To let my 15 year-old take alcohol to a party?

[SorchaN]

My daughter has been invited to a school friend's 16th birthday party. She wants to take a few small bottles of cider - nothing extreme.

I have a relaxed attitude to alcohol and I let my kids have the occasional glass of wine with dinner etc. I have no idea of her friend's parents' attitude to alcohol.

My daughter claims that other friends are taking alcohol to the party. She's a responsible person and I don't think she'd do anything stupid, but I'm concerned about what will happen if the friend's mother isn't expecting an evening of teenage drinking...

I think it might be reasonable for my daughter to take a small amount of cider, as I wouldn't mind if it were my house, and I was drinking sensibly at 15. But I'd really like to know what other parents think about it.

The fact she's discussing it with you is a good sign and shows she's being responsible.

Those who say their teens aren't drinking are you sure? My Mum would have said the same thing when I was a teenager when actually we were wasted every single weekend. We didn't lie about it as such, we never discussed it.

I'd say a sensible conversation and a couple of bottles of cider are far preferable.

Am somewhat surprised at the rate of unacceptable disbelief, by that i simply mean so your precious son or daughter is never going to lie to you, no mummy i don't drink am 15 go out to Gatherings but no one drinks or snogs or does exactly what teenagers do, and have done so forever and will continue to do so. Hmm lets be honest with ourselves people. We need to understand that all we can do is teach our children talk and explain, and trust them, to a point. When they are off on their own we can only hope they will do the right thing, based on their teachings and previous experiences.

@Witmond this thread is 5 years old so luckily OP’s kid is now old enough to buy their own booze...

Let’s hope so 😁

I think things have changed massively in the last 20 years. I am 36 and I had a big 16th birthday party. My parents bought beer because they’d rather supply and know what people were drinking. Friends still turned up with vodka and some got hideously drunk. I don’t think that would be the done thing now. And it’s odd. Because in my head I still feel 17 in some ways, and I think I’d rather take your view and encourage moderate, sensible drinking and supply so I know what my daughter is drinking. But I also think views have changed a lot and it’s become a lot less acceptable. Which in some ways is good actually......

When I say I don’t think it’s the done thing, I mean parents supplying beer at a party....

Ffs. Zombie thread