WIBU to tell sil to F off?

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Huge backstory to this but let's just say sil has always been the golden child, much favoured over dh, to the point that it has carried onto the gc.

I don't really want to go into the ways she has been favoured but let's just say she has had hundreds of thousands of pounds spent on her and her dc.

She had a birthday a couple of weeks ago and we texted her to wish her a happy birthday, she was out and about so we left her card with a relative who we knew she was due to see that day. We don't buy gifts for the adults, just the dc.

Just had a message off her telling us not to bother again, each year the card gets worse and she would rather we didn't bother. I'm a bit meh tbh, it was a nice card I thought with a nice verse inside with a thoughtful hand written message in it.

She's a proper spoilt diva and I can't be arsed with her fucking drama any longer. I would love to text back fuck off but dh says he's not going to respond.

Maybe we should have had her card hand delivered by turtle doves.

Send her this

Ok, so it's unanimous, I'm definitely not being ur, entitled little madam.

Wow! That is rude.

I would text 'lol!' Just to wind her up

I can just imagine the tiny tears to the ils about the horrible card she's had given to her, aw diddums

How about, 'I understand, no-one likes to be reminded of how old they're getting'

I'd just be lovely and reasonable. Tell her you'll make a donation in her name to a charity instead next year and you'll let her know which one.

A grateful dog has more worth than an ungrateful man

What a rude, ignorant cow

YANBU unless of course you sent one of those really old fashioned cards with fishing tackle, or a river scene with a boat on it, or possible a classic car. Every year i look forward to DP's aunts card for him plopping on the door mat, i didn;t know you could still buy them

I think this is one of those times where a passive aggressive response is absolutely required. I just can't think of one off the top of my head.

Something like "oh, did the 10k cheque fall out on the floor? oops! will donate it to charity next year" Nah, im sure someone will come along with a suitable reply. But you can't tell her to fuck off, its what she wants

It was honestly a nice card, it was pink and glittery, something that all princesses like surely?

She sounds rather unhinged.

I'm loving the "happy birthday CUNT" post lmao

If someone gave me that in a card, they would be my friend for life, for making me lol

I like the word "okay" and I would follow it with "whatever you want"

Do Fairenuff's idea!!
Pleeeeeeeeease???

Did she text you and not her brother? That deserves a fuck off as it assumes only those with vaginas deal with card writing!

At shipwrecked . I agree please text back lol

Just don't bother with her again. Birthdays or Christmas. Is she a spoilt teenager. I don't think I know any that bad. Text back 'no problem'.

How about replying with 'result'?

Or, 'is it an age thing?'

I'd go out off way to find the worst card I possibly can each year, maybe one with a spade with a robin perched on it or afloat cap and slippers and send her that.

She texted dh, she is in her 30s so old enough to know better.

Dh doesn't want to text back at all which suits me tbh. Bloody ungrateful cow

There are some brilliant responses here!!

No, she deserves one more card. Go NC for the year but on her birthday next year, get her a card with the age on the front. Her age plus 20 years. Maybe with a melty zombie with a princess crown on??

Another vote for "ok". Cool, calm indifference will definitely puss her off the most

Oh and if have it delivered on a signed for basis by the postman and make sure it had shitty cheap shiny paper and a stick on now attached. I think maybe I'd even put it in a cardboard box so it looked like an unexpected gift.!

Piss

"OMFG did I send you the wrong card? The one I sent was meant to say fuck you princess cunt face. So sorry, will send the right one next year".