To think this girl on the bus was beyond rude and selfish

[Behindthepaintedgarden]

I was on the bus this morning going to work. The bus was crowded with people standing. I stood up to give a heavily pregnant woman my seat and a girl of about 20 plonked herself down immediately. I said 'sorry, I was actually standing up so that lady could sit down' pointing to the pregnant woman. The girl just shrugged her shoulders and remained sitting. Short of making a scene there was nothing I could do. Someone else stood up for the pregnant woman and I remained standing while madam made herself comfy in the seat that had been mine.

AIBU to still want to strangle the selfish brat?

Pretty rude, poor form really

Having said that some people on this thread are absolutely fucking batshit. Only just starting to calm down about it hours after it happened like she assaulted you, people saying they'd drag her out the seat?! Can't decide between get a hobby and seek professional help on that one.

This happened to me and it became apparent that the sear stealer didn't speak English and didn't realise the seat was being given up for someone pregnant.

So rude! I saw a bloke on the train once lunge forward and black off a seat using his umbrella from a woman who went to sit down and was practically arse on seat!

I have an invisible disability and I wouldn't dream of doing that - the seat wasn't offered to her - I don't expect anyone to stand up for me as there is no way they could know - the only difference is if I was having a bad day I wouldn't personally stand up for someone that I normally would i.e frail and elderly or pregnant. When I was heavily pregnant (and invisibly disabled - MN bingo) most people would look the other way - basically if you cannot manage without a seat you're best not to get public transport at peak times.

She was rude whatever her situation.

She sounds incredibly rude, even if she did have a disability to be honest. It would take nothing but manners to explain why she was sitting down if she had a good reason. The only possibility I can think of is that she didn't speak English so had no idea what you'd said or what she'd done wrong.

Given that twice in the last few months, I've seen people get up to offer seats to vulnerable people, others grab the seats and then verbally abuse anyone remonstrating with them has given me a rather low threshold of 'maybe they have their own problems' tolerance. Sadly the world of transport seems to be overfull of selfish, thoughtless people.

Blimey, I sound like the Daily Mail.

Sadly, my DD might do something like that because she would just see that someone had got up and she wouldn't make the connection that it was for someone else.
She might also shrug because that is her default, nervous response to an angry face.
She has moderate, bordering on severe LD and only really understands parts of what's being said to her.
All that said, although she's 16, she wouldn't be on a bus without a chaperone.

This reminds me of when I used to work in London in my early 20's. Very hot day, I was sitting towards the far end of a closed carriage and noticed a heavily pregnant woman get on, as did most of the other standing passengers. All sitting passengers buried their heads in their books (nothing wrong with that of course) so I gestured to her and mouthed "would you like my seat?" - she nodded gratefully and started to move towards me. I gathered my stuff and stood up and immediately a guy who had been standing up, glanced at her, and made a beeline, tripping over my feet to get into my seat, pretty much before my arse had excited it.

Being hot and very bothered I struggled to ask very calmly what he was doing, and that I was giving my seat up for the very heavily pregnant woman. He sneered and said "I got here first" - unfortunately I lost my temper immediately, took a deep breath and yelled at the top of my voice to get the fuck out of the seat and then attempted to pull him off it (I was young and impetuous). I think a young woman yelling at him and trying to pull him off his seat like I used to do to my kid brother frightened him enough for him to get up, call me batshit crazy, and get off the tube. Especially when people started applauding. Pregnant woman got her seat, I almost barfed with adrenaline.

I wouldn't dream of doing that now (pulling him off the seat), but I would have no hesitation in verbally shaming them. His only disability was that he was a lazy, rude fucker.

Wish I had an arse that would excite something... or anything

Ha, I just realised my spelling error - sadly the only thing my arse excites these days, is the area where it slides into my thighs. I used to have an arse like a peach. Now I strongly believe that my OBGYN ventoused the fat out of my butt cheeks when he was pulling my second born out.

stroke that's what I would have wanted to do too, I would never have the nerve though!

Also could result in the police being called as well...

Pointless comment but I'm did at almost barfed with adrenaline.

Same thing happened to me about a week before I gave birth. I was like the Hindenburg by then, so it was pretty obvious (and wearing a suit/with briefcasebriefcase, so had been at work all day) that I was pregnant.

Chances are she wasn't disabled, pregnant, grieving for her cat who was run over that morning, etc. She was middle aged woman, with a couple of shopping bags and no bloody manners.

I've seen this (and similar) loads in London, and I'm sure they can't all be unfortunate to have unforseen ailments (like the suspiciously high % of luxury cars with blue badges around here).

I was absolutely fine, thankfully had a 'blooming' pregnancy and didn't have far to go. It was very very hot though.

The man opposite me caught my eye and pulled a 'wtf???' face, and we both giggled like loons until I got off.