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To just say "fuck it" and go live in a cave.

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Sn00p4d · 13/02/2015 00:41

I'm 39 weeks pregnant with a baby that was diagnosed with a fatal birth defect three weeks ago, she's got a 50/50 chance of survival. When born she'll be whipped away, put in an induced coma & on life support until they run a fuck tonne of tests. If she lasts the week they'll do a corrective surgery, again which carries huge risks, and thus continues her life in a stream of hospital appointments, tests and tubes for as long as we get to keep her.

I'm being induced in a few days and I just don't want to do it. I'm fine in my bubble where I can kid on this isn't happening. I can't do it. I'm not strong enough.

Realistically I do know that keeping her in there til she's 21 would be frowned upon, I know I don't have a choice in the matter, just had to get that out and vent somewhere!

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thatsucks · 21/02/2015 09:33

I'm thinking of you and hoping so much that things continue to look positive.

Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful girl - how lucky she is to have a mum who loves and cares for her so much Thanks

LuluJakey1 · 21/02/2015 10:05

That is good news. Take one day at a time. The very best of luck to your little girl.

laughingmyarseoff · 21/02/2015 17:43

That's fantastic news OP, congratulations.

MumToFourCats · 21/02/2015 18:44

My heart goes out to you OP. So sorry and wish I could do more than pray for you and your family. Flowers

MumToFourCats · 21/02/2015 18:45

Just read on - sorry - take each day one at a time. Thinking of you. xx

aquashiv · 21/02/2015 18:57

Sn00p4d am choked reading your Op and update.

Am sure soon you and your girl shall be in a cave together smiling.

Fluffyears · 21/02/2015 20:12

Keep fighting little sn00p. She's determined by the sounds of it so let's hope she keeps it upFlowers my thoughts are with you both.

BuzzardBird · 21/02/2015 20:19

Best of luck to you all Thanks

MagpieCursedTea · 21/02/2015 20:20

So glad to hear she's doing well, congratulations to you and your family Thanks

Houseworkavoider · 21/02/2015 20:24

So pleased to read your update.
Congratulations and best wishes Flowers

TheGirlWhoPlayedWithFire · 21/02/2015 20:25

Flowers congratulations on the birth of your little daughter.

Will be thinking of you and her, and hope that her surgery goes well and she recovers soon.

bumbleymummy · 21/02/2015 20:38

Hope your DDs surgery goes well. Thinking of you Thanks

HeisenbergsBlueMeth · 21/02/2015 20:46

Congratulations, keep us updated on baby's progress, hope the surgery goes as smooth as possible

EdSheeran · 21/02/2015 20:51

Congratulation on the birth of your lovely little girl. Flowers Wishing her all the best of luck with her surgery.

wtffgs · 21/02/2015 21:14

You have every right to vent. I don't
have adequate words but hope you will find enough strength somehow Brew

wtffgs · 21/02/2015 22:02

The app didn't update properly Hmm

OP congratulations on your lovely daughter and every wish for her, you and your family ThanksThanksThanks

FeelTheNoise · 22/02/2015 15:33

Thank you for updating us, am absolutely rooting for your brave little DD!

Original poster
Sn00p4d · 28/02/2015 10:31

Just a wee update, she had her surgery on Tuesday and it was successful, she's since been weaned off the ventilator and started breathing on her own last night and even managed her first bf as she's been using a feeding tube so she's doing brilliant, fully expecting bad days at some point but at the moment she's jst a wee medical marvel Grin

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dreamingon · 28/02/2015 10:53

That such a lovely update. Miracles do happen, sending love to you and your family and continuing miracles x

Coconutty · 28/02/2015 10:59

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tilliebob · 28/02/2015 11:01

That's such a fab thing to read this morning OP - hope she goes from strength to strength Thanks

cardiandcrocs · 28/02/2015 11:03

Oh that's wonderful!

Thanks so much for updating us. You've made my day Flowers

vdbfamily · 28/02/2015 11:19

only just seen this thread and it was such a rollercoaster of emotions to read throiugh but so delighted for you that she is doing so well. Babies are so incredibly tough really. Hope she goes from strength to strength and wishing you strength and peace as you continue to cope with the situation.x

SnakeyMcBadass · 28/02/2015 11:27

So glad I read this to the end! Keep strong, babysnoop! Flowers

Koalafications · 28/02/2015 11:28

Brilliant, OP.

Such an amazing outcome Smile