MILs partner of 25 years threw a book at my 7 year old sons head in anger..

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Aibu to never ever want to see him again?

I think that if they all have a good relationship then it is worth finding a way for her to see them.

Gosh he really is an awful person isn't he.

You really have to protect your children from him. It will be hard for your MIL but maybe it will make her sit up and realise what a horrible man she is living with.

Managed to get on for a minute.. My husband and I argued about her taking them out on Thursday, I didn't want them too and made our plans, hubby had a go at me and said "she's nearly 70, just let her take them out" But I knew what would happen and they'd end up at her house with him there. I wonder if she has even told him what's going on, he thinks all is ok.. Hubby is cross she took youngest to her house but that's it. Thinks it's going to start effecting us.. : (

How did you know that they would end up at hers on Thurs?

I thought that the weather caused that?

Could the all not have gone to the zoo/gone somewhere else/come to yours?

So, it's about protecting your kids, & not keeping them away from MIL.

So can she just come to yours if outings/football whatever fall through?

Can she be trusted to do that?

If not, can she just come round for a couple of evenings?

she asked my husband if she could take the children out for the day on thursday, he asked me to deal with it as he was busy with work and I said i didn't want them too, because I had a 'hunch' she would manipulate a way for them to see him (we had a little bicker about it) tbh I don't think her partner is bothered, its what she wants.. so she called first thing thursday morning, youngest answered they chatted and youngest insisted on going out with grandma, my two boys wanted to go swimming with cousins as planned and then had football training. so plan was she would take youngest to zoo then meet me and boys back at football training at half 5. We arrived at football training only to be told called off due to weather. The boys and I waited for 15 mins and she didn't arrive so i called her and she said "oh we are at mine as littlest wanted to come here and we planned on getting to football training for end of training at half 6. obviously my voice said it all and she met us back at our house within 30mins. she dropped off swiftly, and when i gently asked youngest was he there, she said yes "he came home from work early"
i feel so strongly about this, its all his fault but it will turn out to be mine as i won't budge, i can see it happening, even though i know my husband dislikes him and always has... hope that makes sense! x

Ah yes.

So she should have been at beginning of football training whatever, having been out with littlest one.

I was thinking that she had all of them & hadn't taken the ones to football iyswim.

It sounds as if she can't be trusted & should only see them at yours or somewhere with you.

I think that it must be hard for your husband to admit that his mum is doing something "wrong".

Nevertheless, it's about what's best for the children.

If all had gone to the zoo & ended up at hers with him there, who knows what might have happened!

they can't (imo) keep going there when he's there because another outburst could result in an injury.

I'm thinking that the kids don't like him or feel comfortable around him, so that's reason enough!

There can only be one answer if anyone tries to blame you, which is to ask if he/she wants the children to have another book (or worse) thrown at them.
And to say it won't happen again won't cut it.
Anyone who dared attack my child like that would either be reported to the police or have their arse kicked by myself.

Yes it will come down to what his mother wants or you want.

I still would have kicked his arse too! He assaulted your son!

No YAnbu! I would be fuming!!

Also think the fact he hadn't even tried to talk to us speaks volumes, no remorse what so ever, what is this kind of person?!

Taken on board all your thoughts, thanks for helping to reassure me I am not 'causing' this fall out, I know what will happen from now on.

Btw someone asked what kind of book it was which I hadn't thought it ask. I approached my little man whilst he was colouring with a handful of different size books, gently asked which one is most like the one he threw at you, he picked a hard back lemony snicket book, bless him he placed it onto the spot where it hit and then narrowed his eyes into an evil type look : (