Thanks aeroflot, ohforfox solidgoldbrass
babynamechange so sorry you've been through that too. I felt too that I was being abused again.
To be honest I think it is a really twisted system that permits women with a verifiable history of dv from an ex partner (e.g convictions) is then set up to be vilified by the opposing side by twisting the evidence to deny that it ever took place or to question the mental state or sanity of the woman because the law says that dv must be taken into 'account' by the court when considering child contact which in a twisted way means the opposing side has to down play and dismiss it.
It shouldn't have happened like this. I had shed loads of evidence and he was convicted ffs. If someone has been convicted for a crime and / or there are loads of evidence it should not be possible for the perpetrator to then claim it did not happen or to villify the victim in another court. It's like setting the legal system against itself as well as being morally repugnant.
I wish Gatorade something could be done or that this would be more widely known.
I try to shrink my ex mentally in my head solidgoldbrass - at handovers I avoid eye contact but am brightly polite and in my head just thinking 'you're a dick' all the time.PS thank you a long time ago you wrote some supportive stuff on an old thread when I was considering leaving. The support on that thread gave me the strength to leave and it was the best decision I have ever made for me and my child.