to not thank DH when he does the laundry?

[lottytheladybird]

My DS does the laundry once a week or two, just when he has time. I don't always thank him, as I do 95% of the lanudry in our house (with a 2 & 4 year old), and he rarely thanks me when I do the laundry. I don't mind that he doesn't thank me. I don't expect a thank you, but DS doesn't like it if he doesn't get a thank you when he does the laundry. But then why should he get a thank you when he does it, but not when I do it? AIBU not to feel like thanking him?

I don't think it can be a one off as OP seems to be treating it as a normal reaction to his 'stress'.

We all get stressed. It just means that sometimes we feel under pressure or overloaded or tired or any other emotion that we are not able to cope with at the time.

But there are ways of dealing with stress that do not involve aggression.

I think he uses 'stress' as an excuse to get his own way.

And because it works, he will continue to do so.

I would have told him 'If that is how you are going to behave because you had to iron a shirt, you can do all your own shirts from now on and make sure that you plan well in advance so that you don't get stressed over it'.

That would be a reasonable reaction to his aggression.