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school nurse letter

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devonshiredumpling · 14/02/2015 18:42

got a letter this morning rom the schoolnurse service to say that after being weighed my dd has been catergorised as severely overweight. we also got a leaflet saying that her diet could be better (she has at least seven portion of friut and veg) we also need to increase her activity level but since moving to the country we cannot get her out of the garden and off her bike ,she is tall for her age at 122.8 cm and she weighs 29.9kg but you cannot see any fat on her she is five .any help would be good aibu to feel peeved about this (she is five and half)

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ColdTeaAgain · 14/02/2015 23:19

Oh god forbid that we allow schools to play a role in keeping an eye on children's health! Awareness of a healthy lifestyle is part of education and is just as necessary for the parents as it is for the children in a lot of cases.

OP if you are still reading this, you need to go through your child's diet with a fine tooth comb. Sometimes a seemingly healthy diet contains a shocking amount of sugar which I suspect is the likely cause of her being overweight. Cereal/ snack bars, fruit juice, bread... All can contain a lot of sugar. If your DD is as active as you describe then a few dietary changes should be enough to bring her weight back down to a healthy level.

3luckystars · 14/02/2015 23:19

Amentessuntamentes, what were you eating that was 3000 calories I would love to know! Sounds like something out the elvis cookbook and I want some of that.

To the op, that's not a nice thing to read so it's understandable that you are upset, but if there is any truth to it at all then it's better you know now and can change things. Good luck.

minionmadess · 14/02/2015 23:20

A mum at our primary went to the local paper slagging the school off when she received one of these letters for her ds.

They asked the Head for a reply and she looked pretty stupid when he told them that the school was merely used as the venue for NHS staff to carry out the checks. The ideal place to catch lots of children at the same time.

He also made it pretty clear with a reply on the school website along with a reminder to parents to contact school if they needed clarification on any matter. Quite right too.

Bunbaker · 14/02/2015 23:20

I'm an arse Grin

That's the first time anyone on MN has called me that!

fattymcfatfat · 14/02/2015 23:21

jane I worry for you. you seem ro think that it is the school that does these checks and not the nhs, even though you have been told otherwise by numerous posters.

fattymcfatfat · 14/02/2015 23:22

why are you calling names? no need for it jane

Janethegirl · 14/02/2015 23:24

No Rhonda I'm not lying. My dd had to drive her db to A&E where I work with a broken arm as the school was being an arse. I met him in A&E and it was a very obvious break.
IMO schools are shit with this sort of stuff cos they are meant to put it on the accident register particularly when it happened during rugby.

OwlinaTree · 14/02/2015 23:24

School couldn't be arsed to take him to A&E? Are you sure about that? More likely they waited for a parent to attend to take him first? Schools are allowed to take children but children normally prefer a parent to take them.

You seen to have a chip on your shoulder about something here, I'm not sure what part of the NHS using the school as a facility bothers you so much. The alternative would be everybody taking their child to a place, then all the children would be out of school etc, or going to every child's house. Far easier to use the school as a convenient base.

Schools are there primarily to educate, but it's a state run institution, and must cooperate with the state. Another example of this is being used for polling.

Bunbaker · 14/02/2015 23:26

If they didn't record the accident the school was negligent. I'm not sure schools are obliged to take pupils to hospital if a parent or guardian or other responsible adult is available.

SuburbanRhonda · 14/02/2015 23:26

Oh, the school's an arse now, is it?

Still don't beileve you.

ladygracie · 14/02/2015 23:26

All accidents have to be recorded jane regardless of who took him to A&E. And if your dd took him straight to A&E then they would have had to report it to someone (RIDDOR I think?) anyway. What an odd attitude.

OwlinaTree · 14/02/2015 23:28

Sorry, x post there Jane with first part of the post. We'll have to take your word for it.

Rest of the post stands tho.

ladygracie · 14/02/2015 23:28

I wish I'd read owlina's post first. And I've known staff take children to A&E before but, as mentioned, it is much nicer and more comforting for children to be taken by a family member. And sometimes it's family plus staff member. It all depends.

Janethegirl · 14/02/2015 23:29

No i was not impressed with the school system and I think health should be done by GPs not the school. None of my dc had any health involvement with the schools as I did not permit it.

Not weighing, not vaccinations , nothing as schools are for education and they can't even deliver that satisfactory!!

zoemaguire · 14/02/2015 23:30

Jane, so let me get this straight, you only agree to use a service if it has its own totally dedicated, exclusive premises? So no home visits from doctors, i take it. And if you live near me, no midwife visits either, as they are based in children's centres! Do you refuse paramedic treatment too on the grounds that pavements are for walking on not for receiving lifesaving treatment after an accident? Wow, that is certainly an, er, interesting path you tread there...

SuburbanRhonda · 14/02/2015 23:30

To anyone trying to get through to jane, don't bother.

I've been trying for three pages and its obvious she has her own version of reality as far as schools and their responsibilities for children's health and wellbeing is concerned.

SuburbanRhonda · 14/02/2015 23:31

Vaccinations are not done in school, jane.

Can you at least accept that?

Bunbaker · 14/02/2015 23:32

She is living in a parallel universe where the NHS has unlimited resources and GPs have plenty of time to offer individual health checks for children.

treaclesoda · 14/02/2015 23:32

I had vaccinations carried out in school. Do they not do that any more?

Janethegirl · 14/02/2015 23:33

I think education is to educate, GPs are to provide a Health service. Why do they need to meet?

SuburbanRhonda · 14/02/2015 23:33

Except the HPV in secondaries Blush.

I think I can guess your view about that, jane.

OwlinaTree · 14/02/2015 23:33

Yeah, I'm bowing out now jane You are just deliberately refusing to accept the fact. No one is arguing whether this is right or wrong, but the fact remains that it is not the school doing the health checks,is just providing the venue.

Also you should change your child's school, you don't seem very happy with the one they attend.

SuburbanRhonda · 14/02/2015 23:34

You're just not listening, are you, jane?

Bunbaker · 14/02/2015 23:34

SuburbanRhonda the HPV and the 3-in-1 booster are carried out at school i years 8 and 9 in our LEA.

Janethegirl · 14/02/2015 23:34

rhonda vaccinations were offered in my Dcs school but I didn't want them.