/2015 23:15

I personally would let her go to the party, more for the sake of the birthday girl who would be upset with people not turning up, and her parents who have organised and paid out money (I'm assuming - party bags etc). I would just tell your DD you've reconsidered the punishment and you've decided it wouldn't be fair on bday girl and her parents so instead you are taking away iPad/TV/etc for x amount of time.

mineofuselessinformation · 23/02/2015 21:46

So, OP, what did you do in the end???

saoirse31 · 23/02/2015 22:26

v rude to use some one else's party as punishment.Sounds like you need to think a bit more about how u manage behaviour.

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