WIBU to tell sil to F off?

[DoingTheBestICan]

Huge backstory to this but let's just say sil has always been the golden child, much favoured over dh, to the point that it has carried onto the gc.

I don't really want to go into the ways she has been favoured but let's just say she has had hundreds of thousands of pounds spent on her and her dc.

She had a birthday a couple of weeks ago and we texted her to wish her a happy birthday, she was out and about so we left her card with a relative who we knew she was due to see that day. We don't buy gifts for the adults, just the dc.

Just had a message off her telling us not to bother again, each year the card gets worse and she would rather we didn't bother. I'm a bit meh tbh, it was a nice card I thought with a nice verse inside with a thoughtful hand written message in it.

She's a proper spoilt diva and I can't be arsed with her fucking drama any longer. I would love to text back fuck off but dh says he's not going to respond.

Maybe we should have had her card hand delivered by turtle doves.

Maybe Janet and Roy should branch out into cheap & nasty birthday cards?

And I thought I had the SIL from Hell...

Quite like the Janet and Roy idea, and Dognado's suggestion.

Or you could take to sending her tacky postcards of everywhere you go.

Send her this next year

Pmsl at NoArmarni's card.

Your dh is right not to respond through. What a complete weirdo your SIL sounds.

I was really upset pissed off by a card sent to me by nephew and wife (who had clearly chosen it; he used to send rude ones) bearing in mind I've never met the wife.

So I just put it to one side. It would never ever occur to me to send an ungrateful message about it. At least they had bothered.

Dognados

I once got a birthday card from my nan saying 'congratulations on your wedding'. Didn't give a shit.

My dad and his OH have an in joke of sending each other random but inappropriate cards. I think he sent her a sympathy card on a major birthday.

You could have some fun with moonpig or similar next year.

My Dad once sent a card to my sister, on my Birthday. You reaps what you sow. I'd go with a very generic 'woohoo!', and use it as a wonderful reason for distance. She sounds rather speshul.

rise above it, you are more of a decent person than your sil will ever be, personally i would not sink to her level and send a text or anything else for that matter, i think your dh is right on this, all this shite will come round one day and bite her on the arris. people like her always get pay back one way or another.

I'd also just text back 'OK' and leave it at that! She wants drama, don't give in to it!!

Find one of those cards that has a 'pop-up' section inside and jam that bastard full of glitter before you close it. She opens the envelope, opens the card, and shower of glitter everywhere. Seriously, archaeologists will be finding it in a thousand years.

Just sign it "Because apparently the first card wasn't fancy enough...

Glitteringly yours,

BIL&SIL"

This one might be good for next year

I wouldn't acknowledge that text at all and just keep sending a card year after year (buy a job lot of exactly the same card) - preferably one of those black and white photo ones with old men gurning on it.

Or if I was feeling particularly mischievous I'd get one made online loudly proclaiming her age on it ( plus a few years)

Ugh, what a brat. I'd write back "okay" or just ignore totally.

Definitely ignore the text. That in itself will probably be mean enough.
Continue to send her birthday cards. If she mentions it in conversation just be vague 'oh that rings a bell'.
Re. The age thing to be especially mean just be a year or 2 out on her age. So much meaner

This is what you need!

Aww surely it wold be ok to text back "sorry how old are you?"

Who complains about a card?

We still haven't responded to her and we've had a discussion about it and agreed to ignore her, she will never get another card from us, the ungrateful little madam.

Nonono, you must send her a card every year, make it a game. find the horriblest, grimest or cheapest you can :)

Or even better, "forget" when her birthday is and send her them on a randomdate :D

Pity, I really like that 'spoilt little shit' one.

I mainly receive cards with cats on. Occasionally I'll get one with flowers and stuff which isn't me at all but I value the thought, time and effort more than the picture on the front.

'Can we stop the year after next? It was 2 for £1'
I genuinely laughed out loud to this. Thanks, Dognado

Where were you all when my BIL/SIL told me to F Off? SILs birthday is 2 days after our wedding anniversary, we usually take a few days off to celebrate our day. She got all upset and told BIL to contact his DB (my DH) and tell him that I was just so very horrible for not letting him come to her birthday party. The conversation ended with BIL shouting "just don't contact us ever gain."

Whilst delighted with that outcome we did send The Precious One an envelope the next year. Inside was a compliment slip that read: This card has been deleted at the recipients request.

Childish, and I have no idea what they made of it, but quite satisfying!