to be pissed off with Valentine's bouquet

[OllyBJolly]

First AIBU but angry!

Just got a bouquet of flowers delivered from DH despite me saying every year not to do anything. I hate all this manipulation by the media to make people spend money for what is often substandard products and service. By all means spend the money, but on different things and at a different time and get much better value.

Anyway, it's a big bouquet of roses and gerberas. The flowers are bit tired and droopy. The foliage is bruised - the uppermost frond of the fern is completely torn and damaged. I would guess the cost to be around £35 - £50 to included the delivery fee. If it's still displayable by the end of the weekend I'll be surprised. I currently have a £3 bunch of hyacinths and tulips from Lidl on my windowsill which looks much better (and has been there for a week!).

Am I just being a grumpy drawers? I can't bring myself to text a thank you.

(of course there's always the possibility he specified the worst bunch in the shop because I am a moody menopausal midden)

My DH knows not to buy me flowers unless they are from Jane Packer or similar because like you I think they are overpriced and die. It is ungrateful I know but DH knows that I don't like them so doesn't buy them. Simple.

Bollocks to all that "It's the thought that counts". What thought.

If your DH wants to please you why would he do something that you've told him many times you don't want.

It's thoughtless not thoughtful. It's lazy. Some cheap ones for you OP

I assume OP knows what company delivered the flowers? I'd take your frustration out on them complain away but I agree you need to thank hubby.

YABU. My boyfriend of five years left me 2 weeks ago and at the moment I'd sell my soul to have someone care enough about me to send me flowers.

I don't know why people think flowers are a thoughtful gift. I can't think of anything that less thought has gone into choosing. They're so generic.

I thought I was alone in not liking flowers but I see from this thread that I'm not. I find them a faff and a bother and then they slowly wilt in their mildewy water and then you have to cram them in the bin and sluice away the slime. I just don't get it. Luckily, no one buys me flowers very much.

I get so angry when flowers that my husband has lovingly ordered turn up half dead, I thank my husband but would deffo phone the florist and complain,I have now convinced my husband not to send anymore, instead every week in the summer he buys me a bunch of flowers that someone locally sells from their garden , 75p and they are beautiful

FFS. Thank him for the flowers but have him complain to the idiots who sent an unacceptable product. Is it so difficult??

Complain loud and clear to the shameless florists that do this. Take photos and send them next to the product picture your DH was sold.

But do thank him nicely, he meant to please you. Next year steer him in another direction.

Of course you should bloody thank him!!! By all means complain to the florist but what has your oh done wrong. He has done something really sweet and nice for you.

YANBU.

He could've spent the money buying you something you actually liked and wanted, but no- you got a crappy bunch of flowers instead. What's to like?

I'd be a bit underwhelmed too.