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school nurse letter

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devonshiredumpling · 14/02/2015 18:42

got a letter this morning rom the schoolnurse service to say that after being weighed my dd has been catergorised as severely overweight. we also got a leaflet saying that her diet could be better (she has at least seven portion of friut and veg) we also need to increase her activity level but since moving to the country we cannot get her out of the garden and off her bike ,she is tall for her age at 122.8 cm and she weighs 29.9kg but you cannot see any fat on her she is five .any help would be good aibu to feel peeved about this (she is five and half)

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Pipbin · 14/02/2015 23:51

What about when your dc is older and getting sexual health education?

And what about PE lessons. They promote health too.

I do understand watching to be with you DC when having an injection as that can be upsetting for the child. I find standing on a set of scales upsetting but for a different reason.

SuburbanRhonda · 14/02/2015 23:53

Liking someone is not the same as trusting them, jane.

So there is one at the surgery they don't like?

But this nurse they don't like is in the GP surgery! How can that possibly be?

OwlinaTree · 14/02/2015 23:53

pipbin Grin

CaptainHolt · 14/02/2015 23:53

There aren't any immunisations between about YR and Y9, hardly enough time to build up a personal relationship of trust. My dcs wouldn't recognise either the school nurse or the GP nurse if you handed her to them on a tray and ds1 is at the Drs loads for his varying health needs.

Pipbin · 14/02/2015 23:54

So when your DC broke his arm would it have been ok for them to call an ambulance and get them treated at school.

I wonder if the school thought 'better call his mum as she is funny about mixing education and health care.

SuburbanRhonda · 14/02/2015 23:56

Quite, pipbin.

I work in a school and if jane was one of our parents, no way would I carry out any kind of care for her children unless I had everything in writing beforehand.

Janethegirl · 14/02/2015 23:56

You lot are choosing not to understand my point of view. Your choice but I'm fed up explaining my reasoning.
I repeat my dc get educated in a school of my choice, they get health care from the local GP practice. Healthcare and schooling are not permitted to cross over IMO, and that is it.
You don't like it? And I don't care Grin

Janethegirl · 14/02/2015 23:58

Rhonda rest assured, you would have everything in writing Grin

OwlinaTree · 14/02/2015 23:59

We understand your point of view. We just wonder why you are choosing to make a point about something that doesn't really exist.

SuburbanRhonda · 14/02/2015 23:59

And I thank the Flying Spaghetti Monster that you are not one of our parents.

Janethegirl · 15/02/2015 00:01

Rhonda and I thank the fuck you dont work in my dcs schools

DarylDixonsDarlin · 15/02/2015 00:01

Did you give consent to the school, to take your dc to a and e with a broken arm, jane?

Anyway OP, my DD weighs 20kg and is very nearly 6. I don't know off hand how tall she is, but she's on the shorter side of average. She sometimes looks tubby, so I am surprised that your DD doesn't look overweight.

sleeponeday · 15/02/2015 00:01

I think education is to educate, GPs are to provide a Health service. Why do they need to meet?

Because your kids are not the only ones on the planet, and not all parents will trot to the GP to get their kids vaccinated or checked out as conscientiously as you claim to. Why should children who don't have parents as on the ball as others lose out in health terms any more than they are already likely to do?

And there is also the fact that many (most?) parents appreciate vaccinations and basic health checks being carried out on school premises by NHS staff, because it spares them the need to take time off work for essential provision, and as taxpayers it also saves the NHS a packet to vax and check hearing/weight etc for an entire year in one go than it does to manage a bunch of parents individually over various weeks and months.

You don't want the school to carry out checks. Fine, you've said no. But given not one person here agrees with you, and they have as much right to concern themselves with their children's wellbeing as you do your own, your statement that schools and education should not mix is both dogmatic and dictatorial. Why should other parents have their preferences overruled by you? When your only argument seems to be geographic?

I do hope you don't plan to remove your kids from biology and personal development. Health is taught in those.

Pipbin · 15/02/2015 00:02

The thing is that your 'reasoning' is flawed.
Do what you want with your children I couldn't give a damn.
How did you want the school to take your DC to the hospital? In one of the teachers cars? Like Rhonda, I wouldn't have risked it. I think I would have called an ambulance though.

Janethegirl · 15/02/2015 00:03

My dcs choose the subjects they do not want to be taught in conjunction with their parents

bumbleymummy · 15/02/2015 00:03

Well this took a strange turn! Grin Does Jane think it's the teachers weighing and measuring the pupils or something?

zoemaguire · 15/02/2015 00:05

You've been told about 50 times that it has nothing to do with the school, that it is nhs staff using school premises. You have decided that the same health professional cannot carry out the same procedure because one set of 4 walls is called a surgery and one is called a school. That is not reasoning, that is idiocy.

Janethegirl · 15/02/2015 00:05

No the school couldn't be arsed to take Ds to A&E. Dd picked up Ds and met me at A&e. So much for the school being a caring entity!!

Pipbin · 15/02/2015 00:05

So what if the zombie apocalypse had actually started but it was far enough away that they could get the vaccine to your child's school? What then?

SallySolomon · 15/02/2015 00:06

Sorry, but I'm another one who's saying that nearly 30kg is very heavy for a 5 year old. My now 11 year old (12 this year) hit approximately 30 kg last year when he was just 10 and on a quick google is slap bang in the middle of where he should be for his height and age,
My nearly 8 year old who eats like a horse and all day long if you'd let him still isn't that heavy.
Sometimes it's not always WHAT they're eating, but portion control as well. Give relevant sized portions to age, and plenty of exercise.

sleeponeday · 15/02/2015 00:07

My dcs choose the subjects they do not want to be taught in conjunction with their parents

If your ability to consider dissenting perspectives is indcated by posts here then I can imagine how those conversations might go.

Only1scoop · 15/02/2015 00:08

But Jane why on earth would school be 'arsed' to take your dc to hospital?

After all they are only there to educate not for medical service and you would hate the 'two to cross'

Janethegirl · 15/02/2015 00:08

No. School is school. Health checks are GPs province. And I do not agree with health checks being carried out in school. I positively refused all health and dental checks for my dcs.

SuburbanRhonda · 15/02/2015 00:09

Do you speak to the school staff in the same way you post on here, jane?

If so, that explains a lot.

CaptainHolt · 15/02/2015 00:09

How do you expect your likeable GP nurse to assess your child's height and weight measurements without any statistics to refer to? Or is it OK for other children to take part in the weighing and measuring programme in school, so the nurse can use the charts in the GPs. Sounds like mixing to me...