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AIBU?

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MILs partner of 25 years threw a book at my 7 year old sons head in anger..

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Tulipsandclogs · 21/02/2015 15:12

Aibu to never ever want to see him again?

OP posts:

laracroft2001 · 21/02/2015 15:13

No.

RandomNPC · 21/02/2015 15:13

Nope. No excuse. Bin the fucker.

DustyGold · 21/02/2015 15:14

Mmm.. did it make contact?
Is your partner sorry?
Was it a paperback or a huge encyclopedia?
It depends on situation really....

Cheby · 21/02/2015 15:14

YANBU. That person would never be near my child again. Did you witness it?

DustyGold · 21/02/2015 15:15

Oh thought your partner...
MILs partner needs more thought.
How dare he...

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 21/02/2015 15:16

That's awful, he wouldn't be within spitting distance of me or my family after that.

DustyGold · 21/02/2015 15:16

Mind you my FIL smacked my ds hard when he was 3.
We still see the old bastard.
I never leave children with him though- ever....

DamnBamboo · 21/02/2015 15:18

Did it hit his head?
Either way YANBU.
What do your DP and you?rMIL have to say about this.

26Point2Miles · 21/02/2015 15:18

What happened?

HelenaVagBasket · 21/02/2015 15:19

Why does it matter if it made contact?? The intention was there.

DustyGold · 21/02/2015 15:21

Has he history of this behaviour?
How has situation been left?

DamnBamboo · 21/02/2015 15:21

Because if it did, then it becomes assault Helena

ifgrandmahadawilly · 21/02/2015 15:22

It's not great really but in 25 years, if he's never shown any other signs of aggression, maybe this was just a one off loss of temper?

Is he sorry? Does he realise it's unacceptable behaviour? How is your son doing?

TheSolitaryWanderer · 21/02/2015 15:22

I'd not see him again with my children, what did your husband say when you told him?
How is your DS, and what's his interpretation of what happened?

SorchaN · 21/02/2015 15:23

Yikes! He sounds like a dangerous person to be around.

diddl · 21/02/2015 15:23

YANBU.

If he'd thrown the book in a temper but not at somebody I could possible overlook that.

To deliberately throw at someone.

What is the intention behind that?

To hurt, humiliate?

What did MIL do?

FlyingPirate · 21/02/2015 15:25

Yanbu he would never be near my children again

frankie80 · 21/02/2015 15:26

You should report it, its assault, and on a child too

Pyjamaface · 21/02/2015 15:26

Nope.

FIL once made to smack DS, DP stopped him, we left the next day and haven't seen the drunken fucker him since.

We had already spoken to the ILs about FILs drinking around DS and he obviously preferred to carry on so no remorse from me

engeika · 21/02/2015 15:26

OP what is the story?

DamnBamboo · 21/02/2015 15:27

OP, you coming back?

SweetValentine · 21/02/2015 15:55

I'm always astonished how non-parents can fly off the handle. I mean, parents who live for months and years without respite coming to breaking point I can understand - but for someone else? Truly awful IMHO

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Tulipsandclogs · 21/02/2015 15:56

Sorry, troops just back from swimming with daddy. So..

Few days before Xmas, hubby and I had a very very rare night out so children have fun planned sleepover with grandma, happens at a push maybe 4 timesa year. We collect them the next day and on way home middle and youngest tell us papa threw a book at middle sons head, he cried because it hurt and ran upstairs to MIL. She came down took step grandfather off for a few words and made him apologise. The first thing I asked was 'did he accidentally throw the book' and they were adamant it was purposefully as they were being silly and didn't listen the first time when he had asked them to stop (7 & 6). Being as it was a couple of days before Xmas instead of returning and my husband committing a crime we left it until just after Boxing Day to talk to grandma when she called into our house. Poor hubby and her had a huge row (not in front of the kids) as she apologised and knew it was awful but then defended him.. We haven't seen him since but my MIL continues to see the children once a week, she collects them from school on a Thursday and brings them home and stops for an hour. She has never discussed it with me. She turned up last Tuesday I. The school playground with a birthday card from the kids for them to sign... Took my youngest to the zoo this Thursday, supposed to meet me with her at football training at 17:30, when I called as training was cancelled due to weather as to where they were, she had taken my daughter home to her house and he was there as he had finished work early. He has never made any atempt to speak to us. Quite frankly I have never ever trusted him.. But adore my MIL. He historically has looked at our children like he could murder them.. And he has a vodka issue, my eldest (9) once found some hidden in the wardrobe whilst playing hide, when he asked my mil about it she said she had bought it as a gift for him so was hiding it.. Sorry of this doesn't make sense, writing quickly while as I make a veggie soup! X

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EdSheeran · 21/02/2015 15:57

YANBU, was your son hurt?!

Kitsmummy · 21/02/2015 15:59

With that extra info you know you have to stop your kids from ever going to their house again right?

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