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Original poster

to be pissed off with Valentine's bouquet

62 replies

OllyBJolly · 13/02/2015 13:37

First AIBU but angry!

Just got a bouquet of flowers delivered from DH despite me saying every year not to do anything. I hate all this manipulation by the media to make people spend money for what is often substandard products and service. By all means spend the money, but on different things and at a different time and get much better value.

Anyway, it's a big bouquet of roses and gerberas. The flowers are bit tired and droopy. The foliage is bruised - the uppermost frond of the fern is completely torn and damaged. I would guess the cost to be around £35 - £50 to included the delivery fee. If it's still displayable by the end of the weekend I'll be surprised. I currently have a £3 bunch of hyacinths and tulips from Lidl on my windowsill which looks much better (and has been there for a week!).

Am I just being a grumpy drawers? I can't bring myself to text a thank you.

(of course there's always the possibility he specified the worst bunch in the shop because I am a moody menopausal midden)

OP posts:
thegreylady · 13/02/2015 13:38

Of course you should text Thank you to the poor bloke !

Cookiecake · 13/02/2015 13:42

Yes Ofc you should thank him. I know it might not be what you'd choose to spend that money on and maybe it isn't the best looking bouquet you've seen but it's the thought that counts. I'm sure a lot of people would love to get something like that so I think YABU. However I do think rubbish flowers like that are over priced at valentines so YANBU to think that it's a waste of money and the flowers aren't very good quality.

DamnBamboo · 13/02/2015 13:42

How bloody rude are you!

MrsTawdry · 13/02/2015 13:42

YABU. How rude you sound. However you SHOULD call and complain abot the state of the flowers. They rely on people being too polite to complain about a gift of flowers but FAR too many arrive in a mess and nobody moans. COmplain and be kinder about your DH's efforts.

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MaCosta · 13/02/2015 13:44

You really don't deserve the flowers at all. I don't particularly like cut flowers but its the thought behind the flowers not what the flowers are like that is important.

PandasRock · 13/02/2015 13:45

Deffo say thanks to dh. I always tell dh not to waste money on overpriced flowers for Valentines, but they do cheer the place up and I always thank him when they arrive.

Bt also complain about the flowers to company. Yes, it's a busy time, but no excuse for substandard produce.

Jackiebrambles · 13/02/2015 13:45

Poor bloke!

Although its a day early isn't it? Maybe it was cheaper to get them delivered on Friday 13th! :)

Endler32 · 13/02/2015 13:45

Next year ask him to send them too me instead ( my dh won't buy me any unless he sees them on offer at the petrol station ), you sound very ungrateful.

londonrach · 13/02/2015 13:46

Poor guy. Just thank him!

Justmuddlingalong · 13/02/2015 13:47

Shock Your poor DH, thistles and stinging nettles instead of roses and gerberas sounds more apt.

TheRealMaryMillington · 13/02/2015 13:47

oh god, I totally understand (and agree) but please don't be joyless about it.

Behindthepaintedgarden · 13/02/2015 13:47

Oh go on. Text him and say you're delighted. He meant well.

PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 13/02/2015 13:48

You got flowers - oh my word! LTB. There is no excuse for that.

Rosieliveson · 13/02/2015 13:48

I think you should definitely say thank you. It could be worth a photo and complaint to the florist though!

holidaysarenice · 13/02/2015 13:48

If they are damage ring up and complain especially since he has overpaid for them!!

WastingMyYoungYears · 13/02/2015 13:49

I can see your point OP - I feel similarly about spending lots of £ on cut flowers at any time of year Grin. They're so expensive, then they just sit there looking worse and worse until, hurray!, you get to chuck them away at last. And you'd told your DH how you feel about it, so you're not being unreasonable to expect him to remember.

I often feel alone in this view Grin. And I'm hoping for chocolates and a Kindle voucher later Smile.

Shlurpbop · 13/02/2015 13:49

Wow. Your poor DH. Send the flowers to me instead if they're offending you that much!
Angry

Seriouslyffs · 13/02/2015 13:49

You can grump and sulk and be a joyless cow about it- then they've definitely been a waste of money or you can text him thank you and have a lovely weekend.
Not a difficult choice.

Bluepants · 13/02/2015 13:50

I don't know.

On the one hand, it appears he's thought of you, tried and should be thanked.

On the other hand, I'd want to chop my DH's bollocks off if he spent £35-£50 on flowers.

I agree it's a horrible pressure on people to spent lots of money on shite. I did buy a £1 pack of valentines chocs but they were for me and dc to scoff Grin and didn't break the bank. I bought dh something not valentine-ish and on sale all year round for £2.

Original poster
OllyBJolly · 13/02/2015 13:53

Just to be clear - I'm not angry at DH, but at the florists. I hate bad service - and they think they get away with it because nobody complains.

My DH is especially lovely, and would have arranged for today because there won't be anyone in tomorrow. I'm actually quite angry on his behalf because he is as tight as a drum is as keen on value for money as I am.

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mumofthemonsters808 · 13/02/2015 13:55

You are right about the cost, my DN has ordered Roses for his girlfriend for tomorrow and they are £55. IF you are unhappy about the quality of the flowers ring the florist and complain.ITs not just about the flowers though, it's the surprise element of opening the door and accepting the delivery. The nearest I get is taking in flowers for my neighbour, so if I was you I'd be pleased that my OH parted with his well earned cash and sent them with the best intentions.

PandasRock · 13/02/2015 13:55

Well, complain to the florists and thank dh. Job done.

I hate the way prices are hiked up and quality goes down this time of year. I've bought dh a fruit tree for the garden, but as yet there is no sign of it turning up...

TSSDNCOP · 13/02/2015 13:55

Photograph the flowers and call the florist to complain.

Then, take the flowers out the vase and put a couple of drops of bleach in the clean water.

Gerbera will pick right up.

Take sharp scissors to the top of the foliage and clip it out.

No,you shouldn't have to but at least it won't make you as angry to look at them.

And say Thank You.