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WIBU to tell sil to F off?

126 replies

DoingTheBestICan · 16/02/2015 18:44

Huge backstory to this but let's just say sil has always been the golden child, much favoured over dh, to the point that it has carried onto the gc.

I don't really want to go into the ways she has been favoured but let's just say she has had hundreds of thousands of pounds spent on her and her dc.

She had a birthday a couple of weeks ago and we texted her to wish her a happy birthday, she was out and about so we left her card with a relative who we knew she was due to see that day. We don't buy gifts for the adults, just the dc.

Just had a message off her telling us not to bother again, each year the card gets worse and she would rather we didn't bother. I'm a bit meh tbh, it was a nice card I thought with a nice verse inside with a thoughtful hand written message in it.

She's a proper spoilt diva and I can't be arsed with her fucking drama any longer. I would love to text back fuck off but dh says he's not going to respond.

Maybe we should have had her card hand delivered by turtle doves.

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MrsTedCrilly · 16/02/2015 20:38

I am constantly shocked at the rudeness of people I read about on here.. Shock Life is too short to have horrible people in your life. Back away slowly..

Dognado · 16/02/2015 20:39

'Can we stop the year after next? It was 2 for £1'

NK5BM3 · 16/02/2015 20:43

Ahem.. We might actually have the same sil!

We sent a birthday card to dh's brothers wife and we received a phone call from the brother saying 'er.. Emma didn't quite like the card -
She thought it wasn't really her...' (It was pink and glittery too). And said something about how disappointed she was that we didn't know her enough...
Shock

woowoo22 · 16/02/2015 20:44

What fucking planet do these people live on????????

woowoo22 · 16/02/2015 20:44

irate at card rejection. Fuck her!

ILovePud · 16/02/2015 20:44

Dognado Grin

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DoingTheBestICan · 16/02/2015 20:45

OMG! There are two of them??

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witchwhoknitssocks · 16/02/2015 20:47

You may find something suitable here Smile
www.filthysentiments.co.uk

FryOneFatManic · 16/02/2015 20:48

I wonder about people sometimes. If you receive a card, you simply thank the person even if the card is not to your liking. Not complain about the card! Be grateful someone cared enough to send one.

Aladyinsane · 16/02/2015 20:51

Text 'did you men to be so rude?' In true MN style!

MaccaPaccaismyNemesis · 16/02/2015 20:51

I'd send another card next year and 'forget' to put a stamp on it. A trip to the post office and having to pay to receive the card might teach her a lesson!

NK5BM3 · 16/02/2015 20:53

Yes op. She has managed to get the whole family right up against her. No mean feat. Grin Amazing stuff. I await her cards. My birthday is just before hers so if she sends one then I'll send one.

Dh sent one to her via moonpig once and forgot to change the name on the front (happy birthday Dave... Change Dave...). It was hilarious only coz dh is v much capable of such mess ups (total accident). The brother rang to 'chastise' dh but was sniggering away as he thought it was funny. The wife was vv upset.

So following year, sent the same card. Changed the name!!

Oldraver · 16/02/2015 20:56

I would make sure I sent her the cheapest tackiest card each year

How you have nor responded with 'you are an ungrateful, spoilt cunt of a diva' I dont know....

qazxc · 16/02/2015 20:58

I think your dh is right, don't feed into her drama. It must be driving her mad that there is no response.

Reenskar · 16/02/2015 21:14

Dognado's suggestion gets my vote. Grin

Failing that, perhaps consider sending her an anonymous glitterbomb...?

www.glitterbombs.co.uk

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WIBU to tell sil to F off?
TheChandler · 16/02/2015 21:16

Oh wow! So rude! I'm afraid I do simply tell people if I find them very, very rude.

Could she be the SIL version of the Mylene Klass mothers, who are repelled by the risk of being given a gift (their children) might not like that much?

ChangeYouFucker · 16/02/2015 21:16

Chortling away at some I these responses.

Dignified silence, yes. But please do make an effort to send the shitest card ever next year. One of those really big padded cards that comes in a box.

FuckYouKatieHopkins · 16/02/2015 21:20

What she wanted was you falling over yourselves to apologise and stroke her ego with how much you honestly do love her even if you're so inept at buying good cards.

Ignore her. It will drive her insane to have no response.

And then she may text again asking if you'd got the last one and you can update here and keep us all amused for longer!

If she does ask, just say "no, why? What did it say?" all innocently like and wait for round two....

JudgeJudyKicksAss · 16/02/2015 21:33

YY to Dognados response, its the perfect hilarious put down.

Please please please Grin

ghostinthecanvas · 16/02/2015 21:35

Omg. The fun you can have rooting about for shit cards. Every time you find a good one, just write 'saw this and thought of you'. Every single time. We could help? Grin Crown for your princess

Lambzig · 16/02/2015 21:47

God how staggeringly rude. Unfortunately I do think no response is right, but I would love to send some of the responses here.

Every flipping year my father and step-mother send me a card with shoes on it. Every year for the past twenty. Because i am the daughter so I must love shoes, like all women. I do sigh because it's so not me, but am still very grateful to get the card.

ILovePud · 16/02/2015 22:02

Lambzig You surely must have a grudging admiration for anyone who for twenty years has sourced that many cards with shoes on them. At the risk of outing myself my aunty once got me a hideous shoe ornament as a gift, I'm not sure why but over the years it has grown into a family joke that people buy me shoe related tat but even I haven't had that many shoe cards.

BiscuitMillionaire · 16/02/2015 22:05

Text back 'Tell the charm school you want your money back'.

GraysAnalogy · 16/02/2015 22:07

Again, it's times like this I could swap places with OP's and do things my own way.

I would ask her if she was joking and suggest she shove it where the sun doesn't shine.

pluCaChange · 16/02/2015 22:12

"What a pity" is a nicely faux-sorrowful response.