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AIBU to think MN should ban grammar and spelling pedantry on all forums except the one explicitly for this purpose.
It is so F*cking tedious!

YANBU.

People who go about randomly correcting others' grammer, may be good at spelling but are rude little twats.

I imagine they are the sort of person who get angry very quickly.

In fairness, if a poster's SPAG is less than perfect then they would do well not to criticise the SPAG of others. People in glass houses?

mrsdevere when people pick at spelling/grammar on a thread. i always hope its themselves they are making look stupid.

But it isn't very intelligent to post solely about the OP's grammar in an insulting way is it?

Imagine if you went into a police station, lawyers office, Drs room etc and said something gramatically incorrect. Do you think these professional people would correct you? No they wouldn't because it isn't their place.

And it's not your place on Mumsnet either.

I think it's a compulsion. It's as if they have to comment on the incorrect grammar as soon as they see it. Maybe they think something bad will happen if they don't or something?

I wonder how many of us saw the thread last night and just didn't comment/left so as to avoid the inevitable bun fight?

I saw the thread last night, I knew exactly how it was going to go when I saw it in active convos. I wasn't surprised when I opened it

As long as I can understand a post, I really don't care if a comma is in the wrong place or someone used there instead of their.

As for text speak, no I don't use it. My phone autocorrects the life out of me, it's easier just to type it properly than argue with it. My teenager does. I got her to write me a list so I can decipher her texts. I get texts like "KK DW ILY"

What I mean is that when a poster has consistently immaculate spelling and grammar, then there may be a case for them to occasionally correct the spelling and grammar of others. The irony of a post correcting grammar which is itself grammatically inaccurate is not lost on me!

Not a single one of us on here is perfect. We all make mistakes - whether that is due to genuine error or lack of knowledge. My point is that no one is perfect, therefore no one has the right to assume the responsibility of "pulling up" the structure of the posts of others.

In terms of people taking things personally and needing to "calm down" - well, this community belongs to us all. If certain people begin to make it uncomfortable for people to post freely then it needs to be addressed. We are all equal, and not one of us has the right to effectively police what is posted.

I believe it was this one

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2311269-To-think-he-should-of-called-the-police

Sadly there are numerous other examples where the op's required help and support

Confused I'm assuming it's this one

I am heartened to see the responses on this thread.

When I see a post with an error I just know that one of the first replies will be from some twat correcting the error and totally ignoring the content of the post. I die a little bit inside at the predictability of it all. I always think that it says far more about the person criticising than it does about the OP who made the error.

They only do it because they can get away with it on a forum. In RL they'd be told to stop being a twat.

YANBU

You can't keep a note of all posters' grammatical errors in case they do it again. Unless that's what people actually do.

Wow, have just looked at that thread - the poor bloody op.

I hope the tedious nit pickers feel proud of themselves.

Who the fuck cares on a chat/support/advice forum, about grammar and spelling!

I think some MNetters have developed a bit of a in group identity around the notion of the "educated, literate" demographic MN has (had?). The "off you fuck to net mums" thing used to be an example of that. Don't see that so often now perhaps? Anyway, I tend to see the ill mannered correction of other posters as a misguided attempt to fit in. I like the idea of reporting as against the spirit of MN. I hope MNHQ acts on it.

i would have thought. where,were loose,lose and brought,bought. buy bye. their/there are all very common dyslexia mix ups. dyslexia gos deeper than that. but i would not be surprised if the posters was to say they had dyslexia

I feel really strongly that this has to be addressed.

Making people feel inferior, embarrassed, stupid is bullying. It has no place here on a website that is supposed to offer support.

You should of never of started this thread op. shove that on a spreadsheet

Belinda - report those posts to hq. If they get enough reports they will delete.

I've asked HQ for a comment.

Because I just popped over to see how my beloved Pedants' Corner was doing and there's some heehawing going on over there too today.

I've yellow carded them. They'll be on report next. twats

The trouble is that none of us knows what is going on in other posters' lives.

There was a time not so long ago that I resisted posting on MN because my mental health was so horrifically bad. Looking back, I needed support. I couldn't talk to anyone in RL. I was a shell. I couldn't even bring myself to respond to threads, let alone start them. With hindsight, I needed some support in any form more than ever.

Had I had the courage to post, and had I received reactions similar to those being discussed, I probably wouldn't be here. It was a bit touch and go as it was.

So when I see posters being pulled apart for spelling errors, or grammatical mistakes, or post structure, like Belinda, I die a little bit inside. Because it's not just commenting on the ability (or lack thereof) of the poster to post at what is deemed to be an acceptable level, but posters can actually be deeply hurt by such criticism.

Now, I'm not saying that we all need to be careful about what we post because it might adversely affect the professionally offended, but perhaps we should all just stop and think before posting something that could potentially be inflammatory.